I'm gonna be super real and honest with you. If there is no gun held to your temple, I don't think you are truly forced to do something. You just choose to follow the stream because it is familiar and saying no feels scary. But choosing to conform because you are a coward is not the same as being forced.
Women are just as responsible for their roles in upholding the patriarchy as men are. They should not be given a pass by talking about how they were just "brainwashed" or conditioned into their beliefs.
Men and women have both been handed a belief system about EVERYTHING, including our roles in society and the ways we ought to treat each other, and once you're an adult you're 100% responsible for unpacking and unlearning all harmful programming and making good decisions. If you're not responsible, you're not a grown-up. To hold men accountable for this and to give women a pass is to say that men are sovereign, intelligent beings with free will, capable of reason and making a choice between good and evil, and women are not. It reduces women to status of robots with no free will, who are slaves to their programming, or to the status of mental children. It puts women on a level BENEATH men. We hold adults responsible for their actions. It's children who we point to and say, "They don't know any better, they're just doing what they've been told. Give them a break."
You know all these harmful patriarchal attitudes we waffle on about all day, like the idea that women should wear makeup and shave or that females are inferior to males? When you see a post with a thousand comments by women telling a girl she's ugly and needs to begin "looksmaxxing," you're seeing that self-hatred abusively being instilled into another young woman in real time...by women. It's happening right in front of you. It OFTEN comes from other women; THIS is how it's perpetuated!
Or when you hear about boy moms who abuse their daughters while favoring their sons, setting that girl up with a sense of low-self worth that she'll be looking to balance her whole life (probably with manipulative men or self-harming behaviors), you're seeing the message that "𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘦" inflicted on one of your sisters - BY A WOMAN! Quite aggressively too, I might add!
If you saw a person abusing a child or beating a dog with a stick, you wouldn't tell yourself, "Well, they've probably just been taught to do that" or "Well, this OTHER group hurts kids and beats dogs far more often so, I guess I'll let this one slide," would you?
Hold abusers and agents of the patriarchy accountable wherever and whenever you see them. Shut it down. If you're against all this shit, act on it when you see it. No matter what individual you're standing against in any given moment, when you push back against these messages you're standing FOR women and against the patriarchy.
A lack of sexual discipline is present in both women and men. Women mistakenly believe that their sexuality is more virtuous because men are more openly degenerate. Both sexes are after social validation and physical release in their pursuit of bodies. “Making love” isn’t any less selfish and degrading. This world is a perverts playground, both men and women have made it that way. Watch the gender divide disappear when a woman speaks of sexually abstaining indefinitely. Men and women, regardless of orientation will unite to shame her.
why is privacy so eroded. I get treated like a nutcase if I say no, I don't want strange companies taking pictures of my home and putting them online for maps or whatever. I don't want to be in the background of your tiktok, and I think it's weirder for you to assume I'm okay with it than it is for me to politely ask you to refilm it so my face isn't in the frame. I don't enjoy handing my employer a list of every online account I have and feeling under surveillance when I'm just shit posting or sharing pictures of my cats or garden harvest. I don't want to hear your private calls on speaker on the bus, esp when the person on the line doesn't know you're broadcasting their words to strangers. I don't want an algorithm guessing what will piss me off the most so I spend more time online, engaging with shit I don't want to see or hear out of outrage. I don't want any of this. it's total ass.
i usually tell people openly that i don't like people. i don't like socializing. i get as much as i can handle just going into work
people are... stupid monkeys. sometimes. you know they types.
people who have always been bigoted and never questioned it. people who could do better with their ignorance but don't. and the worse kind: people who know they're wrong and continue to do it out of pleasure.
people take out their insecurities on one another all the time. in so many different ways.
and look at our planet.
jesus fucking christ come get these people.
still: there are others that give me hope. i know there are good people in the world. and also know that many people used to be bigoted but aren't anymore. people who are working on themselves every day, like me
you have to pick your battles and also put them in perspective
i COULD go off on anyone who said anything offensive or something i wasn't sure about. i COULD pick a fight with every ignorant person and prove them wrong. make them feel like the stupid monkey they are.
or.. i could let them hang themselves. i could let karma find them. i could go off on them at a later date after they've proven to me they're truly a piece of shit not worth respecting
that is the least they deserve.
ofc i would rather such people be separated. it would just make everything so much easier to pull these people out and put them somewhere they can be sexist and racist to their heart's content...
but alas.
what gets me about the radfems on here with boyfriends/husbands/children is they had to deliberately let everyone know that. they could've easily just not mentioned it and we wouldn't have been none the wiser but nope. they couldn't help themselves and had to not make a personal blog but specifically post on their radfem blog about how they don't even remotely practice what they preach. yet do think they're so much smarter and more aware than all the normie women with male partners and kids. they don't just date and marry men- they make a point of thinking they're superior than women who dont.
Right? But these women have been pushed into het relationships their whole life and have had them rewarded and encouraged, so when some women do NOT do that, they're taken aback. Like when a kid goes to school and realizes that the world doesn't revolve around them like at home.
“yall never criticize men like this” says radfem… here’s the thing. women DO criticize men for their behavior, men don’t listen, why waste time on men? when a woman is catering to men (i.e the female singers that are very much catering to men and the patriarchy chappell roan and sabrina carpenter and sooo many more), as a woman, im not gonna sit back and allow them to make us all look like doormats. SORRY. im not gonna sit back and watch them reinforce stupid stereotypes onto little girls and women. it’s not in my nature, it’s not who i am. that weak bullshit is why we’re always gonna be where we’re at. we need to address problems , just because it’s a woman doesn’t mean that it’s feminist to just shut up and call her a victim. some of u need to go back to ur little libfem spaces and stfu.
THE SYSTEM PICKS THOSE WHO ARE NO THREAT TO IT