I've Never Had A TC Account But As Someone That Was In The Community For 3ish Years,,, Here Are Some

I've never had a TC account but as someone that was in the community for 3ish years,,, here are some things I'd like to share after now being about 4 months out of highschool

-If you see those posts about watching out for red flags, how older men shouldn't be friends with teenage girls and how they should Definitely never persue relationships with them and your first thought is "not me, I'm just mature for my age, it's fine if I do it and I can handle myself" I was you for years. As soon as things start to get iffy, get out fast. Grooming is very real, and a lot of older people do use their power positions to manipulate younger people. You could very well have a healthy, mentor like relationship with your TC, but know where the lines are and when they're being crossed.

-it is completely normal for younger people to take an interest in older people, especially ones in power positions over them. It is the adult's job to never entertain that idea. (Not that you should Ever persue a much older adult as a minor though, you do have some responsibility but victims of grooming are victims and are more than valid)

-Learn! The! Signs! Of! Grooming!! If you are ever uncomfortable or feel as though you're being perceived by your TC in a way that makes you uncomfortable or just not feel right, don't brush it off. Set your boundaries and avoid that situation as much as possible after boundaries are crossed.

-It's okay to feel uncomfortable. I know a lot of people on here talk about how much they would love more or a certain type of attention from their TC, but if you're in that spot, don't let anyone make you think you have to be grateful for it, even and especially if it makes you feel wrong/uncomfortable/violated in any type of way

-I'll add more if I think of anything else, and feel free to comment anything along these lines I missed. More than anything, keep yourself safe. Your health and safety come before anything else, even their job or reputation if it gets to that point. Whatever you're feeling IS valid.

My asks and DMs are always open for anyone that needs it. I hate that I have to look back at highschool and have it laced with memories that now make me feel sick to my stomach knowing those moments weren't what I thought they were and it's hard to not have anyone to talk to about it because no one knew, but that also means I have no room to judge or blame anyone in the same spot. Just stay safe guys ❣️