So yesterday I was watching this video whereby this content creator was speaking about how we should stop bringing the energy of decisions into making choices. She spoke about how people can't even make a simple choice because they are so focused the importance of it because their mind focuses on whether they are making the right or wrong decision. ββ
She gave an example of how you can make a choice to attend an event but after experiencing it you then make the decision to leave cause maybe it was boring.
So in order to decide, first make a choice, have the experience and make a decision.
So google says when making a choice we are given the freedom to explore alternatives and choose what will make us happy whereas when making a decision, we are presented with options whose outcomes have been predetermined. Choice connects us to our desired intentions, values and beliefs whereas decisions are connected to places of behaviour, performances and consequences.
I remember when I was still in primary, during athletics season - we had all these different activities that we could try. So we had a choice in choosing what activities to try but at the end of the day you had to make a decision as to which one you would join.
Obviously you make that decision after having experienced all the activities. So by making the decision, you now already know the predetermined outcome which is you coming to practice high jump or sprints for as long as you're part of the team.ππ½
So with choices it's more experimental and with decisions it gets serious. So the point is stop bring that serious energy into something that's supposed to be a fun experience. Think of making a choice as tasting and making a decision as eating. π½οΈππ
One of my favourite pastimes is cloud gazing.
I like to think of thoughts as clouds. Some clouds are fleeting, they hardly in a static position for long. Some clouds are small while others are large. Other times those small-sized clouds bunch up together to form a large cloud. And those large clouds bunch up together to form a super cloud which eventually brings down a thunderstorm. βοΈ
Some clouds are so blended in with the sky that it looks like they are not there at all. And then there are times when there are no clouds at all. Where do they even go? Probably wherever they came from.π¨
Like how clouds are sometimes visitors to the clear blue sky, our thoughts are visitors to our clear minds. Sometimes those thoughts come through and they mean nothing at all & we easily let them go.
But other times they mean so much that they summon more & more thoughts, to the point where they bring about a storm of anger and despair. π‘
Just like how you make peace with the storm that's brought about by the clouds in the sky, just breathe & let your thoughts be rather than emotionally react to them. The sooner you let be, they sooner they leave. π
There are times when I want to apologize to my body.
Times when I choose to eat sweet and dry foods knowing they aren't good for my digestive system.
Times when I add another spoonful of sugar in my tea because it just doesn't taste sweet enough.
The times when I react and don't take the time to tune into my body and feel if I really want to eat something rather than eating just because everyone around me is eating.
There are times when I want to apologize to my body.
The times when I postpone my exercise because I don't feel like it even though it feels great when I move my body.
The times when I skip my daily walk even though I enjoy the smell of pine trees I pass along the way.
The times when I choose to listen to an additional podcast episode fully knowing in that moment my body just wants silence and stillness.
The times when I entertain the negative thoughts when there are ten other positive things I could focus on.
The times when I can choose to sit outside and listen to the birds rather than doomscroll on the socials.
There are times when I want to apologize to my body but I don't because what's the point of an apology without changed behaviour.
I am tired of wanting to apologize to my body because now I want to show my body it can trust me the way I've always trusted it.
I am tired of wanting to apologize to my body because now I am deciding to not be that person anymore.
I want to show my body I can be a good steward of this beautiful vessel.
Ever found yourself in a situation where there is absolutely nothing you can do to change a situation. Like you have exhausted all the possibilities you can think of and still come to nothing and all you can do is overthink.
Overthinking about how the situation will pan out. How that situation will leave you stranded. How you are so uncertain that your mind is all over the place.
And when you are in that situation, you can't do anything, let alone think properly.
In my experience, what I've come to find out is that the best think you can do is acknowledge where you are. Acknowledge that you don't know what to do. Acknowledge that there is nothing you can do, like you have no control over the situation and make peace with that.
Sometimes we overthinking because of the uncertain future ahead of us. Overthinking helps us stay in control even if we aren't really in control.
Don't focus too much on what might or might not happen. Bring yourself back to the present moment and away from your mind. You can only focus on this current moment as that is all you're in control of. Once you're here - trust that it will all work out and everything is going to be okay. It's just a hurdle - and you've been through a lot of hurdles in your life even though they were difficult, so what's one more, right?
No amount of thinking can change the outcome of a situation. So save that energy for something peaceful, that fear and anxiety is not worth it. You are going to be okay.β€οΈπ
Ever been in one of those situations where everyone around you knows their dream or passion or what they want to do with their lives except you? Yeah, I've been there and at most times when I was asked what I wanted to be, at 13 I had said journalist because because I liked writing. I liked writing children's stories but saying that just sounded cringe so I opted for something formal like journalism. Then at 15, I had said being an accountant because my teacher had suggested so since I was good at it. And so when I got to uni I registered for accounting. Then one year in I decided to change my major to information systems since it seemed more bearable than accounting. Fast forward to 2021 I no longer liked or enjoyed Information systems. Call it burnout or depression but continuing that path got so heavy to the point where my body even pained.
And so after graduation I had decided to take a "gap year". That's what I told my parents it was but deep down I had no idea what I was doing anymore or what I was gonna do. So for the rest of 2022 I would just chill at home and read books - fiction and nonfiction alike. Something to pass time until one day I started asking myself questions as to what I am even doing here on Earth.
Which led to searching on purpose, passions, dreams, spirituality etc. And somewhere along the journey I might have found my passion. Something that excites me, something I really enjoy learning about. And that something has to do with self growth, personal development, health & wellness. The more I learn about it, the more I wanna know. Would I say this is my dream? To be honest, I don't know but it's something I'm currently passionate about right now and I thought I could share what I find interesting about it and how it has helped me get out of a rut. So yeah, that's kinda the point of this blog. #purpose #passion #lost #health&wellness #firstpost
It's not the time passing that you should be worried about but what you choose to do with that time and who you choose to be.
Something I heard this week:
It is not the thing we want that's going to bring us happiness. After we get the thing and we are no longer wanting- that's what brings us happiness. "The No Longer Wanting of it."
So once you no longer want something you are content and in that contentness there is happiness. π»
You can't out-think fear you can only out-act it. One step at a time, one fear at a time and eventually, that situation will no longer scare you. And through that action you build the confidence of being able to face whatever fear that might show up.
One thing I've been insecure about for most of my life is my tummy. My fat tummy. Cause that's what it is - fat.
Most of the time, I suck it in to the point where people even compliment me on my "flat" stomach and in my head I'll be like "if only you knew"
Anyway, today I took a visit to the doctor and I was seated in the reception area, across from me sat a girl around me age wearing a crop top. That crop top was revealing her stomach. Her fat stomach but she wasn't even bothered at all. For her, it was completely normal.
And because of that experience I've began to fully accept this part of me. The stomach I don't see as nice. I've decided to accept my stomach for what it is.
I've decided to appreciate my stomach for all the digesting and detoxing that it has done for me.
I'm slowly learning to love my stomach by looking in the mirror and hugging it and also speaking positive affirmations and being grateful that I am healthy because of it.
Lately I've been thinking about how language can sometimes be a curse - from the words we speak, even though these words have their own meanings, most of us don't even know how they came about but we just use them because that's the tool that is available to us.
Let's not even mention how words are sometimes so misused that they eventually mean nothing, especially when people don't even mean what they say.
I guess every tool has its advantages and disadvantages. I now understand why they say 'silence is divine' because it truly is. There is no misunderstanding or lies construed in silence - it just is. It's so pure, it can't be marred by lies, manipulations or ulterior motives. What a blessing silence is.
How comforting it is to be standing in your kitchen chopping vegetables for dinner
Oh, how peaceful it is to be in the warm ambience of your kitchen while chopping onions as the rice is boiling
The feeling of contentness as you are slicing up the carrots for a salad
As the flavourful smell of chicken stew wafts up in the air
The smile etching on your face as you hear the sound of the oven alarm chiming, alerting you that the roast beetroot is ready
Listening to the sound of the kettle boiling as you prepare to dish up for supper.
Ah! The joys of cooking a meal on a Sunday evening.
Finding the wisdom in each experience,βοΈ learning from the past, πͺΉsharing my wisdom,π seeing things from a higher perspective.πΈπΈπΈ
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