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How I imagine all the girls responding when I infodump about Lord of the Rings

Field of moody green clovers ♡

Jim Henson trying out the Big Bossmen Muppet oustide of his Home.

Did some ds9 memes because we all deserve it

A part of being an adult is living with regret and not allowing it to consume you. The older you get, the more mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve missed, people you’ve disappointed. And every day you have to remind yourself to be kind and forgiving of yourself. You accept and love the you from the past and understand that it’s all a part of the process. Then you move on and live your best life, knowing now as old as you feel today, you’ll never be this young again.

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'Bear with me' by Thomas Theodor Heine, 1901

I think I have finally slowly internalised the fact that motivation is a feeling, an emotion just like any other. It comes and goes as it please.

And well my study schedule cannot change to adjust to my bouts of motivation.

The key for me, I realised, was discipline.

Yes it’s hard and sucky and I hate it. But I do it anyway. Because if I don’t, the regret that I feel later on makes me hate myself. And I fear that regret so much.

So for me its a choice - I can either suffer the pain of discipline or I can suffer the pain of regret. And if I’m going to be in pain anyway, why the heck should I not gain something out of it?

So I sit down to study.

Sure I also add things that will make it easy for me to do that. Because I, I love studying. Once I start, I really really enjoy the subjects I have chosen and the concepts I understand.

But for me the really hard part is sitting down to study. So I work on that…

1. I just sit down. On time. With a schedule that I follow everyday so that I exert less mental strength trying to convince myself. I just know its time for me to study if I follow my schedule.

2. I am all about the little things, all about feeling good and in control. So I do that. I make a big and aesthetic affair out of sitting down to study. I prepare myself a snack and get myself something to drink and set my study area and books - I create a visual setup that makes me want to study.

3. I limit how many times I get up. I know people say attention span is short and we should use the pomodoro technique, but personally speaking it just does not work for me. I find it hard to get in the study zone but really easy to stay once I am there and concentration and so taking many breaks actually really distracts me and take me out of my study zone. So I take less breaks and I make sure I already have everything I need with me before I sit down to study so that I do not have to get up for them.

4. I make the process fun for me. I know my way of studying, my strengths and my weaknesses. So I use them to my advantage. I am a very conceptual learner, I am a visual learner, I am prefer to write things down to slow myself and understand, I prefer my study material in my own language and my own way of explaining, I am a very organised person. I am very bad at memorising random facts that have no logic. So I incorporate all these in my notes - I make my notes very organised and aesthetic notes that help me memorise. I add diagrams and flowcharts of my explanations. I use mnemonics that relate to me and are easy for me to remember (they are usually jokes that make people thing I have a very broken sense of humour).

5. I do not study in groups. I know again this is very controversial specially for med school but when I am understanding a new topic, I find the presence of people around me very distracting. I prefer to study in my room by myself. On the other hand, once I have studied the topic, I benefit from group discussions. I sit down with my friends and make them understand the topic… this helps them and it helps me. Teaching someone else is a very good way of revising for me and their questions make me think and understand parts I may have missed while studying.

6. I plan what I am going to study the next day, the might before. I put my pen on the first page of the topic or chapter or whatever and shut the book. This way I know I simply have to open my book and get down to study because everything else has been done before. It’s almost like I get rid of my possible excuses before hand.

I feel sitting down and understanding your way of studying is important for this very reason. So that you can make your plan and study accordingly. It decreases so much resistance and makes you so sure of your ways.

"How do you get everything you want " is such a good question because no its not manifesting or attracting or feminine pussy power energy femme Fatale dark femininity whatever. It's because I learned how to ask.

A raise? Meeting w the boss it is. That cool airbnb that's not in my budget but I want? K we call the owner /manager. Event but no tickets? Who am I calling? An assignment that I want assigned to someone else? Let's have lunch together. Hell one time I got an entire plane ticket from someone at the airport and opera ticket from someone outside the opera.

I get what I want because i have the power of negotiation and communication

And I don't mean finesse, I don't curve people that's a real fast way to set yourself up for failure, if they don't catch you karma will. Life does not favor liars, I don't manipulate. I lay it on the table as it is. I want that assignment. What do I have to do to get it. Will I one up you? Probably. Will I do whatever is in my best interests? Of course. One thing I won't do though is lie or blindside. This is what I want. What needs to be done.

Ladies Everything, every single thing you get in life will be handed to you by another human being. Your house your car your job your marriage your kids. Everything. Every single thing you have you've been provided for by a person. Save the oxygen in your lungs. Hell even your genetics came from someone.

Power, real power is in communication and negotiation. No amount of loa and manifesting and pussy power feminine energy femme Fatale dark femininity whatever mumbo jumbo will save you from that. Eventually you'll get it from someone. Learn to talk to people. If you have to take communication classes do it. If you have to exposure therapy DBT do it. If you need a coach get one. If you have to read all the negotiation books do it.

Success, all forms of it, is completely dependent on your ability to effectively communicate and negotiate. Everything else is supplementary.

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