A Part Of Being An Adult Is Living With Regret And Not Allowing It To Consume You. The Older You Get,

Jim Henson trying out the Big Bossmen Muppet oustide of his Home.

Holiday road trip, Car Wars style (Autoduel Quarterly, V7 N4, "Winter 2039" = January 1990, Steve Jackson Games; art in this issue was credited to Joel Mullins, Jason Waltrip, and John Waltrip, though last picture is signed Porter R Wood)

Dear May,

please be full of amazing energy, positive vibes, calm and peaceful situations, happy moments and loving people! ꙳ ⋆ 𓏸𓈒 xoxo

how to regulate ur emotions໒꒱ ‧₊˚💗

emotional intelligence is arguably the most important thing that u can learn. self control will SAVE you even when ur dealing with an emotion. im going to go thru emotions and how to regulate them;

(remember feelings r passing sensations thru ur body, feelings are NEVER forever nothing is)

anger - pause until ur able to think clearly so that u can respond RATIONALLY instead of reacting.

overwhelmed - write down what u need to get done, in ur notes app or on a piece of paper, complete each task one at a time in order of importance

insecure - work on appreciating urself, tell urself that u are more than enough and give urself credit for it

rejection - acknowledge that the feeling sucks but don’t let it consume u. rejection=redirection

discourage - be kind to urself and remind urself of why you are trying. use that as ur strength

anxiety - focus on the present moment and take deep breaths to regulate the nervous system

*Girls Just Wanna Have Fun playing in the background*

Meme reference below cut

“The West Door of Moria” by Darrel K. Sweet (1981)

he has a flower for you!

I think I have finally slowly internalised the fact that motivation is a feeling, an emotion just like any other. It comes and goes as it please.

And well my study schedule cannot change to adjust to my bouts of motivation.

The key for me, I realised, was discipline.

Yes it’s hard and sucky and I hate it. But I do it anyway. Because if I don’t, the regret that I feel later on makes me hate myself. And I fear that regret so much.

So for me its a choice - I can either suffer the pain of discipline or I can suffer the pain of regret. And if I’m going to be in pain anyway, why the heck should I not gain something out of it?

So I sit down to study.

Sure I also add things that will make it easy for me to do that. Because I, I love studying. Once I start, I really really enjoy the subjects I have chosen and the concepts I understand.

But for me the really hard part is sitting down to study. So I work on that…

1. I just sit down. On time. With a schedule that I follow everyday so that I exert less mental strength trying to convince myself. I just know its time for me to study if I follow my schedule.

2. I am all about the little things, all about feeling good and in control. So I do that. I make a big and aesthetic affair out of sitting down to study. I prepare myself a snack and get myself something to drink and set my study area and books - I create a visual setup that makes me want to study.

3. I limit how many times I get up. I know people say attention span is short and we should use the pomodoro technique, but personally speaking it just does not work for me. I find it hard to get in the study zone but really easy to stay once I am there and concentration and so taking many breaks actually really distracts me and take me out of my study zone. So I take less breaks and I make sure I already have everything I need with me before I sit down to study so that I do not have to get up for them.

4. I make the process fun for me. I know my way of studying, my strengths and my weaknesses. So I use them to my advantage. I am a very conceptual learner, I am a visual learner, I am prefer to write things down to slow myself and understand, I prefer my study material in my own language and my own way of explaining, I am a very organised person. I am very bad at memorising random facts that have no logic. So I incorporate all these in my notes - I make my notes very organised and aesthetic notes that help me memorise. I add diagrams and flowcharts of my explanations. I use mnemonics that relate to me and are easy for me to remember (they are usually jokes that make people thing I have a very broken sense of humour).

5. I do not study in groups. I know again this is very controversial specially for med school but when I am understanding a new topic, I find the presence of people around me very distracting. I prefer to study in my room by myself. On the other hand, once I have studied the topic, I benefit from group discussions. I sit down with my friends and make them understand the topic… this helps them and it helps me. Teaching someone else is a very good way of revising for me and their questions make me think and understand parts I may have missed while studying.

6. I plan what I am going to study the next day, the might before. I put my pen on the first page of the topic or chapter or whatever and shut the book. This way I know I simply have to open my book and get down to study because everything else has been done before. It’s almost like I get rid of my possible excuses before hand.

I feel sitting down and understanding your way of studying is important for this very reason. So that you can make your plan and study accordingly. It decreases so much resistance and makes you so sure of your ways.