I Went To Sleep Listening To The Book Of Genesis And Woke Up In Terror To Your Asmr Video, What Does

stop worrying about whether or not queer identities "make sense". gender itself doesn't make sense. "woman" and "man" are arbitrary constellations of traits and features that don't reflect how people who fall into those genders actually think, feel and behave. the definitions we have for manhood and womanhood don't make sense, either. according to cisheteronormative society, feminine men and masculine women don't "make sense" either. the biological sex binary makes ABSOLUTELY no sense, with intersex people proving that it quite literally doesn't exist.

why do queer identities have to "make sense" in order for you to see them as valid? they shouldn't have to. let go and accept that identity is not a scientific theory. it doesn't have to "make sense". none of this does. stop running others' identities through such scrutiny and realize your identity doesn't "make sense", either. embrace it. it's a good thing.

I HAVE NO WORDS

I finally got around to watching “I Saw the Tv Glow”… I will never be the same

(Lyrics from “Claw Machine” by Sloppy Jane)

Hi it's me, the trans man with male privilege people like to talk about. I pass pretty well, cis men often see me as any other dude. But I have trauma commonly associated with womanhood and interacting with a lot of cis men it's clear they've never experienced it, don't understand it, and oftentimes don't care. Some will try to bond with me over woman hate and it's extremely triggering. I don't identify with or have a lot of comradery with cis men and I don't let their misogyny slide, either.

But the queer community is soooo good at explaining my situation to me. It's impossible for a Man to have trauma from misogyny, I'm just saying so to get sympathy. My feelings are irrelevant because I'm not actually being hurt here. In fact, I probably find misogyny affirming and need to be taught a lesson. By identifying as a man I am posing as these guy's ally and enabling them, I should be apologizing for their behavior. /s

Being treated by other men as superior to women is a privilege probably but I really don't feel like I'm winning here. It's alienating on both sides.

you summed it up perfectly. it's alienating no matter what side its coming from. it's still depersonalizing as hell to have to go through with this shit. everyone wants to tell you what your experience is like for you. nobody trusts you to be a reliable narrator. it's fucked up beyond belief.

i wish every transmasc a funky button up for the summer

Actually, the "F" on my passport is for faggot, not female.

Shoutout to butch/masc trans women you don’t owe anyone femininity

Shoutout to feminine trans men you don’t owe anyone masculinity

Shoutout to non binary people you don’t owe anyone gender conformity (and should be allowed to commit tax fraud)

just saw a guy outside of his workplace playing swords while waiting his coworkers to do their part so that he can work. this should be normalized, actually. normalize having fun in your workplace and having childhood whimsy. I wanna be like that

we talked for a while and he apologised for that. dont apologise, sword guy. keep being you, it's beautiful

please don't apologize, sword guy

I Need Top Surgery, and I Need Your Help

Not my usual programming but, still relevant. And hey if you help and donate I can post lots of hot post-op pics for you guys wearing cool harnesses and lingerie~

But on a serious note, this is about to be heavy sorry about that, but I'm not sure how much longer I can go on living in this body. I was able to get a trusted family friend to make this for me, though it's hard to burden others with this I am only doing so because I have exhausted all other options.

You can consider your donation as a horny tax if you've ever enjoyed my blog 💕 If you're not able to donate though sharing it would mean a lot, anything helps. I appreciate you all so deeply.

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Donate to Help this Transguy Get the Top Surgery He Desperatly Needs, organized by Dominique Salez

Hi my name is Silver, I also go by Percy in some corners of t… Dominique Salez needs your support for Help this Transguy Get the Top Surgery

What's below are the details of the go fund me that are written on the site.

Hi my name is Silver, I also go by Percy in some corners of the internet. I am a disabled trans guy that has been out for nearly 10 years now. The first thing I knew for sure that I needed was top surgery but the barriers for that are large and numerous. I am Canadian, so some procedures are covered, though the waiting lists are years long. The other issue is unlike the US, the types of top surgery here are limited.

The type of top surgery I would be getting is called Button Hole, and the surgeon that I'll be getting it from is the woman that developed the procedure in the first place, Dr. Hope Sherie. The surgeons in my country that I spoke to said my body type did not qualify for that type of surgery, though I had already spoken with Dr. Hope Sherie about what the qualifications were for her procedure and knew that what I had been told by the surgeons in my country was not entirely true. My conclusion from the information I gathered was that the surgeons in my country do not have the experience necessary to do this procedure on my body type.

I did apply to see if I could get my top surgery covered outside of my country on the basis of being told that local surgeons could not do the procedure, but ones outside of my country can. However I was denied as my government considers it unnecessary for me to leave the country for surgery since they offer it here, even though it's not the same procedure. The government dose not see a difference between the types of top surgery though there are very much wide differences otherwise why would different procedures exist at all?

Why do you want Button Hole in particular?

The options for types of top surgery procedures that exist for mid-sized people are smaller in number than the options available to people that are smaller in size. Button Hole is on of the only procedure that exists for mid-sized people where your nerves to your nipples are not severed during the surgery like with nipple grafts, therefor allowing for retention of sensation of the nipple and areola. Like with any top surgery, things may not go perfectly and I may still not be able to retain as much sensation as I'm hoping, but this is going to be my body for the rest of my life, and I have been desperately wanting this surgery for 10 years. I have thought about and researched all my options and have known for so long now that this one was right for me.

Why now?

I was hoping I could get it covered through my government, but this process has been going on for 4 years only to end up empty handed. With being disabled I also have very little income, the small amount that I do make barely covers my medication and food every month and I often find my self pulling from my dwindling savings just to cover those expenses. I have survived these past 10 years despite the daily struggle that is the in-congruence with my body and identity. Being disabled on top of being trans, rendering me in a position of not being able to work very much means that felling trapped has been something I've had to battle constantly.

Things with my family, as I live with them since I cannot afford to live anywhere else, got particularly bad last year. (Content Warning for talk of suicide) Being disabled, I qualify for assisted suicide, which is easier for me to access than any kind of financial aid. I was considering that as my only option forward at the time feeling like there were no other better options for me. Things have gotten better at home since then, so I am trying to live, this is me trying to live.

Why this amount?

I was given the quote of 13,550$ USD for my surgery. The exchange rate, which is even worse now that it was of CAD to USD turns this already steep price even steeper by a large margin. I do not expect to get this very large sum entirely covered but every bit helps immensely with a price tag this high on my life.

What will the funds cover if you reach the goal?

Just the surgery, I am going to be paying for the flight with some of my limited savings. I am also going to be housed by a friend that lives in the state while I'm recovering so my lodging fees will be reduced drastically with that. I do not feel comfortable asking for anything more than this as I feel I am already asking for so much. This is truly my absolute last resort, I did not want to burden anyone with this if I could figure out any other way. I have now exhausted all my options though.

Who is running the fundraiser?

I am doing this with the help of a trusted family friend as having your identity spread around online as a trans person is a very scary thing. Things are difficult enough as it is for me, doxing my self would not help with that.