Relationship Advice

Sooooooo, this is gonna be long but I need opinions and such. Somebody help me lol. I need thoughts and opinions.

Okay so the situation, I’ve been dating a guy for awhile now. Our first day was the day before Halloween and we have been hanging out/going on dates almost every single day since then. In Decemeber, I asked him if we were exclusively dating at this point b/c we had never talked about our relationship/status it just was and still is. He said he was considering us exclusively dating since the very beginning but in terms of bf/gf terms it was too soon for him to say. I was okay with that, as long as I got confirmation that we weren’t dating other people. Never talked about it again until recently, he comes over my house all the time and we hangout/watch movies/talk so I asked again since it’s now February if we were on bf/gf terms and he said yes, at this point it would be crazy not to call each other that. He’s the one who initiated the buying of gifts for Christmas, I thought it would be too soon to buy each other presents and he got me another “early” gift for valentine’s day and plans to get me more. But the thing is that he’s met my parents and my siblings and close family but I’ve never met his. I’ve only met his best friend and the bff’s fiancé, I think he’s worried about me meeting his mom since she’s a religious fanatic and has talked about how Jesus has come to her in her dreams telling her it’s time for her to come “home” and she burned his Supernatural poster in his room when he was out because she thought it looked satanic. I want to ask him why/if he wants or when I should meet her since things have been pretty serious. I just don’t know how to bring it up, I don’t want to be the person who is always asking these questions in the relationship but I am. I feel like it makes me seem needy or somethin but I really want to know and my closest friends are asking why I haven’t met her yet since he’s met mine and gets invited/comes to family events/gatherings and I don’t have a good answer for them.

The Dirt (2019)

So I think my biggest thing probably was that I was expecting a lot more partly because of being spoiled by BoRhap and partly because of the mythic chaos that is Motley Crue…

I MEAN THE STUFF DURING THE CREDITS WAS BETTER THAN THE ENTIRE FILM.

What I Liked:

Everyone seemed to know how to play thier instruments and the lipsinging was decent enough

It all looks really pretty. Very lifetime movie of the week.

Machine Gun Kelly is a dweeb and I love him more than life.

PETE DAVIDSON!!!!

The acting in the first half

The Nikki Sixx soul patch look + wig

The actress that played Vince’s daughter

What I Didn’t Like:

Literally nothing interesting happens for the first hour

Douglas Booth’s American accent is just as bad as I thought it was gonna be.

All the fucking voiceover is overdone and unneeded.

The wigs looked … at least on the boys, they looked terrible.

The SELF AWARE COMMENTARY 4th Wall Breaks. If it wasn’t filmed before BoRhap came out, I would’ve thought it was shade

How actual MTV archive footage wasn’t used for the thing about them getting into trouble… although I guess that would’ve blown the budget for sure.

Ozzy

Vince’s wife (the acting)

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honeyhoneyverse

5 years ago

LISTEN UP

Today I did something that terrified the fuck out of me. But ladies, we all gotta do it at some point.

I got a contract for fulltime work given to me.

I looked at it.

I realized, calculating the amount they wanted to offer, that it would actually be less than I’m making part-time now.

So what did I do?

Let me tell you, every single piece of me wanted to stay quiet and settle and work my way up the ladder.

Until I realized that

I am worth more than they were offering, and it would be an insult to value me at any less than my actual worth.

I have a masters and a year’s worth of teaching under my belt.

I am a qualified professional who wants to make more than assistants pay.

Their reasoning for the pay was insurance. I’m given insurance that’s worth a great deal, so I shouldn’t worry too much because that added up to a bigger salary. Except insurance doesn’t do jack shit if I can’t pay for an apartment or car costs or student loans.

What did I do?

First

I breathed. I took a breath. I washed my face and had a quick cry in the bathroom. Ain’t nothing wrong with a real fast cry.

Second

I left a note on my bosses desk asking if he could speak to me about my contract whenever he was next available.

Third

Once in my bosses office, I calmly handed him my contract back and said, “I’m very honored that you thought of me for a position, but I cannot accept what you’re offering me. I have a masters and I’ve taught in this school for a year, and I’d been under the assumption that I’d be receiving a different position than this.” He asked me what I was looking for. I said, “I would work for no less than [MY RANGE]. And if you cannot offer me that, then I’ll have to continue working for you part time until I can find another position elsewhere that can.” I thanked him very much for the offer. I was polite and upfront about my expectations for the position that I wanted.

I can’t tell you what will happen. But I can tell you that going in there and establishing myself as a no BS worker who looks out for herself and negotiates got me farther than if I’d said nothing.

I don’t know the outcome yet. I really don’t.

But I can tell you that he is currently rewriting my contract with higher pay.

Will it be high enough to keep me there? I don’t know.

But I do know that today was me putting myself forward and taking a chance, and chances, no matter how small, do pay off.