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hey! it’s been a while since i’ve written any resource posts, and this is a little more of a positivity post than a resource, but hopefully it will be helpful.

i’ve seen a lot of selfshippers/fictos talking about why and when these practices are acceptable and when they “cross the line.” in my opinion, i think some of these statements can create an uncomfortable or even implicitly hostile environment for certain mentally ill selfshippers and fictos, as well as reinforce ideas the community is trying to fight. these statements, even given various nuances, boil down to a few core ideas a number of people in the community seem to hold. the idea seems to be that “selfship is OK because it is just for fun/a coping mechanism, and selfshippers can still date in real life. because selfship is just for fun/a coping mechanism, taking it too seriously inherently means a loss of touch with reality, which is a personal fault.”

my greatest concern with this has been that it is potentially rather dismissive of the feelings of mentally ill selfshippers who experience psychosis. such people DO have a loss of touch with reality, through no fault of their own - and for many, this is something they cannot “fix,” even with medication or therapy. if one’s psychosis influences them to believe in or experience something that isn’t objectively real, but this belief or experience does not cause them distress or even improves their quality of life, it is not the responsibility of individuals without the condition to denigrate their experiences or urge them to “fix” their psychosis. in a community which is vocally supportive of mentally ill people, it is the responsibility of the members of that community to support the experiences of all mentally ill people. selfshippers and fictos with psychotic conditions are just as valid in their feelings as any of the rest of us, even if their conditions cause them to experience their f/os in a way we do not.

in addition, it isn’t fair to assert that selfship is okay because it’s “just” a coping mechanism, “just” for fun, or because all fictos/selfshippers prefer (and will abandon the practice for) a “real partner.” if it improves one’s quality of life and harms no one, there is no need for further justification, regardless of whether or not it fits with what outsiders consider “normal.” selfship (and fictosexuality) is not only okay when it’s easy to justify to outsiders. appealing to standards of “normalcy” only creates acceptable targets - “we are okay because we are normal, but those people who disagree with us are not normal, and therefore not okay.” that, ironically enough, is the exact logic on which “cringe culture” operates. you do not have to be “normal” to be worthy of respect and understanding, ever.

please be open to respecting experiences you may not understand, particularly for those whose experiences are already highly stigmatized. to all the “weird” selfshippers and fictos - those of you with psychosis, those of you who take it “too seriously,” those of you who never want a real life partner - you are just fine the way you are, and you don’t need to change for anyone. as long as you’re happy and your selfships/ficto relationships make you happy, you have nothing to worry about and no one here to answer to. live your life according to your own needs and standards.

I’ve been brainwashed by tumblr for far too long, and now that I’m not I’m realizing a lot of things.

- Not everything is fucking offensive

-People have different opinions from you. Fucking deal with it.

- It’s not okay to discriminate against gender, race, or sexuality. THIS INCLUDES STRAIGHT WHITE CIS MALES

- It’s NOT okay to tell people to go kill themselves, this includes telling republicans, cis people, white people, or anyone who differs from your ways to “go die”.

- 4chan is NOT the spawn of the devil and is actually really funny.

- Not everything is a trigger

- Not everything is ableist, transphobic, homophobic, or racist

- There is nothing wrong with being cis, straight or white

- Most of the world is straight and cis

- Double standards are stupid

- Dark humor can be funny

- Feminism is a good thing. But most of tumblr aren’t feminists. They’re extremists.

- It’s okay that you are not politically correct 100% of the time

-Treating people like shit and giving them hate because their opinion differs from you IS FUCKING WRONG!!!!!! 

- Tumblr is sometimes really stupid and the only reason why I’m still on here is because of memes and artsy shit

IF ANY OF THIS MAKES YOU HATE ME IDC UNFOLLOW ME <3

Have a good day! :33

“A star can never die. It just turns into a smile and melts back into the cosmic music, the dance of life.”-Michael Jackson | August 29, 1958-∞

Today, June 25th, marks nine years since our King was taken away. Although you’re gone, you will never be forgotten. May your love, your legacy, and your music live on forever. We love you, Applehead. 

Tina Weymouth of Talking Heads on-stage looks from the 80′s

When people try to argue that what I do with my self-ship goes against canon:

This message needs to be shared.

I wish more understood this. For me , I have been this way since I was a small child. For years after I became a teen I hid it from others cause of being made fun of.

I knew I was different when all my peers grew out of it and I remained. And that my feelings actually made my heart hurt.

Now here I am a grown woman, able to be open about it without shame or regret. I’m grateful for that and to know so many who share it with me.

💙💚💛💜