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Dear LGBT community members who don’t think asexuality should be allowed “in”:

I’m biologically female, and I’m not attracted to men. Society told me I was supposed to be, but it never happened, and I spent years of my life feeling broken and wrong. The other option presented to me when I was young was being attracted to women. I watched girls closely, trying to figure it out, but that wasn’t working for me, either. Wanting to be sexually close to another person just baffled me. I swore everyone else was making those feelings up. But they weren’t, and I got older, I realized that and it sunk in that I was just one big weirdo. I was in college when I learned the word for it, and had a breakdown of panic and relief. I can’t begin to put into words how it felt to discover I wasn’t broken–that I was a part of a group of people who felt in their hearts and souls the way I did.

Then came the process of coming out. My friends were a mixed bag, but friends you can pick and choose from if they aren’t supportive.The vast majority of my friends were cool about it, even if they didn’t quite understand. There were assholes, and one suggested “showing me” I was wrong (creepy creepy creepy), but mostly my friends were neutral to positive.

After some select friends, I came out to my family.

My parents told me I was wrong.

It was like being run over by a truck. To this day, I can’t talk about my asexuality around those I love most. It caused one of the only serious arguments I’ve ever had with my parents (I love them and they’re wonderful about 99.9% of the things in my life, but this is one place they weren’t). I was told I just had to find the “right person”, and I would change. That I was too young to understand my feelings (I was in my 20s) towards boys. That I shouldn’t put labels on myself that would make men not want to date me. Because god forbid men not find me attractive! Because clearly, from my conversation with them, what I wanted most of all was to find a man who wanted to get in my pants! Yeah!

Yeah.

It’s not really their fault. We live in a world where happiness is defined as falling in love, getting married, etc. Not wanting another person in your life as your “other half” is an alien concept. Media is flooded with messages of heterosexual normalcy, and now in very small pockets (hopefully growing, because it should! <3), a homosexual option for partnered normalcy. It’s shoved in our faces CONSTANTLY. Our society and government have even set things up to benefit couples financially. Which is fun now that I’m in my 30s and trying to save up for a future family, all by myself. And thankfully, even though they still avoid the word, over a decade later my parents do seem on board with the fact that I’m not pursuing relationships and are supportive of my life choices to save for a family by myself.

Listen. I am by no means saying that I am oppressed as a person the way people attracted to same-gendered people are. I’m not saying I’m oppressed the way the trans community is. I’m not saying any of that. But I AM dealing with a world where who I am is just not “okay”. Where who I am is wrong, where who I am needs to be fixed. Or, in many cases (most cases), where who I am DOES NOT EXIST. I don’t belong in the heterosexual world. I’m an outsider to it. But I’m also an outsider to any world that involves sex and attraction. And as a youth, I had NO WORD to use to describe who I was!

So when asexuals advocate for asexual inclusion in the LGBT community, it’s not because we want to weirdly steal thunder from anyone in your community, or because we want false pity for oppression we haven’t faced the way you have. It’s because we don’t want others to have to grow up the way we did.

We don’t want the world to continue not knowing about our existence. We want asexuality recognized publicly–both so asexuals can learn about themselves in an honest way, and so non-aces see us as legitimate humans. The LGBT world seemed like the natural place for us to go to to ask for inclusion. The place where others might understand what it’s like to grow up in a heterosexual world, as someone who is not. It’s who I first turned to when I discovered the word for myself, only to find immediate pain, rejection, and even mockery. I was horrified.

But I didn’t give up. I couldn’t give up. In 2005, I was in college and gave a talk at my university’s LGBT club. They had never heard of asexuality before, despite being part of a huge liberal university. It was the scariest thing I’d ever done in my life. I had to introduce the concept, and represent the entire community. And then answer a barrage of questions. Personal, personal questions, about my body, my life experiences, everything. And at the end, there was a long period silence. Until one brave person said:

“Wow. You have gone through the same things as us. You said you had some pamphlets about it? Can we put them in our office? People need to know about this. I can’t imagine growing up not knowing about homosexuality. As scary as it was for me, at least I had a word for it.”

I broke down crying and gave them all the pamphlets I had ordered. Many of them started crying, too. We became a blubbering mess in that meeting room. In that moment, I thought I had found a community who understood after all.

Did I? I suppose that’s up to you. But please, take some of this into consideration before you say that asexuals shouldn’t have a letter in your acronym, or should make their “own, separate” community. We’re unknown and invisible in so many ways, but nevertheless hurting in ways I think many of you can sympathize with and understand. It’s not that we’re attracted to the “wrong” sex or gender. It’s that we’re not attracted to the “right” one. And holy crap, the world just isn’t super friendly or understanding to people like that. Like us.

Thank you.

List your fave characters from 10 different fandoms and tag 10 people.

Tagged: @the-halo-of-my-memory (Thank you~ 👋😊)

1) Anders/Justice - Dragon Age 2

2) Elim Garak - Star Trek: Deep Space 9

3) Craig Boone - Fallout: New Vegas

4) Albert Rosenfield - Twin Peaks

5) Illya Kuryakin - The Man from U.N.C.L.E.

6) Hermann Gottlieb - Pacific Rim

7) Credence Barebone - Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them

8) Pike Dexter - Big Eden

9) Billie Lurk - Dishonored 2

10) Peeta Mellark - The Hunger Games

Tagging: @ratspit-village @astriaage @the-ever-chaos-collective @springacres @eluvinyan (But only if you’d like~ 📺📚 💖✨)

GIVEAWAY! Hey all! I finally got 300 followers so I’m doing my first giveaway!

The prize is a hand-knitted scarf made by yours truly. Since most of you who are following me are fandom blogs, I’d make one based off of your fandoms, or your favorite colors, or really whatever you want! (now’s your chance to get that harry potter scarf you always wanted! for instance)

Rules

must be following me

likes and reblogs count, as much as you like

no giveaway blogs though

winner will be chosen randomly on September 1, 2014

what i say: omg he's so hot i'm gonna die

what i mean: we live in an overtly sexual culture that doesn't recognize sensual and aesthetic attraction as separate from sexual desire and as an ace individual i am incapable of expressing my appreciation for someone's beauty in a simple way that doesn't have a sexual connotation please bear with me

This is my first art giveaway and I want to show my appreciation to my followers. 

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I draw a lot of Trek stuff but I will / can draw other things such as original characters or characters from movies/tv shows.

I draw NSFW things.

I draw gay & hetero characters.

I pretty much draw anything.

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        ★ Winners ★

I will select three random individuals as winners 

I will also live stream when it is being done

1st place: 2 fully colored images of any choice

2nd place: 1 fully colored image of any choice

3rd place: B&W colored image of any choice

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Anyone can participate

Must re-blog - You can do this as many times as you want

Must be following me

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This post will officially take effect

March 24,2014

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April 24,2014

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INFJ personality type traits:

"SEES SELF: as a deep-thinker in love with new ideas and insights, but somewhat detached from others.

OVERRIDING NEED: to understand the complexity of people and life.

IRRITATED BY: hypocrisy, limits on personal freedom, impersonal details and mundane tasks.

STRENGTHS: provides future-oriented insights that inspire others, follows through on commitments with integrity and consistency.

SEEN BY OTHERS: as somebody who is creative, insightful, stubborn, and hard to get to know.

DECIDES through private pondering, may make up mind too quickly and then worry endlessly.

IRRITATES OTHERS: by neglecting details, getting over-emotional, going off at unrealistic tangents, using overly complex language.

CHALLENGES: may take criticism personally, blurt out feelings unwisely, withdraw socially for long periods, succumb to addictive disorders."

- http://www.cohabmonkey.com/mbti/profile/infj#sthash.PobhM7N5.dpuf (via deepspacequeer)

one day I’ll have enough money to buy les nereides jewellery 🥲 one day…

So, TV ratings are complicated, unwieldy, and truly loathsome things. It’s hard to explain how they come up with the numbers, what the difference is between the numbers, and how they’re actually relevant to broadcasters in any simple terms.

I’m going to try.

Before I start with the incredibly...

"If you refuse to shoot the gun, don't mean the gun ain't deadly,"

J Cole re-entering the rap beef