Pride Dragons (part 1) -- SWOON!

Everyone, regardless of gender, deserves bodily autonomy.  You should not have to hug your uncle or kiss your grandmother or have your cheek pinched by your mom’s best friend or even sit on Santa’s lap if it upsets you.  It’s important for people to learn that they have the right to say, “No,” and have it accepted -- even if the person is a family member, friend, or respected person.  It is also ok for someone to want that contact sometimes but not other times, whether they need to take a little while getting comfortable with people they don’t see often or are comfortable giving a hug now but not later.

Respect other people’s limits and insist that they respect yours.

Among others.

And every other sexuality

I’m a day late for the luck, but these are adorable rabbits.

Rabbits Rabbits Rabbits

Reblog this on the first of the month for good luck all month long!

Hi All!

I got tired of missing people on LJ, so I've created a Tumblr account (obviously) and a DreamWidth account. That seems to catch most of the people I was following on LJ who were still posting semi-regularly. I'm considering Twitter, but I don't know if I want to dedicate that much of my life to social media. (I have no problems with the "media" part; it's the "social" that I'm not very good at handling.) Feel free to point me at your favorite people and stuff on either DreamWidth or Tumblr! I'm still getting the hang of who/what is available where.

I love the expression on the one second from the top on the left: “Now that I control the household finances, there will be no more of that cheap cat food!”

Money Cats masterpost, to have your LIFE!! filled with money.

They are absolutely coming for contraception, on top of everything else listed above.  Legislation is in the works now to classify abortion as a homicide, beginning at the moment of fertilization.  That takes out many of the more effective forms of contraception.  We need to work together to stop this, or it will only get worse.

Hey. They’re coming for ALL OF US.

Didn’t want to append this to a well-written post about how conservatives in the US are angling to eliminate gay marriage. But.

They’re coming for gay marriage and for interracial marriage and “fornicators” (people who engage in consensual sex acts outside marriage*), and they’re going to ban contraception if they can. They’re testing steps to prevent co-housing too. Basically if you’re not a white Evangelical in a nuclear family with a desire to have hordes of children, your rights are in danger right now.

As long as we keep fretting about only our own groups, we’re not going to get very far. All of these civil rights were achieved through alliances between marginalized groups. We’re all in danger right now because we’ve allowed exclusionists – many of whom are bots or campaigns created by right-wingers – to divide us with nonsense about “ADOS” and “the q slur” and “class first” anti-woke leftism. Right-wingers have always understood that divide and conquer is the easiest way to deal with the left; we have always been a coalition of disparate groups with disparate needs that puts some of those needs aside when it’s time to fight for something. We’re not ready to fight right now. But we can start getting ready, and the easiest way to do that is to remember that you are not the only group under threat right now.

Boost other groups’ campaigns and attempts to raise awareness. Learn to exclude the people calling for exclusion, because most of them aren’t actually on your side. Read the histories of successful civil rights efforts, and pay attention to how they formed those alliances. This is work that takes years. Fixing everything that’s broken in our society cannot be done quickly or easily – but for fuck’s sake, try to get your head out of your navel and look around.  See your fellow soldiers, and put your shield alongside theirs, fast. We got incoming.

*Many states still have laws on the books that make everything from oral sex to shacking up illegal. And best believe Evangelicals want those laws enforced again.

Speaking as a relatively binary person who has several nonbinary sweeties and friends, this post seems to have generally good advice.  Many of the examples focus on singular they rather than neopronouns, although most of them will work regardless of the pronouns a person uses.  

The only section I have issues with is “tricking yourself” into using the correct pronouns for a person, partly because the examples given won’t work well for pronouns other than they and partly because that sort of mental gymnastics would be harder for me to learn (and unlearn) than teaching myself to do it right from the beginning.  However, I understand that that issue is specific to me, personally; other people are obviously going to have different experiences.

Pronoun tips from binary men and women

Every once in a while I am asked (or see someone asking) how to use pronouns other than he/him and she/her. The person asking is usually a man or a woman unfamiliar with nonbinary stuff generally, but they’ve got a particular nonbinary person in their life whom they care about and they don’t want to mess up. Maybe they keep misgendering their nonbinary friend and they feel guilty, or they want to take the burden off the nonbinary person who keeps having to correct them, something like that.

When binary people lack that confidence with pronouns, they seek the advice of nonbinary people. Not only are we likely to give advice that’s not ideal for binary people (because we’ve got skin in the game, all our friends are nonbinary so we’re used to it, etc.), but it is another facet of that dynamic of the privileged group (in this case binary people) placing their burden onto the marginalised group. Binary people should be asking advice from other binary people who’ve mastered pronouns.

So, I asked, and a bunch of binary people answered. I got advice from trans and cis binary people (men and women), and I’m collecting all the common stuff and the stuff I thought was good, all here for your perusal. If you know a binary person who’s struggling to get pronouns right, pass this along.

[This article assumes that you know a specific nonbinary person and you want to get better at using their pronouns, though the advice can be adapted. It also assumes that you’re familiar with the concepts of singular they and neopronouns, and you accept that they’re grammatically correct.]

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This is kindof weird.  My likes and pictures from my posts and reblogs were on there, but it removed them pretty quickly when I went through the remove page.  @awfulhorrid discovered that it made browser security add-ons (like Privacy Badger) light up with warnings, and they saw some fishy things when they looked at it more closely.  Bleah.

tumblr mirrors on ‘photosugar’

So idk if others have noticed this before - but it’s the first time I’m seeing this, hence the post.

There’s a website, https://www.photosugar.com, which apparently mirrors all pictures, gifsets etc. people post on their tumblrs (and also other social media sites like twitter and instagram, if I understand it correctly). An eample for a tumblr user, with my name: https://www.photosugar.com/tu/lordhellebore

Now it won‘t turn up anything but a 404 error in my case, because I sent an e-mail to the contact address, which is darius@photosugar.com with the title “My content on your website”:

Hello, it’s come to my attention that you are mirroring all of the posts containing pictures/gifs that I post on my tumblr. I am asking you to stop pulling the content from my tumblr and to delete me from your website. tumblr username is „lordhellebore“ Thank you.

I got a reply consisting of the single word “removed” after just one day, and as you can see, it worked perfectly fine with the informal mail I sent. So if you want them to stop mirroring your tumblr, it seems all you really need to to is this.  

I can’t test the site for all of my mutuals, but I’m tagging a few whom I found on there by random trial & error, and I suggest you look yourself up if you see this post and dislike tumblr mirrors (even if this one is only for pictures, not text).

@janiedean, @ladytp, @vaysh11, @lunavagantt, @einemelodieimwind, @robb-greyjoy, @youbuggingme, @ysilme, @rex-luscus, @bai-xue, @viendiletto, @electricalice, @contessa-de-leusse, @memetic-mutism, @bluecichlid, @mrs-storm-andrews, @ladymothwing, @prismatic-bell, @kittykatknits, @tinkili

….basically, whomever I’m trying at random, it seems that you’re on there.

 Please reblog so others can know and ask for removal if they want to.

[swoon] 

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