They are absolutely coming for contraception, on top of everything else listed above. Legislation is in the works now to classify abortion as a homicide, beginning at the moment of fertilization. That takes out many of the more effective forms of contraception. We need to work together to stop this, or it will only get worse.
Didn’t want to append this to a well-written post about how conservatives in the US are angling to eliminate gay marriage. But.
They’re coming for gay marriage and for interracial marriage and “fornicators” (people who engage in consensual sex acts outside marriage*), and they’re going to ban contraception if they can. They’re testing steps to prevent co-housing too. Basically if you’re not a white Evangelical in a nuclear family with a desire to have hordes of children, your rights are in danger right now.
As long as we keep fretting about only our own groups, we’re not going to get very far. All of these civil rights were achieved through alliances between marginalized groups. We’re all in danger right now because we’ve allowed exclusionists – many of whom are bots or campaigns created by right-wingers – to divide us with nonsense about “ADOS” and “the q slur” and “class first” anti-woke leftism. Right-wingers have always understood that divide and conquer is the easiest way to deal with the left; we have always been a coalition of disparate groups with disparate needs that puts some of those needs aside when it’s time to fight for something. We’re not ready to fight right now. But we can start getting ready, and the easiest way to do that is to remember that you are not the only group under threat right now.
Boost other groups’ campaigns and attempts to raise awareness. Learn to exclude the people calling for exclusion, because most of them aren’t actually on your side. Read the histories of successful civil rights efforts, and pay attention to how they formed those alliances. This is work that takes years. Fixing everything that’s broken in our society cannot be done quickly or easily – but for fuck’s sake, try to get your head out of your navel and look around. See your fellow soldiers, and put your shield alongside theirs, fast. We got incoming.
*Many states still have laws on the books that make everything from oral sex to shacking up illegal. And best believe Evangelicals want those laws enforced again.
Speaking as a relatively binary person who has several nonbinary sweeties and friends, this post seems to have generally good advice. Many of the examples focus on singular they rather than neopronouns, although most of them will work regardless of the pronouns a person uses.
The only section I have issues with is “tricking yourself” into using the correct pronouns for a person, partly because the examples given won’t work well for pronouns other than they and partly because that sort of mental gymnastics would be harder for me to learn (and unlearn) than teaching myself to do it right from the beginning. However, I understand that that issue is specific to me, personally; other people are obviously going to have different experiences.
Every once in a while I am asked (or see someone asking) how to use pronouns other than he/him and she/her. The person asking is usually a man or a woman unfamiliar with nonbinary stuff generally, but they’ve got a particular nonbinary person in their life whom they care about and they don’t want to mess up. Maybe they keep misgendering their nonbinary friend and they feel guilty, or they want to take the burden off the nonbinary person who keeps having to correct them, something like that.
When binary people lack that confidence with pronouns, they seek the advice of nonbinary people. Not only are we likely to give advice that’s not ideal for binary people (because we’ve got skin in the game, all our friends are nonbinary so we’re used to it, etc.), but it is another facet of that dynamic of the privileged group (in this case binary people) placing their burden onto the marginalised group. Binary people should be asking advice from other binary people who’ve mastered pronouns.
So, I asked, and a bunch of binary people answered. I got advice from trans and cis binary people (men and women), and I’m collecting all the common stuff and the stuff I thought was good, all here for your perusal. If you know a binary person who’s struggling to get pronouns right, pass this along.
[This article assumes that you know a specific nonbinary person and you want to get better at using their pronouns, though the advice can be adapted. It also assumes that you’re familiar with the concepts of singular they and neopronouns, and you accept that they’re grammatically correct.]
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Sometimes, you just have to say, “We hate you,” in a song.
we wrote a song for mitch mcconnell
Yay for pride variety!
so I did pretty much this last year, but I really wanted to remake it so it was larger, better done and included the lesbian flag because I forgot it last year
anyone who starts discourse on this will be blocked.
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I'm continuing on with more monster poetry for National Poetry Month. Sometimes you need to drag the terrible voices in your head out so you can really get to know them. my therapist says make friends with your monsters by José Olivarez
You gave me a gold coin that comes with a bonus dragon, and you think I’m going to spend it? Are you insane?! I’m going home to see how well it gets along with the cats.
The world’s tiniest dragon must defend his hoard, a single gold coin, from those who would steal it.
This is great advice. Does anyone know if it works for MD-shopping as well?
How do you (“how does one”) shop for a therapist?
Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?
If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?
If you don't run, VOTE. (Vote if you do run, for that matter.) There is a lot at stake locally and in your state, and the ability for one person to make a difference in these elections is very high.
I know it feels like we just did this, but voting is like doing the dishes or laundry -- you have to keep at it. Unlike housework, you don't want to designate one person in your community to handle the chore for everyone else. (Let's be honest, they would probably fold your shirts wrong, too.)
Are you kidding? I’d let my sister slap me if we could split the $1.5 million! I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t seriously injure me, and we could both do a lot with $750,000.
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