I Kindof Want Some Of These As Pins.  Seriously, If The Only Part Of “homosexual,” “bisexual,” “asexual,”

It would be hysterical if, after the Republicans pitched massive fits over attempts to reduce people's student loan debt, they managed to completely wipe out millions of dollars in loans by dissolving the loaning organization. Given the current administration's cruelty in dismantling every part of the government that is designed to help people, I hope we can find more unexpected benefits like this.

hey it's probably a really good idea to download a copy of your Master Promissory Note since most of them stipulate that your loans are *specifically owed to the Department of Education* and if you intend to dispute the debt in the wake of the DoE dissolving that will be really good to have

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Reblog if you go to fictional characters for comfort.

Whether it be when you feel you don’t belong, when you feel upset, when you’re angry, when you’re going through a hard time or when you’re feeling empty. (Social Experiment: I want to see how many people do this)

Woo-hoo!  Whoever you are, you deserve to feel bold, rebellious, and happy!

On Shopping While Fat 2: Son of Fat

I love that this black, spooky-looking house has a lovely garden in front.  Is the garden all foxglove and nightshade and stuff, or does it belong to a family that doesn’t want to get trapped in people’s assumptions (or is really, massively dysfunctional)?

Hi! Thanks so much for following my blog, here is your moodboard. I hope you like it :)

Stay awesome! 

[Fran: Squee!  I love it!  Thank you very much @acelepuff!!]

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I like the video (especially the puppies!), and I can definitely see where they’re going with emulating sexy girl videos.  However, in addition to having a much wider variety of cuteness, most of these guys are waaaaay overdressed for a sexy girl video.

This post on the desexualisation of men made me think of this Charli XCX video.

Charli XCX directed this with Sarah McColgan, and asked the boys in question to do “all the sexy things that girls usually do in videos”. They include Riz Ahmed (this is the source of those gifs of him with a big pink teddy bear), Stormzy, Josh Ostrovsky (aka thefatjewish), Tom Daley, Jay Park and more - full list here. It is pink and fluffy and female gaze-y, and everybody looks happy.

It also has a much, much more inclusive idea of cuteness than sexy girl videos, and doesn’t dehumanise its subjects. Which is lovely, but underlines that when men are treated as objects of desire, they’re much more likely to keep a sense of agency.

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Also, if you are LGBTQ+ and need help, you can contact the Trevor Project.  Call 1-866-488-7386 or go to https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

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I hope no one who follows my feed needs this, but better to have and not need than to need and not have.

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Speaking as a relatively binary person who has several nonbinary sweeties and friends, this post seems to have generally good advice.  Many of the examples focus on singular they rather than neopronouns, although most of them will work regardless of the pronouns a person uses.  

The only section I have issues with is “tricking yourself” into using the correct pronouns for a person, partly because the examples given won’t work well for pronouns other than they and partly because that sort of mental gymnastics would be harder for me to learn (and unlearn) than teaching myself to do it right from the beginning.  However, I understand that that issue is specific to me, personally; other people are obviously going to have different experiences.

Pronoun tips from binary men and women

Every once in a while I am asked (or see someone asking) how to use pronouns other than he/him and she/her. The person asking is usually a man or a woman unfamiliar with nonbinary stuff generally, but they’ve got a particular nonbinary person in their life whom they care about and they don’t want to mess up. Maybe they keep misgendering their nonbinary friend and they feel guilty, or they want to take the burden off the nonbinary person who keeps having to correct them, something like that.

When binary people lack that confidence with pronouns, they seek the advice of nonbinary people. Not only are we likely to give advice that’s not ideal for binary people (because we’ve got skin in the game, all our friends are nonbinary so we’re used to it, etc.), but it is another facet of that dynamic of the privileged group (in this case binary people) placing their burden onto the marginalised group. Binary people should be asking advice from other binary people who’ve mastered pronouns.

So, I asked, and a bunch of binary people answered. I got advice from trans and cis binary people (men and women), and I’m collecting all the common stuff and the stuff I thought was good, all here for your perusal. If you know a binary person who’s struggling to get pronouns right, pass this along.

[This article assumes that you know a specific nonbinary person and you want to get better at using their pronouns, though the advice can be adapted. It also assumes that you’re familiar with the concepts of singular they and neopronouns, and you accept that they’re grammatically correct.]

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