Rings Of Power Meme Dump Part 11!!

I think if providers laugh at us while we’re explaining our concerns we should be able to turn them into piñatas for precisely 40.3 seconds

This. They hate all of us, we're not any better to them.

There's also a bit of... I think unintentional support of other queerphobia when people say stuff about how asexuals aren't doing anything. As the post discussed, we are seen as a threat to a lot of people, but I think the intent when aspecs say this is more like "we're not hurting anybody/doing anything wrong". But the thing is... Neither are trans people or gay people or other queer identities. When people say stuff like that, it's almost agreeing like "I can see why you don't like them, but we're different".

So there are several issues. I do think a lot of it comes from people not really knowing aphobia exists or even within our community not understanding how strong it is in some groups.

tbh I really dislike how aphobia tends to be discussed whenever there's some kind of incident that makes it visible to general society. The most common response seems to be some variation of "why would anyone hate asexual/aromantic people, they aren't even doing anything" and it just always sits wrong with me. It paints such a passive picture of our existence and feels like a comment influenced by the level of invisibility that aspec people have in society. Why would you be annoyed by someone who is practically invisible? Just go back to ignoring their existence, it's easy!

But despite the invisibility, aspec people are actually doing quite a lot of things that will piss off queerphobic, right-wing and religious people (and hell, even left-wing people). And the most obvious point is that we are actively not performing heterosexuality the way they want us to. People who's entire world view is "cis men and women should be in monogamous, heterosexual marriage and have (white) babies" are not going to lean back and say "oh but those asexuals and aromantics are fine". They will also hate our guts, and they will come up with all sorts of reasons, including insinuating we're all secretly into bestiality, or mentally ill, or not human, or attention seeking children. It's just plain old queerphobia, and like all queerphobia, there's no inherent logic to it which you can worm your way out of by "not doing anything".

And like, there's a lot more that aspec people do which people hate. Raising awareness about amatonormativity? People feel attacked, they hate it. Asexual people having sex? Or not having sex? People hate it! Aromantic people being in (seemingly) romantic relationships? People fucking hate it! Aromantic people having sex? Ohh people hate that!!

I guess the existence of aphobia can be confusing when you haven't spent much time thinking about asexuality and aromanticism, but in the end, these are identities that aren't heteronormative and they will be hit with the same or similar bigotry as any other queer identity. I just get tired of this response after seeing it recycled for 10 years without ever seeming to go any further.

"average elf uses 3 brain cells a year" factoid actually statistical error. average elf uses 0 brain cells per year. Braincells Elrond, who lives in Imladris & uses 10,000 brain cells every day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted.

do you ever just think about how Elrond and Celebrian likely represent Tolkien's fear of being left alive, alone, without his wife, Edith... and then that very thing comes to pass... and then just start crying.... everyday i think of letter 340 and slowly feel my heart breaking more and more

sometimes i question whether im actually ace or not and then i see allo ppl talking and go "oh. oh god yea definitely ace"

Gaslight, Gatekeep, Girlboss

For @aspecardaweek: Day Seven: Freeform

Elrond....was as noble and fair as an elf-lord, as strong as a warrior, as wise as a wizard, as venerable as a king of dwarves, and as kind as summer.

made a meme because what do you mean i’m questioning my sexuality again even tho i’ve been secure in my identity for the past 10 years 😭

At least don’t tag her name on it!

You would think with certain revelations during these past few years, people would stop trying to vilify a native queen whose family (including twin brothers) and peoples were mass-murdered thrice over by invaders who steal her twin sons to keep as hostages against the surviving native population…

And yet, here we are. In 2021. Trying to browse Elwing’s tag and get a whole bunch of “shitty suicidal neglectful mom”-takes alongside “the genocidal mass-murdering kidnappers hostage takers that forced her to jump or be killed by them were their ~*REAL*~ parents uwu!”.

No. Elrond and Elros didn’t have any parents because the mass-murdering kidnappers killed their entire family! The closest thing they got were those few years before their real parents (and grandparents, and uncles, and great-grandparents and so on all the way back to Olwë’s people at the First Kinslaying, since Olwë was their great-great-granduncle) were killed by the mass-murderers you claim were better than their victims!

Maglor and Maedhros DID NOT create a found family FFS! Any rapport established between them and the twins were the twins trying desperately to survive being their hostages! It was not ~*uwu*~ sweet and lovely ~*uwu*~ it was likely fucking traumatic and Elrond and Elros were likely unable to deal with that trauma until their kidnappers disappeared and they felt safe again! Read up on Fawn in Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn reactions. Or any other related psychology!

Also, if Maglor and Maedhros actually took pity on orphaned elflings and not just valuable hostages, they would have adopted ALL the orphaned elflings; they had just burned a city and slaughtered lots of elves! Surely, unless they only slaughtered elflings, that means that there’s lots of orphans to go around! (This is why I say that the Silm is basically Noldorin propaganda; it’s not pity which moves Maglor, or there would have been a lot more adoptive brothers and sisters of the twins, but saying that it is pity makes Maglor and Maedhros look like better people than they actually are.)

Rings of Power meme dump part 7!