I don’t agree that it’s inherently wrong to be angry or to hate someone. I agree that it can be damaging when misused or when it’s allowed to control you, instead of the other way around. I agree that, when we aren’t taught to manage our anger, it has the risk of becoming toxic or overpowering. The same can be said of other emotions (such as sadness). But that doesn’t make it automatically bad.
I believe that our motives are important, when it comes to anger, and that it’s important to ask ourselves
who is my anger harming?
am i harming myself with my anger?
is my anger directed unjustly? is it unhelpful to the situation?
am i allowing my anger to unduly influence my actions? will it lead me to behavior i will regret later?
is my anger making me unhappy?
and if, after weighing these questions, you make the judgement call that being angry is fine under the circumstances–go for it!
My theory is that we all have so many bad experiences w/ anger because we as a society are never taught to engage w/ it in a healthy way. there’s a lot of puritan cultural bullshit (in the u.s. at least) that ignores nuance and casts everything as either good or bad, sinful or sinless–never a shade of grey, never with stipulations. all sins are equally awful, and by fighting back against injustice we ourselves become unjust (which is, of course, nonsense). don’t rock the boat, even if the boat is sinking and we should be relocating to lifeboats. just let it be, or you’re just as bad as them.
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Honestly the ultimate dream is to be part of a musical where the character you play fits perfectly within your range and you get some kick ass songs, maybe manipulate a few things here and there. I’m not picky, but dang, if only I could be the major antagonist and revel in shaming the main characters on stage
The body of Molu Zarpeleh, 10, who was reported missing last Thursday night, was recovered from a privately-owned retention pond along 12th Street South around 8:40 a.m. Friday after authorities searched the pond, according to a new release from the City of Brookings.
A tip that Zarpeleh had been pushed into the pond that circulated on social media has been redacted by the tipster, said Chelsea Bakken, public information officer for the City of Brookings. Investigators also reported that tips they received Friday related to circumstances surrounding the incident were not true but won’t state why. Police are ignoring it and ruling it an “accidental drowning but his mother says differently.
“A 10-year-old boy would not just take his sandals off and walk into the water,” she said. “He didn’t know how to swim.”
Brookings police and the Brookings Fire Department searched for Zarpeleh until about 2:30 a.m. Friday before the search was stopped due to safety concerns, poor lighting and murky water, the release states. Searchers used pumps from Brookings Municipal Utilities and Brookings County to remove about 300,000 gallons of water from the pond during the resumed search Friday morning
“Molu died, but I can’t say 'was’ yet,” Mole said. “He’s my first child. He’s my only son. I don’t want to use the word 'was.’ I can’t imagine him not living.”
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“kids these days are always on their phones, kids these days never go outside” ok how about kids these days have less freedom of movement & access to public spaces than any previous generation, forcing them indoors, forcing them to rely on electronics, when many would prefer to be outdoors hanging out with friends
Being part of the social justice culture or the “stay woke” culture, I usually thought that the main purposes were to:
1) Unlearn what was taught to you
2) Learn what was never taught to you
3) Educate those around you with the knowledge you have
i wish everything was quieter and softer and less often
“All Alone! Whether you like it or not, Alone will be something you’ll be quite a lot.” - Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go! (via the-book-diaries)