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There’s nothing inherently “scary” about someone talking to themself in public.

There’s nothing “scary” about someone rocking back and forth in public.

There’s nothing “scary” about someone pacing back and forth in public.

Some of y’all are just ableist.

For narrative: if you find it too confusing to use multiple pronouns for the same character when there are a lot of characters present and acting, you can switch pronouns each chapter — in chapter X you only use "he/him" and in chapter Y only "they/them", for example.

For dialogue: make a list of which pronouns you think other characters should address them by — this is also a nice detail about how your other characters view non-binarity (if it isn't normalized in the story) and even how they view the NB themself. While one character will use multiple pronouns for them, others might choose to only use one.

It's not that difficult, really

We need more non-binary characters who use multiple pronouns.

I understand why we often advise binary writers to only use they/them for non-binary characters and how it can be a little confusing to have multiple pronouns being used for a single character in narrative, but there's ways to make it less confusing and we should remind the world that:

1. not all enbies use they/them pronouns

2. not all enbies use ONLY they/them pronouns

Multiple pronouns, both for non-binary and even for binary characters is just accurate representation.

We need more non-binary characters who use multiple pronouns.

I understand why we often advise binary writers to only use they/them for non-binary characters and how it can be a little confusing to have multiple pronouns being used for a single character in narrative, but there's ways to make it less confusing and we should remind the world that:

1. not all enbies use they/them pronouns

2. not all enbies use ONLY they/them pronouns

Multiple pronouns, both for non-binary and even for binary characters is just accurate representation.

Hey queers of tumblr, I need your help. This shitty ass account on twitter is circling around claiming that there should be a divide between the LBG and the TQIA community. Help report this account to get it taken down and show that we will NOT BE DIVIDED. Now more than ever we need to stand together as a community.

Transphobia isn't just directly saying you hate trans people.

Transphobia is knowing their pronouns and choosen name and not even trying to respect those because you've "always known them as the other gender".

Transphobia is saying "trans woman" and "trans man" instead of just "woman" and "man", as you do for cisgender, when that information is completely irrelevant.

Transphobia is refusing to accept that if a teenager is responsible enough to decide which course they'll be taking, which will have an impact in their future work life, they are responsible enough to know what they want to be called.

Transphobia is relying on the statistics that show that neurodivergent people are more likely to be trans in order to "get a point across" and tell the world how it is all in their head.

Have you ever heard about gender disphoria, sweetie? Do you even know what gender is?

Not saying you hate a community directly doesn't make you less prejudiced than someone who does if you do these things. And being part of a community doesn't mean you can't be prejudiced towards that same community.

From a non-binary who doesn't exactly identify as trans, but who is aware of all your struggles, I wish all of you the best.

And no one, no one in the LGBTQ+ community will ever have the right to exclude you from it.

Be proud.

You gotta write for funsies sometimes. Everything doesn’t have to be groundbreaking. Like. Who cares if it’s a little silly it is made out of love

Internal Autistic Traits

Neurodivergence_Lou

OK, so, I've heard many autists mention that they have abnormal levels of heat tolerance or, in other words, don't feel heat and cold with the same ease and intensity allistics do.

But I was wondering if anyone else is just specifically sensitive to either cold or heat.

Like, I feel cold very easily, but can wear a hoodie during summer with no problems and a friend of mine is the exact opposite.

Is this an autism thing or are we just weird?

Growing up is realizing that, as a neurodivergent or disabled person, you'll always have to assume certain actions as mistakes, even if they were caused by your condition(s).

Whether you have some control over it or not, it doesn't really matter most times. If you try to justify it, people will tell you you use your condition(s) as an excuse for everything.

They want you to adapt yourself to their world and often they don't realize they're being ableistic.

But they are.

We constantly have to change ourselves, because the world won't change for us, while they get a chance to be themselves out there.

It isn't fair, but it's the way of the world, I suppose.

It was made by neurotypicals, for neurotypicals.

By able-bodied, for able-bodied.

"The actor did really well, we can almost feel what it is like to live as an autistic."

Right... And I definitely don't know what that's like...

(I'm in, guys; they haven't caught me yet)

While I do get your point, I still don't think it is reasonable to call any sign language useless, especially when speaking with someone who would very much benefit from learning it.

What do verbal, hearing people have against sign language?

I'm a hearing-able and "usually" verbal person, but since I'm autistic I sometimes go into verbal shutdown.

Both because of that and because I simply find sign languages to be important languages that should be more normalized around the globe, I really wanted to have the opportunity to learn my country's sign language properly.

However, whenever I mention that to certain people, they'll tell me it's useless and pointless because I don't know any deaf, hard-of-hearing or nonverbal individuals.

Like????? Excuse me?????

I don't know about other countries, but we don't have the chance to learn sign in Portuguese schools and I personally think we should be taught to communicate easily with everyone in our own country before being taught how to communicate with foreigns.

Sign languages are languages like any other. When my friends chose to learn French and German no one told them it was useless because they don't know any French or German people, so what's the big deal with sign language?

I apologize to any and every deaf, Deaf, hard-of-hearing, non-verbal or semiverbal person reading this for how rude some jerks out there can be.

(Also, sorry if hearing-abled isn't the correct term, I can’t really find an answer anywhere)

I had heard about audism before, but never about oralism.

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with me ♡

What do verbal, hearing people have against sign language?

I'm a hearing-able and "usually" verbal person, but since I'm autistic I sometimes go into verbal shutdown.

Both because of that and because I simply find sign languages to be important languages that should be more normalized around the globe, I really wanted to have the opportunity to learn my country's sign language properly.

However, whenever I mention that to certain people, they'll tell me it's useless and pointless because I don't know any deaf, hard-of-hearing or nonverbal individuals.

Like????? Excuse me?????

I don't know about other countries, but we don't have the chance to learn sign in Portuguese schools and I personally think we should be taught to communicate easily with everyone in our own country before being taught how to communicate with foreigns.

Sign languages are languages like any other. When my friends chose to learn French and German no one told them it was useless because they don't know any French or German people, so what's the big deal with sign language?

I apologize to any and every deaf, Deaf, hard-of-hearing, non-verbal or semiverbal person reading this for how rude some jerks out there can be.

(Also, sorry if hearing-abled isn't the correct term, I can’t really find an answer anywhere)

What do verbal, hearing people have against sign language?

I'm a hearing-able and "usually" verbal person, but since I'm autistic I sometimes go into verbal shutdown.

Both because of that and because I simply find sign languages to be important languages that should be more normalized around the globe, I really wanted to have the opportunity to learn my country's sign language properly.

However, whenever I mention that to certain people, they'll tell me it's useless and pointless because I don't know any deaf, hard-of-hearing or nonverbal individuals.

Like????? Excuse me?????

I don't know about other countries, but we don't have the chance to learn sign in Portuguese schools and I personally think we should be taught to communicate easily with everyone in our own country before being taught how to communicate with foreigns.

Sign languages are languages like any other. When my friends chose to learn French and German no one told them it was useless because they don't know any French or German people, so what's the big deal with sign language?

I apologize to any and every deaf, Deaf, hard-of-hearing, non-verbal or semiverbal person reading this for how rude some jerks out there can be.

(Also, sorry if hearing-abled isn't the correct term, I can’t really find an answer anywhere)

Meltdowns aren't tantrums.

Burnout isn't procrastination.

Stims aren't pointless.

Shutdowns aren't just lack of attention.

Verbal shutdowns aren't a "silence treatment".

Hyperfixations aren't useless.

Special interests are more than obsessions.

Phobias aren't regular fears.

Panic attacks aren't controllable.

Self-harm isn't a trend.

Allistic parents of autistic children need to understand that they can't make a "safe environment" for their kids unless they actually listen to what their kids want and need.

No, Karen, I'm not telling you to let them do everything they want, but try to find a consensus.

Many of us need routines and rituals, but it's important to let us choose or help choosing them; forcing a schedule upon your child doesn't help at all.

Also, give them the liberty to attempt to do things by themselves — if they can't do something then sure, go help them, but let them try first.

Sincerely,

A very tired autistic teen.

Dear fellow writers,

‘Said’ is beautiful. Please use it more. It isn’t anything to be feared of hated. It’s not boring or overused. It makes all the other dialogue tags more special when they’re used on occasion.

‘Said’ makes your writing less cluttered. It can be a simple way of reminding the reader who is talking without bombarding them with synonyms.

“Use it along with action to make it more interesting,” she said, picking up her pencil.

He smirked, and said, “Or with expressions and body language.”

“Or,” she said, “just as a quick reminder of who is talking.”

“And if you know who is talking, a dialogue isn’t always necessary.”

Of course you can use other dialogue tags, but please don’t exclude ‘said’. It’s heartbroken from being ignored.

‘Said’ is beautiful.

in case anyone on here needs to hear it:

if you're hitting yourself during your "panic attacks," that's more likely an autistic meltdown not a panic attack

if it's really really hard to speak when you get overwhelmed, that might be verbal shutdown (you might have heard "going nonverbal" but those who are nonverbal - all the time - have asked not to use that phrasing)

if you get really angry over seemingly little things like people making noise, too many things happening, etc. that might be sensory overload

if you hate tags, or "fancy clothes," or the wrong kind of socks, or the way the belt doesn't sit quite right on your hips, or the feeling of doing dishes, or lights, or the sound of your air vents, or being the tiniest bit sweaty, or being hot at all, or the wrong types of fabrics, or the way your shirt creases at your elbow, that could be sensory issues

if you can "make eye contact" but you feel like you're staring into their soul, and you feel kinda weird and anxious about it and don't quite know where to look or how often to break it, and you can only do it when the other person's talking but you have to look around when you're talking to be able to "think," that's still having trouble with eye contact

if you've accumulated a huge list of comorbid conditions (OCD, BPD, chronic fatigue, EDS, anxiety, social anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, sleep disorders, ADHD, epilepsy, IBS, eating disorders, PTSD, psychosis, OCD) autism can often be the underlying missed diagnosis

if you had an evaluation before 2013 and were diagnosed with only ADHD, you might still have autism because the diagnoses used to be exclusionary (they would only choose one) even though they very commonly occur together

if you identify as a "highly sensitive person" you should definitely look into autism because the traits all overlap

if you "can socialize fine" but it's actually just people-pleasing and putting on a mask to fit in, that's not socializing naturally like a neurotypical would

if you "don't have special interests" but you're obsessed with a band, or a show, or psychology, or makeup, or some other socially acceptable interest.. those can still be special interests, it doesn't have to be something obscure

if you "don't stim" by hand flapping/jumping/using fidget toys, but you play with your phone all the time, or your hair, or pick at your skin, or repeat words/phrases/songs in your head, or hum to yourself, or make random noises, or crack your knuckles, or play with the clip on your pen, those are also stims (note: everyone stims to some degree)

if you have trouble with eating but can't quite figure out why, it feels disordered but you're confused because it has nothing to do with weight/body image, alexithymia and ARFID are both common issues that cause eating difficulties in autism and ADHD

Most autistic writers will advise you to have, at the very least, two autistic characters in your story, if you want to have any at all, and I'd say this applies to pretty much every marginalized community and minority.

Stereotypes are easier to fight if you have multiple examples of a community in your story and show how different two or more individuals can be despite the one or few thing(s) they have in common.

Autistics of Tumblr, what is your favorite or most random vocal stim?

I used to say "Eren Jaeger" in a deep voice whenever I saw a bird.

Neurodivergence creatures

Recently I've been finding more of the neurodivergence creatures and their names (though some aren't well known, I think).

So far, I've gathered:

• Autism — tbh

• ADHD — btw

• Anxiety — idk

• Depression — wtf

• Dissociative Disorder — brb

• OCD — idc [<- doesn't feel accurate. We have the alternative "jic" ("just in case")]

• Dyscalculia — nvm

I'm wondering if anyone knows of any others or has any idea of which abbreviations we could associate with other conditions.

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is autism itself;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is any other condition they do or do not have;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is seen as stereotypical within the community;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is their job, career or degree;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is a person, a group or a character;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is a show, a movie or a series;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is town, a country or another location;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is an art or a craft, even if underrated;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest is an activity or a sport;

Cheers to all the autistics whose special interest hasn't been mentioned above;

Cheers to all the autistics who do not have a special interest;

Cheers to all the autistics who are still figuring out theirs;

Cheers to all the autistics.

The autistic mood of knowing you should ask questions back to people but only remembering hours/days after and wondering if they felt hurt or upset because of it.

Unpopular opinion: don't hesitate in killing your characters.

Everyone speaks about how you shouldn't kill a character out of the blue, but why can't you? People die in real life too; there's no need for a bigger reason.

Just don't kill characters purely because you're tired of them — don't abuse your power as a writer.