you're her. act like it.
this is inspired by self-development's video on youtube
think about yourself
put yourself first, because trust me when i say that no one will put you first like how you put them first. women are entirely too scared to be called selfish; and that needs to change. you should never be afraid to say "no" or fill your own cup first.
being hated is a privilege
if someone is genuinely taking the time out of their miserable day to hate on you, more specifically when you've done nothing wrong, then take that as a compliment! who are they to talk about you, girl? if someone is trying their hardest to bring you down, then you're obviously above them. if you're standing on a ladder, you can't push down someone who's already on the ground. but if you're on the ground, you can easily push down the person on the ladder.
be irreplaceable; be different.
if you want so badly to be irreplaceable, then you simply have to be different. if you try to fit in and be "normal," then your ex-boyfriend or ex-friend will find someone else in no time.
stop overthinking
if you really need something in your life, God will give it to you. and if you really want something in your life, then you'll work for it. that friend left you? you'll get another one soon. you lost two dollars? you're getting your allowance next week. just stop overthinking everything.
Checklist for going into 2025
Before stepping into the new year, there are things we should reflect on and do in order to have a fresh start for the new year.
Set your goals and then set miniature gaols for each to make sure you will achieve them
Journal or diary for the new year
Make sure your space is clean, change your bedsheets and dust your room
Write down your achievements and what else you plan on doing
Make a vision board! Do it on Pinterest if you don’t want to print it out
Create affirmations
Clean out your phone
Think those thoughts that were always pushed into the back of your head
Create an alter ego and achieve to be like them
Figure yourself out
Try out a new style of clothing or makeup!
Figure out what your leaving behind in 2024 and what your bringing into 2025
confidence guide for awkward girls 💫
LEARN TO SHUT UP. this is the first advice because it is probably the most important one, but the one that took me the longest to comprehend and master. girl, literally just shutting the fuck up does wonders. most of the times I was embarrassed out of my mind was coz I said something completely avoidable, only because I believed that being quiet was either rude or more awkward than whatever I rambled at that moment. bzzt, WRONG! being quiet means first of all being non-reactive, which gives you time to really reflect on what's being said and whether or not it even requires a response, and guess what; like 80% of the time, it does not. you are allowed to not respond, nod along, go "hmm" or "oh!" and leave it at that.
LEARN TO "FAKE" SMILE. this may seem controversial but it helps me so much. I've always been accused of looking mean, bitchy or just too serious, especially since I started to shut the fuck up (see previous item). and I am guilty as charged: I do have a RBF and when I am focused my eyebrow goes ò_o and I look judgemental and almost evil, and when I tried to balance it out by being funny or witty, it just came off even more awkward. the solution? I've started practicing a fake smile in front of the mirror when I was about 13 years old until I got the muscle memory of it so perfectly that now it's my response to nearly everything that I don't want/can't respond to. throwing an easy smile into a conversation will make you seem relaxed and in control even if you're bubbling anxious inside, and people will feel more at ease with you. also: learn to be generous with compliments, and try to make them your auto-response as well!
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF. comparison is the mark of insecurity and envy, and it's one of the ugliest and most useless habits you can have. yes, useless: what benefit do you get from comparing your face and body and circumstances to somebody else's? and please don't pretend you're getting "inspiration" from them. listen, you are your own lane. you are your entire universe. there is no other life to be lived, no other body to embody. this is it. these are the cards you were dealt with. the longer you try to peak into somebody else's cards, the longer you'll be ignoring yourself and neglecting your game. abandon ideas such as comparison, imitation or judgement towards others. confidence starts and ends with focusing on yourself.
LEARN TO CUT PEOPLE OFF. accumulating people in your life like they're pokémon is gonna be your downfall, because it's obvious not everyone can stay. imagine if a growing tree held onto all its leaves and branches, even the ones in obvious decay, how ugly and weak that tree would be, how much energy those dying parts would steal from the new ones in need of flourishing. it's the same with relationships. when someone disrespects you, hurts you, or simply doesn't align with you anymore, and you find excuses to keep this person around, what you're doing is betraying yourself, and how are you gonna have confidence in someone who betrays you? learn to cut people off or to simply let them go, and watch yourself become lighter and brighter.
QUIT BEING A BITCH. something people don't seem to understand is that the rude, conceited, mean girl persona is always revealed to be a small, petty and insecure rat on the inside. I've wasted years of potential connections trying to emulate the Blair Waldorf-y, Regina George-y vibes, trying to balance out my awkwardness with what I thought was their fierceness, because I was missing the whole point that their confident selves were lies. no girl or woman who is confident in herself spends any amount of time being a bitch, scheming to take people down, minding everyone else's business to make sure she stays on top. true confident people are kind even in the face of rudeness, they glow in shadows; their strength lies in tenderness. the sooner you give this mean girl show up, the better.
ABANDON YOUR NEED FOR APPROVAL AND COMPREHENSION FROM OTHERS. seeking approval is a very obvious trap but seeking comprehension is also dangerous, because the second people start doubting or questioning you – which is always going to happen when you decide to make a change of habits, traits, lifestyle etc – and you decide to explain yourself, you're accepting the premise that what you're doing is incomprehensible. if you're truly sure of yourself, there will be no need to assure others of yourself. if your peers or strangers don't understand it, so what? that's their enigma to sort out. respond to yourself and yourself only. if you understand and approve yourself, that's all you need, period. live for your damn self.
GOOD LUCK, LITTLE STARS 💫
It's about you; you are the main character of your life.
Sometimes you need to get uncomfortable to get comfortable.
People who get angry at you for putting yourself first are the same people who benefit from you putting yourself last
You are allowed to say, "Nah, that's not good enough."
Stop wasting energy that you can use to become your best version.
Becoming selfish is the best thing I ever did.
I can make myself fulfilled, and whatever he gives me is just an extra.
Start now with what you have.
Enough crying, enough being sad, enough saying "tomorrow".
Sometimes you lose people that are not meant to be with the highest version of yourself, and you have to let those people go.
You vs. you, honey.
Some people just don't deserve you. Not mentally, physically or spiritually.
I don't argue with people because most of them are stupid.
People don't really care what happened to you or what you went through. They really care about what you can do for them.
Only here to impress myself.
When a Queen does not like her situation, she plans her exit.
Manifesting is a lifestyle.
The best revenge is creating a better life for yourself.
I started prioritising my own needs and wants; whatever I want goes first. That's it; I do not care anymore.
I could honestly go on forever since Liz has so many great things to say, so let me know in the comments if I should make a part 2! <3
✩‧₊*:・love ya ・:*₊‧✩
• Complete a task
• Doing self care activites
• Eating some food
• Celebrating your little wins.
• Playing with a dog
• Playing with a baby
• Holding hands
• Hugging someone
• Giving someone else a compliment
• Meditating
• Running
• Be in the sun
• Walk in nature
• Swimming
• Laughing exercises
• Essential oils
• Eating dark chocolate
• Running
be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there
experience new exciting things that bring you joy
love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections
make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free
stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book
do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down
move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying
listen to music that matches the moment you’re in
eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort
get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day
12.22-12.28 goals 💫
> 7k steps/day
> spend time outside
> read 2 books
> journal & reflect on the year
> perfect a holiday makeup look
> enjoy the celebrations 🎄
> relax & rejuvenate & enjoy my time off - it’s all about balance
Youtube channels for the girlies
Inspired by @prettypr1ncezz
Vlogs:
Adelala
Annika's Leaf
Daiz
Fernanda Ramirez
Isabela Juliana
mira daisy
Olivia Yang
Tips and Self-Improvement
Carolette Martin (spanish)
Elicia Gougen
Manifestelle
Pershephonesmind
Tam Kaur
TheWizardLiz
Academic tips and motivation
fayefilms
Galacsea
Isadora Vera (spanish)
studyquill
Study to sucess
Beauty
Dear peachie
Diana Gaby (spanish)
Isabel Lopez (spanish)
Jessica Vu
Vogue (Beauty secrets section)
Video essays and educational
Bailey Sarian
Jordan Theresa
Mina Lee
ModernGurlz
Psychology with Dr.Ana
Stephanie Lange
tiffanyferg
Exercise
fitbymik - Weight focused
Jessica Richburg - Yoga
Madeleine Abeid - Pilates
Btw, please recommend me more channels! I will aprecciate it 𑄽𑄺ྀ
rebellion isn’t what you think it is
Did u get my vibes man?
hey angels! whether you’re going out with friends, going to school/uni or just looking for some tips on what to keep in your every day bag, this is the list for you. i adore being that one girl who has everything in her bag - helping my friends and loved ones makes me feel really special and positive. plus i know that regardless of what’s going on or happening to me ill have it in my bag! enjoy and i hope you find this helpful.
lip balm
spf
perfume or body spray
hydration spray
lotion
hand cream
nail polish
small essential makeup kit (e.g lipstick, blush, concealer)
setting spray
deodorant
hairspray
makeup wipes/cleanser
compact mirror
hairbrush
eyedrops
painkillers/paracetamol
tampons, pads, period cup etc
tissues
cough sweets
plasters
aloe vera or burn cream
hand sanitiser
wet wipes
gum and mints
extra underwear
snacks - especially if you have low blood sugar or iron!
floss/tooth picks
any medication you take throughout the day/may need
face mask
a book
headphones
pack of cards
journal
a magazine
digital camera
wireless phone charger
charging cable
id
student id (discounts in shops etc)
travel cards/passes
wallet
change
house keys
water/some kind of drink
extra layer or room to remove extra layer
claw clip, hair ties
stain remover wipes
pen and small notepad
coin pouch
mini umbrella
sunglasses
nail file and scissors
tea bags
hair pins
mini fan
crystals/lucky charms
thank you for reading angels! if youd be interested in a more school/uni focused what to keep in your bag feel free to let me know!
love, m.