Be That Girl, You Have No Other Choice.

remember: going out for a walk on your neighborhood and getting a warm beverage and a buttery pastry can change your sour mood ☕

confidence guide for awkward girls 💫

LEARN TO SHUT UP. this is the first advice because it is probably the most important one, but the one that took me the longest to comprehend and master. girl, literally just shutting the fuck up does wonders. most of the times I was embarrassed out of my mind was coz I said something completely avoidable, only because I believed that being quiet was either rude or more awkward than whatever I rambled at that moment. bzzt, WRONG! being quiet means first of all being non-reactive, which gives you time to really reflect on what's being said and whether or not it even requires a response, and guess what; like 80% of the time, it does not. you are allowed to not respond, nod along, go "hmm" or "oh!" and leave it at that.

LEARN TO "FAKE" SMILE. this may seem controversial but it helps me so much. I've always been accused of looking mean, bitchy or just too serious, especially since I started to shut the fuck up (see previous item). and I am guilty as charged: I do have a RBF and when I am focused my eyebrow goes ò_o and I look judgemental and almost evil, and when I tried to balance it out by being funny or witty, it just came off even more awkward. the solution? I've started practicing a fake smile in front of the mirror when I was about 13 years old until I got the muscle memory of it so perfectly that now it's my response to nearly everything that I don't want/can't respond to. throwing an easy smile into a conversation will make you seem relaxed and in control even if you're bubbling anxious inside, and people will feel more at ease with you. also: learn to be generous with compliments, and try to make them your auto-response as well!

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF. comparison is the mark of insecurity and envy, and it's one of the ugliest and most useless habits you can have. yes, useless: what benefit do you get from comparing your face and body and circumstances to somebody else's? and please don't pretend you're getting "inspiration" from them. listen, you are your own lane. you are your entire universe. there is no other life to be lived, no other body to embody. this is it. these are the cards you were dealt with. the longer you try to peak into somebody else's cards, the longer you'll be ignoring yourself and neglecting your game. abandon ideas such as comparison, imitation or judgement towards others. confidence starts and ends with focusing on yourself.

LEARN TO CUT PEOPLE OFF. accumulating people in your life like they're pokémon is gonna be your downfall, because it's obvious not everyone can stay. imagine if a growing tree held onto all its leaves and branches, even the ones in obvious decay, how ugly and weak that tree would be, how much energy those dying parts would steal from the new ones in need of flourishing. it's the same with relationships. when someone disrespects you, hurts you, or simply doesn't align with you anymore, and you find excuses to keep this person around, what you're doing is betraying yourself, and how are you gonna have confidence in someone who betrays you? learn to cut people off or to simply let them go, and watch yourself become lighter and brighter.

QUIT BEING A BITCH. something people don't seem to understand is that the rude, conceited, mean girl persona is always revealed to be a small, petty and insecure rat on the inside. I've wasted years of potential connections trying to emulate the Blair Waldorf-y, Regina George-y vibes, trying to balance out my awkwardness with what I thought was their fierceness, because I was missing the whole point that their confident selves were lies. no girl or woman who is confident in herself spends any amount of time being a bitch, scheming to take people down, minding everyone else's business to make sure she stays on top. true confident people are kind even in the face of rudeness, they glow in shadows; their strength lies in tenderness. the sooner you give this mean girl show up, the better.

ABANDON YOUR NEED FOR APPROVAL AND COMPREHENSION FROM OTHERS. seeking approval is a very obvious trap but seeking comprehension is also dangerous, because the second people start doubting or questioning you – which is always going to happen when you decide to make a change of habits, traits, lifestyle etc – and you decide to explain yourself, you're accepting the premise that what you're doing is incomprehensible. if you're truly sure of yourself, there will be no need to assure others of yourself. if your peers or strangers don't understand it, so what? that's their enigma to sort out. respond to yourself and yourself only. if you understand and approve yourself, that's all you need, period. live for your damn self.

GOOD LUCK, LITTLE STARS 💫

Checklist for going into 2025

Before stepping into the new year, there are things we should reflect on and do in order to have a fresh start for the new year.

Set your goals and then set miniature gaols for each to make sure you will achieve them

Journal or diary for the new year

Make sure your space is clean, change your bedsheets and dust your room

Write down your achievements and what else you plan on doing

Make a vision board! Do it on Pinterest if you don’t want to print it out

Create affirmations

Clean out your phone

Think those thoughts that were always pushed into the back of your head

Create an alter ego and achieve to be like them

Figure yourself out

Try out a new style of clothing or makeup!

Figure out what your leaving behind in 2024 and what your bringing into 2025

2025 series: channels to replace mindless scrolling with useful and informational media

YOUTUBE CHANNELS

book & literature channels

a clockwork reader

according to alina

alexa raye

dakota warren

haley pham

jack edwards

jack in the books

justali

katie is reading

madison kait

peachapplebi

sara carrolli

sarah hafidh

the book leo

beauty channels

dear peachie

dilna dileep

emi’s spellbook

euphoric ash

genelle

gloria song

izzy shea

jackie wyers

jessica vu

jordaline reads

julianna lee

leah halton

lilrotini

murielle sunga

nails by vic

patricia pineda

the moments

tina engeo

vevina chu

self improvement & productivity channels

adama lorna

adete dahiya

anna lenkovska

annika

breanna quan

clarisseintheclouds

cozy k

fernanda ramirez

gigi mw

jasmine le

lavendaire

lenalifts

leo skepi

leyla tavas

mae alice suzuki

mikayla mags

muchelleb

nika erculj

rebecca jay

simmonesimmo

simmonesquared

sophie diloreto

tam kaur

thewizardliz

vickita trivedi

study & school channels

abao in tokyo

celine

deanna

emmalilyn

ginny

jack edwards

mango oatmilk

marie silva

melreads

merve

sean study

serena

study to success

studymd

yulma

dia

other channels

adhd couple - focus timers w/ cute backgrounds

chubbiesbyash - learning to crochet

coffee and cults - video essays

cruel world happy mind - video essays

etm’s studio - learning to crochet

final girl studios - video essays

hitomi mochizuki - holistic wellness

inayah - vlogs and self-growth talks

institute of human anatomy - medical and health education

isabella grace - beauty and vlogs

kiana davis - beauty and vlogs

kidology - video essays

lilthings - learning to crochet

mahum - learning to crochet

mira daisy - cute vlogs

mishujo - cozy, productive, and study vlogs

misstada - beauty and vlogs

moya mawhinney - vlogs and talks

nicole leilani - sewing & outfit inspo

olisunvia - video essays

olivia yang - cute vlogs

rachel oates - video essays

rotten mango - video essays

sandy diana bang - cute vlogs

saranghoe - cute and study vlogs

scarlett frazer - vlogs and beauty

sherrilyn dale - video essays

shin - aesthetic videos

stephanie soo - video essays

twinelle - vlogs

urmomsushi - vlogs, beauty, productivity, etc.

we’re all insane - podcast about people’s lives

yasmin the art person - diy and creative projects

workouts & stretches for posture

🤍 5 minute everyday pilates back routine by lidia mera

🤍 8 minute fix for neck hump by yuuka sagwa

🤍 8 minute upper body stretch by mizi

🤍 10 minute fix forward head & neck posture by mizi

🤍 10 minute fix your posture pilates style stretch by eleni fit

🤍 10 minute workout & stretch for round back by pamela reif

🤍 10 minute slim back & better posture by emi wong

🤍 10 minute fix posture & reduce back pain by mady morrison

🤍 20 minute posture correction by akshaya agnes

🤍 25 minute workout for better posture by growingannanas

🤍 25 minute pilates for better posture by move with nicole

🤍 30 minute pilates for upper body & posture by move with nicole

non-yoga stretch routines

under 30 minutes

5 minute daily stretch by madfit

7 minute post-workout stretch by daniela suarez

10 minute neck & shoulder stretch by growingannanas

10 minute lower body stretch by eleni fit

10 minute back pain relief stretches by mady morrison

10 minute stretches for neck, shoulders, and upper back by mady morrison

12 minute daily stretch by madfit

12 minute leg stretch by marie steffen

12 minute essential stretches by madfit

14 minute cooldown & relax stretch by mizi

15 minute neck, shoulder, & back stretch by eleni fit

15 minute neck, shoulder, & back deep tension relief stretch by eleni fit

15 minute recovery stretch by growingannanas

15 minute stretch for mobility & flexibility by growingannanas

15 minute post-workout stretch by madfit

15 minute relax & recover stretch by madfit

15 minute daily stretch by madfit

15 minute full body stretch by growingannanas

15 minute daily stretch by pamela reif

15 minute full body stretch by mady morrison

15 minute stretches for tight hips & lower back by mady morrison

15 minute leg stretch by mady morrison

15 minute daily stretch by fitbymik

20 minute lower body stretch by madfit

20 minute deep & dynamic stretch by marie steffen

20 minute full body deep stretch by marie steffen

20 minute hip & lower back stretch by eleni fit

20 minute full body daily stretch by eleni fit

20 minute stretch & strength for back pain by eleni fit

20 minute debloat stretch by eleni fit

20 minute full body stretch by eleni fit

20 minute daily stretch by emi wong

20 minute total body stretch by fitbymik

20 minute hip alignment routine by mizi

20 minute no talking full body stretch by yoga song

20 minute stretching for flexibility by daniela suarez

20 minute full body stretch by caroline girvan

20 minute beginner flexibility routine by madfit

24 minute leg stretch by hailey c.

25 minute full body stretch & mobility by madfit

25 minute no talking full body stretch by madfit

25 minute stretch & core by growingannanas

30+ minute routines

30 minute relax & recover stretch by growingannanas

30 minute full body stretching by pamela reif

30 minute beginner flexibility routine by madfit

30 minute flexibility stretching by eleni fit

30 minute flexibility stretching by eleni fit

30 minute stretching for flexibility & relaxation by eleni fit

30 minute full body deep stretch by marie steffen

30 minute full body daily stretch by yoga with tim

1 hour full body deep stretch by marie steffen

1 hour full body stretch by marie steffen

1 hour flexibility boost by marie steffen

This is a masterlist to help you , elevate your mindset. It only works if you actually implement it , just watching videos and daydreaming, will not.

I'm always open to suggestions to add any videos to this , just send me an ask or a comment

how to master your emotional intelligence

"friends" to watch out for

you are a queen , u were born one

bye bye lazy girl era

the song jia effect

overcome your phone addiction

acceptance and change

learning to value

not taking risks , is the biggest risk

the perfect student

your enemies are secretly addicted to you

creating a successful mindset

mindset is everything

being your own dream girl

stop being lazy and pathetic

an angels perfect winter morning: a guide . ݁₊ ⊹ . ݁˖ . ݁

hi angels! this winter i want to perfect my morning routine. i struggle alot with sleep and energy levels, especially during the first few weeks of winter so this guide is a perfect way for me to ensure i have enough energy to get on with a busy and full day and achieve all my goals! while i cant do all of this every day what i try to do is pick a few things to prioritise daily. i hope you enjoy this and find some good routine inspo! especially if you struggle a bit with slumps during the colder months. enjoy.

school/work days - 20 step routine . ݁₊ ⊹ . ݁˖ . ݁

wake up at 6:30 - 70:00.

open curtains and window (if not raining), let air circulate.

do a quick five or ten minute yoga/stretch routine while you watch the sunrise.

make bed (studies suggest its better to let your bed freshen with the sheets unmade first thing to stop the growth of certain bacteria etc).

dress.

clean teeth and floss.

drink glass of lemon water and salt (for natural electrolytes).

start packing lunch or snacks needed for the day.

make a cup of tea (my favourites are chai, green tea or matcha).

make breakfast (my go tos at the moment are turkey bacon and scrambled eggs, sautéed apple and yogurt or a porridge/oatmeal bowl).

clean teeth and mouthwash.

do am skincare.

style hair and jewellery.

make sure bag is fully packed.

journal for a few minutes and plan day.

read or listen to a podcast.

ensure all school work is up together/everything prepared for work.

fill up water bottle for the day.

set up room for when home, leave a cute lamp on, make sure your desk is tidy, lay out evening clothes etc.

put on motivational/winter playlist!

weekends - 20 steps . ݁₊ ⊹ . ݁˖ . ݁

wake up at 8 - 8:30.

open curtains and window.

ten minute yoga/stretch routine.

tidy room and make bed.

get dressed in workout clothes.

do a five minute oil pull then clean teeth.

drink glass of lemon water with salt.

make breakfast and a tea (i normally put mine in a travel mug).

fill up water bottle.

clean teeth and am skincare.

if weather nice go on a little morning walk (half an hour to forty minutes).

journal and light a candle, plan day.

workout (i aim to workout for an hour to an hour and a half on weekends).

have a shower.

body lotions/moisturiser.

file nails.

start any work/projects needed, aim to get all finished by end of morning.

during breaks read or listen to podcast.

start weekend clean of room, change bedsheets, clean surfaces etc.

spend time with family or friends!

i want my winter mornings to be slow and mindful, focused on caring for my body and mind and doing what i can to make this time of the year easier and gentle on every part of me! there are lots of complexities within these routines so consider this a fairly basic, un-detailed guide. i might try to make a guide for any changes i make during the winter/as it gets colder if that would interest you angels? thank you for reading and have a great start to winter!

love, m.

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