Hello! I Am Socially Anxious + Awkward And I Have Never Made A Tumblr Post Before But This Is Something

Hello! I am socially anxious + awkward and I have never made a Tumblr post before but this is something I've experienced myself as well. Some people are really not good with other people's triggers, my parents definitely aren't good with mine. And I guess some people are just gonna take things badly whatever you say to them. I've had this conversation with multiple friends/family members in the past, here's what I think I included:

• The fact that it's not personal, it's not about them specifically, and you would feel this discomfort if the topic came up with someone else too.

• The fact that it's totally not their fault because they didn't know, and you don't hate them for accidentally making you anxious (because they might feel a little guilty about it.)

• I was once so upset by something a friend said in front of me that I got really angry at them. I was like "I can't BELIEVE you didn't know that was triggering to me!" But people aren't clairvoyant and I should have calmed down first. So I guess, learn from my mistakes and have that talk when you're in a calm mood. My best piece of advice is to NOT have that talk when you actually feel triggered by something they said. Talk to them about it when you're feeling non-anxious.

• Idk just be gentle, give them as much information as you feel comfortable with as to why it's a trigger for you. Focus on the fact that by not talking about this thing, they would be helping you to feel happier and less anxious- anyone worth your time would want that for you. Hopefully you can work through it together, thank them for their sensitivity and move on. If you're both nice and kind about it, it shouldn't be too big of a deal!

This probably isn't all that helpful, but anyhow I hope it goes ok for you! :)

hi hello yes

I usually wouldn’t ask for help on here but I need genuine advice

how do I tell someone that I have a trigger that a lot of our conversations are about sometimes

like it gives me huge anxiety and it slowly gets worse and worse but I can’t bring myself to tell the person because I’m afraid they’ll be mad at me and it is just not going well DISBSJDGSH