I Relate To So Many Of These...i Would Love To Be A Mom But Theres So Many Reasons That I Cant

i relate to so many of these...i would love to be a mom but theres so many reasons that i cant

Reasons not to have children

- each good enough on their own, if you ever feel like articulating why you’re child-free (non-exhaustive list).

Because you don’t want children;

Because you don’t like children;

Because they are not suited to your temperament;

Because you don’t want to be benevolent, patient, kind and didactic;

Because they are too time-consuming;

Because they are too expensive;

Because you don’t think you have the right kind of voice for bed-time stories; or the will to tell them;

Because they are too noisy;

Because you love quiet and peace over everything else;

Because you want to be able to wake up when you want and not when they wake you up; because it would be detrimental to your sleeping-in;

Because it would be detrimental to your hobbies;

Because your living space is too small and you don’t want to change it;

Because cats are enough;

Because it would be a threat to your health;

Because you don’t want to pass down your genes;

Because you don’t want that kind of ‘immortality’;

Because you don’t want to go through nine months of pregnancy;

Because the thought of having a child grow inside you gives you the creeps;

Because you don’t want to go through the pains of childbirth;

Because you don’t trust the medical system to have your best interests at heart;

Because it would be detrimental to your career;

Because you don’t want to slave away at a job you hate to earn enough money to raise them;

Because you don’t want to have to worry about having enough money to raise them;

Because you don’t want the hassle of trying to ‘have-it-all’;

Because it’s a huge responsibility;

Because children deserve more than what you’re willing to give;

Because the world is a misogynistic place; because the world is a homophobic place; because the world is a racist place;

Because you would never have a good night of sleep ever again;

Because you would worry all your life about them and their well-being;

Because the world (and men) hates everything that is different;

Because you can’t guarantee they’ll be in good health;

Because you cannot protect your children from everything;

Because at some point they’ll be hurt and there’s nothing you can do about it;

Because you don’t know what today will be made of; because the world might be a bleak place in twenty, in thirty years; and what life a child would have then?

Because who are you to inflict life on a child?

Because you think less people on the planet can’t hurt the climate;

Because you don’t have the community to support you through it;

Because your mother’s wishes are not your own;

Because no-one is entitled to children or grandchildren;

Because your being fine acting as a doting aunt doesn’t bind you to anything more;

Because it’s hard to do alone and the last thing you want is to rely on a man;

Because children are often used by men against their mothers to trap them into abuse;

Because you don’t want to do what is expected of you—be a silent and meek housewife;

Because you hate the stereotypes attached to motherhood; because you don’t want them to be attached to you; because you know you don’t need to have children to change people’s opinions on motherhood;

Because you don’t want to be forever tied to a man;

Because you don’t fancy yourself into a supportive role for the rest of your life;

Because you can’t guarantee you’ll love them;

Because you can’t guarantee you won’t hate them;

Because you don’t know how to raise them; because you don’t think you can find a way to raise them and have them turn out right;

Because you don’t want to birth more misogynists—the world already has enough;

Because being a mother is not inevitable;

Because you’re not suited to motherhood;

Because being a woman doesn’t mean that you’ll be a mother one day;

Because you’re a lesbian; because this obsession with children is very heterosexual-centred and couldn’t be further from your priorities;

Because you want to be independent;

Because you want to live alone;

Because you want to achieve your dreams;

Because you’re busy with you own life;

Because you don’t want to make that kind of commitment—now, or ever;

Because you’re selfish*;

Because your life is valuable on its own; because you don’t need to have children for your life to hold worth;

And finally, because no man is entitled to your body, because you don’t have to justify to them your own decisions, feel free to use this one liberally:

It’s none of your business.

*That’s not a bad thing. You’re entitled to a life of your own, you’re not here to serve everyone else.