Me: *pouting Cuz I Want A Gf*

an intense argument

“Fuck you my child is completely fine.”

Your child has full length and ongoing conversations with their-self pretending they’re talking to fictional characters and said characters are responding to them.

Cinderella

25 ADHD Affirmations

**I am capable and resilient, even when faced with challenges.

I embrace my unique way of thinking and processing information.

My worth is not determined by productivity or external achievements.

I am deserving of understanding and support from myself and others.

I acknowledge my strengths and celebrate my accomplishments, big and small.

I am more than my ADHD; I am a complex and valuable individual.

I deserve self-compassion, especially during difficult moments.

I am constantly learning and growing, and that is a significant achievement.

My worth is inherent, and I do not need to prove it to anyone.

I am not defined by my challenges; I am defined by how I overcome them.

I choose to focus on what I can control and let go of what I cannot.

My self-worth is independent of external judgments or opinions.

I am worthy of taking breaks and practicing self-care without guilt.

I have the power to create positive change in my life.

My journey is unique, and I honor the progress I've made.

**I am deserving of love and acceptance just as I am.

My journey with ADHD is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

I release the need for perfection and embrace my authentic self.

I am not defined by my mistakes; I learn and move forward.

My worth is not determined by the pace at which I accomplish tasks.

I choose to focus on my strengths and use them to my advantage.

I am a valuable and important part of my community and relationships.

My creativity and unique perspective bring value to the world.

I am resilient, and I have the strength to overcome obstacles.

I am worthy of setting boundaries that prioritize my well-being.

PLEASE draw dean in silly boxers slippers and cas’s trenchcoat getting vending machine snacks , we need it so bad

Ok

(his boxers say ➡️🍆 DONT NEED A PERMIT FOR THIS !GUN!)

media that uses cannibalism and vampirism as an allegorical expression of desire, love, and hunger >>>>

Workbooks to improve executive functioning

Since the post I made last night about improving executive functioning was so popular, I figured I should pull these out of my comments and give them their own post, in case it's helpful for people.

I have worked with the publishers of all of the books linked below and can vouch for their psychology books. The publisher of most of them, New Harbinger, is an extremely credible evidence-based psychology publisher.

Obvious disclaimer that everyone's brain is different and what works for someone else may not work for you.

Is there evidence that executive functioning can be improved? Yes. This book appears to be a very thorough overview of the field, and contains both advocates and detractors of cognitive training, for a balanced perspective. From the table of contents, I would really recommend jumping straight to Part 3: Developmental Perspectives for executive functioning (EF) writ large.

Certain therapy modalities are specifically designed for skill-building in areas like impulsivity, decision-making, emotional regulation, and cognitive flexibility, all of which are EF skills or very dependent on EF skills. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is probably the best field to look at for these - skill-building in those areas is its core goal.

Some DBT workbooks:

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Teens

There are also a lot of workbooks for ADHD that are sometimes more broad but also can help with executive functioning:

The Adult ADHD and Anxiety Workbook: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Skills to Manage Stress, Find Focus, and Reclaim Your Life

The CBT Workbook for Adult ADHD: Evidence-Based Exercises to Improve Your Focus, Productivity, and Wellbeing

The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD

General executive functioning workbooks:

The Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens

Executive Functioning Workbook for Adults: Exercises to Help You Get Organized, Stay Focused, and Achieve Your Goals

Hope these are helpful to someone!!

One thing I love about Cemetery Boys is that Julian explains he doesn’t talk in Spanish because that was the language he spoke with his dad and when his dad died, Spanish became to intimate to speak with others. Later, he starts speaking Spanish here and there but only to Yadriel or in reference to Yadriel. As readers we can easily trace when Julian started falling for Yadriel by noticing when he uses Spanish to communicate. (I mean we can track it in other ways because our boy Julian is not into subtlety) From the moment Julian thought he was dying and answered all of Yadriel’s questions in Spanish to “¿Me dejas robarte un beso?” to  “Mi querido!”(We will not talk about his desperate cries). It took me more than a minute to understand the significance of Julian suddenly speaking in Spanish, but when I did I had tears in my eyes. This beautiful idiot, how dare he do this to me.

People love the trope of characters speaking in their native languages to their cherished ones and I never really understood what the big deal was until freaking now. I’ve never seen characters in books speak lovingly to each other in Spanish before and I feel robbed. Somehow, I’ve been living too long in a country that regards Spanish as a vulgar language(you must assimilate and that means not speaking your native tongue) and I forgot how beautiful and romantic Spanish can be. 

Anyways, I want to see more of this. Two idiots tenderly speaking to each other in Spanish while their loved ones stare at them dumbfounded.