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Major Father Custody Myths 👨👧👦⚖️

There is a major MRA/redpill/manopshere talking point that needs to be confronted and debunked. Many redpillers argue that the family courts are unfair to fathers in custody disputes and always let the mother have the children.

It's important for women thinking about having children to realize that this isn't true. You could absolutely lose your kids.

First, the great majority (over 90%) of the time, the father doesn't ask for custody. It is a sad fact that when a male loses sexual access to the mother of his children (whether she breaks up with/divorces him or vice versa), he doesn't care about his children anymore. Of course, this is not always the case, but a large percentage of the time, possibly most of the time. This data point belies males' assertion that they care about and love their kids and the big, bad woman is keeping them away.

Second, the majority (about 70%) of the time when males request at least half custody, they receive it. Horrifyingly, abusive fathers are more likely to want full custody, and they often receive it. In fact, in multiple states, a rapist can get custody of the resulting baby. Remember that not long ago domestic violence and child sexual assault were considered "family matters."

Third, many males who have custody aren't even raising their own kids. Their own mother or sister or the new girlfriend is actually watching the kids. This is largely due to the fact that 75% of childcare is done by the mother, not the father, so many males do not know how to take care of their children, what their routines are, what their allergies are and the ins-and-outs of their medical conditions, etc. Most of the time these women are not getting paid to watch the kids, and the only reason he even asked for custody is so he doesn't have to pay child support as well as to spite the mother. We have all seen fathers go viral and get treated like superheroes for doing something simple such as brushing their kid's hair.

I have a couple anecdotes related to the above. I was once friends with someone who was dating a cop who was not in his 4-year-old daughter's life. When I asked why, she regurgitated to me what he had told her, that the evil woman wouldn't let him see his child. I told her that getting the other parent considered "unfit" by the court was actually a pretty high bar to meet and that especially with him being a cop, all he would have to do if he actually cared was to go to court and request joint custody, that he would surely get it. We all know of cases where CPS even gave kids back to drug-addicted, negligent, or violent parents. I informed her she was dating someone who didn't care about his kid. Her face was priceless.

In another situation, when my sister was a teen, she was friends with someone whose father had done prison time for raping a 16-year-old-girl and a 14-year-old boy. He was a house painter, which is how he had access to them. My sister's friend was a 16-year-old girl and her brother was a 14-year-old boy, the exact demographics of those their father had raped. Their mother allowed him back in the house when he got out of prison, which, shockingly, the law also allowed him to do. In fact, my mother didn't find out he was a convicted child sex offender until my sister had slept over at their house multiple times.

This is an important manopshere talking point to rebut and about which to set the story straight because it's one of those myths even women calling themselves "feminists" have largely fallen for. Please do not make children with males. There are a lot of great reasons not to do so, but this is definitely one of them. Do not go into parenthood with a false sense of security and wearing rose-colored glasses believing that if things go downhill, the children will stay with you.

i really like the definition of “adult human female” because it says “thats all it is. its not femininity, makeup, submissiveness, softness, anything. all it is is biology. the rest is up to the individual”

I can feel concern for any woman that I want. "She doesn't need your pity." She doesn't have it. She has my concern. "She's rich, she's doing just fine." Great, she still has my concern. "She's sexually liberated, you're being weird." Dope. As she should be. She still has my concern. "You sound like a Karen." I've seen what you define as a Karen, so that doesn't mean anything. She still has my concern. "She wouldn't give a damn if you were the one going through it."

My feminism is not conditional. She has my concern.

makeup is a prison for women the reason i say that is because if you can’t go outside without a full face of makeup you’re imprisoning yourself

the term "tirf" just reminds me of those people who call themselves atheists but gasp when you criticize a religion other than the one their strict parents raised them in

The more I debate with TRAs, the more I realise that they genuinely believe that masculinity and feminity DO NOT exist as social concepts but rather as individual traits that can be mixed and matched and then attached to a word. For example, talking to a transman, I asked them what masculinity is, and they responded with "it is whatever you want it to be" or a good one I always hear is "masculinity means different things to different people".

TRAs genuinely believe that the concepts of masculinity and femininity are traits that are just attached to words. These words are empty vessels that THEY attach meaning to. They aren't defining a word; they are describing THEMSELVES. So when you ask a Trans person, "What are masculinity and femininity?" to them the question is received as "Describe who you are? or Describe yourself?" Thus, why, gender is something that is/can mean anything to anybody.

They have no structural conceptualisation of gender because, to them, gender is not a tool or even an ideology. It is the self. So when radfems say "woman is not a gender" or "women are adult human females," they cannot conceptualise or even grasp this because, to them, gender is the self. How can women be without the 'self'?

If you are Trans and reading this, you are describing gender as a personality. LMAO.

i cannot put into words how sad i get when i see girls/women talking about wanting to get cosmetic surgery. there is nothing fucking wrong with having a face/body. why do you need to drop thousands to live up to a beauty standard? “omfg it’s her choice. y’all are feminists until it comes to what she chooses to do with surgery”. yes because why did she feel the need to make that choice? why can’t we accept that plastic surgery is meant to feed off of women’s insecurities?

i remember being told when i was about 12 and wanted to be a doctor “you could be a plastic surgeon” and immediately saying that i didn’t wanna see women pay me to “fix” them. i hate plastic surgery so bad. i know societal pressure is rough but it’s really not worth it :(

Women in the west cannot be free until women in countries where western men go to do sex tourism are free. Rich women cannot be free until poor women are not being coerced into either sex/reproductive/domestic exploitation. White women cannot be free until black women do not face unique risks of sexual violence from the police, domestic violence from their peers, or maternal death. Abled women cannot be free until disabled women do not face increased risk of sexual violence from caretakers. Straight women cannot be free until lesbians have the right to say NO to men, without question or coercion. Our struggles are linked, and protections for the more vulnerable among us mean at that the more privileged among us have a better negotiating postion at the very least.

When some dude complains that feminists should shut up because women somewhere else have it worse:

weirdo: i like watching women be abused

liberals: >:(

weirdo: it’s a sex thing???

liberals: :) ok sorry carry on