Please think before you comment on people's physical traits/appearance! There is NO NEED WHATSOEVER to shame, belittle or otherwise mess with someone's feelings because of something as superficial and unimportant than looks!! It's dumb, it's insensitive, it's unnecessary, uncalled for and oftentimes simply cruel.
Care for some examples?
I was walking my dogs once and stopped at a local dogpark where an elder woman started chatting to me. She was nice enough, but all of a sudden she asked why I didn't get my teeth fix. Yeah, I am 100% aware that I have crooked front teeth. I don't really care, I accept them the way they are, back then I also was not generally in a good mental state and such a comment felt downright mean and utterly out of place. Luckily, I was able to tell her as much by coolly stating that this was none of her business and that it's extremely impolite and rude to say something like that...
I've also had several occassions in my life where people told me negative things about my hair which is not only rude, but also plain racist. European, white people telling me, a PoC, that I should get another hairstyle 'cuz it would look "much better"?! I mean, do they even know what they are suggesting?! Yeah, get over it; not everybody needs to have fair, straight hair. I like my hair the way it is naturally: curly, sometimes a little messy, and whenever I dye it, I do it because I enjoy being colorful (I had it pink for quite some time), but that's my decision and no one else's business and maybe these people should take a long hard look at themselves and understand how utterly brainwashed they have been to believe that there is exactly ONE way of being beautiful/handsome/pretty.
Also, do not comment on people's weight!! Seriously?! Why is this even still a thing?! You know NOTHING about a person's history, about their eating habits, their routines, you don't know whether they are struggling with an eating disorder and you certainly don't get to decide what their body has to look like for them to like and celebrate themselves!! It's just not okay to tell someone "Oh, you used to be so thin, what happened?" or "You have lost way too much weight, it doesn't suit you at all!" or "You've grown fat since I last saw you" - CUT THAT SH*T!!
Also, you don't have to comment on other people's fashion preferences; if you don't want to wear skinny jeans or leoprints or bright neon colors or cheap shoes or wheaver, well, you are not obliged to do so, but let other people wear whatever they want and just LEAVE THEM ALONE.
"We cannot read the darkness. We cannot read it. It is a form of madness, albeit a common one, that we try." - Maggie Nelson, Bluets
So I just watched TÁR tonight and I'm SO SO obsessed and overwhelmed and going through A LOT right now because honestly?! This movie is a masterpiece of cinematography and I enjoyed every second immensely which is a huge achievement for a 2h 39 min long movie but this one was not one second too long! Honestly, I could have watched 2 more hours of Cate Blanchett acting like this. Her acting was PEAK PERFORMANCE, it was so vivid and authentic and nuanced and simply brilliant. My eyes were glued to the screen and I was hooked from minute one. Cate Blanchett really pulled this one of; the film is worth the watch in itself, but Cate Blanchett is what made it truly outstanding and remarkable. I can't think of any other actress that whould have been able to do this the way Cate did. I'm in awe. Sorry for fangirling but trust me, you should watch this one!
So I found this Fanfiction somehow when going down the rabbit hole of shipping Alex Cabot and Olivia Benson from "Law and Order: SVU" once again - and for me, it is THE Cabenson Fanfic. Nah, that's an understatement. It is such a beautifully written, touching, heartmelting story that I found myself reading it again and again. It's almost cathartic. The characters are just so well written and I love how their development both as individuals and as a couple is described in such a relatable, healthy way. This author really knows their stuff, folks!
Trigger warning for mentions of (past) sa, (internalized) homophobia and trauma/PTSD.
Title of Fic: "Stay"
Author: elphiemolizbethbau
Fandom/Pairing: "Law and Order: SVU", Alex Cabot/Olivia Benson
Synopsis: Young, professionally scuessful ADA Alexandra Cabot feels herself drawn to Detective Olivia Benson. In a bad state, she one day surprisingly appears at Olivia's door and the two women slowly form a bond, their romantic feelings for each other growing stronger each day. But when they finally give in to their feelings, Liv soon finds Alex' erratic behavior quite puzzling and tries to get the younger woman to confide in her. Only when Alex reveals the horrific trauma she had to endure in her childhood and youth, the two women can truly start working at their relationship, with all the highs and lows, setbacks and challenges this involves.
Rating: M
Let's do this till 2am
cmon girlies we’re picking out a 10k+ single chapter fic on ao3 to read stomach down head turned towards our phones held next to our pillows as we move only our thumbs to scroll until our sedatives knock us out
not gonna lie, every wes anderson movie gives me exactly this vibe
I do wholeheartedly believe Wes Anderson is a sick sick freak. I like his movies but I definitely think this guy has like a hidden room in his spacious french apartment that he slips into quietly each night and it is just filled with tiny little doll replicas of all the actors he's ever used in any of his movies and he puppets them around and mimicks their voices and shit. and sometimes he'll text Owen Wilson pictures of his little doll with a comb or something from an untraceable number and pair it with like "see how I take care of you Owen?" and then the following day Owen Wilson will find him at the service table and go, "Geez Wes look at this," and Wes will pretend to be all concerned and horrified but there is this calculating almost eager look in his eyes that unsettles Owen Wilson. and the next time Wes is having a little soiree with all his actors, his beloved beloved actors, maybe Owen Wilson will accidentally get lost on his way to the beautiful bathroom and find that little room and see all those dolls and his throat will hitch with horror. And before he can call Bill Murray or Adrian Brody to look a dark silhouette will appear in the doorway and Wes looks sort of resigned when he says, "I see you finally found my secret, Owen," and Owen Wilson will try and pretend that he's fine with it but they both know better. and Wes will go (the look in his eyes back again) "We both know this can't get out, right?" and he'll grin very suddenly and Owen Wilson will laugh along very nervously and leave the room and eat some brioche and when the evening is over he will rush over to his Prius and frantically click his keys but over the cobbles on the beautiful beautiful street there is the sound of footsteps. and tears are running down Owen Wilson's cheeks but he can't say a word and Wes, emerging from the shadows, will gently touch him on the shoulder and say, "look, I'll drive you to the airport, huh?" and Owen Wilson will try to refuse but they both know it's futile. and, halfway through the drive, Wes Anderson will smile and say, "I'll miss working with you" and then perfectly jump and roll out of the car, wiping off his corduroy pants, while Owen Wilson's Prius swerves into a local patisserie, bursting into flames
And I'm still waiting for Liv to finally come out of that closet and marry her darling Alex Cabot 😭
IF Elliot and Olivia finally smash faces on the 26th after two fucking decades - just know that I will literally never fucking shut up about it.
As bad as I was when Rollisi finally got their heads out of their asses, I will be unbearable with EO
Okay, but season 2 episode 2 of Rizzoli & Isles?! It's somehow so sweet and tender and desperately makes me want to write a fluffy Rizzles fic about them becoming parents together… I actually already have some ideas how this could go, now I just need days to be longer so I can write lol… In the meantime, I'll just continue to gush about them with the baby - I mean, Maura is defo looking at Jane and smiling to herself as if she's wondering what it would be like to have kids together with her..ugh, imagine how cute that would be^-^
Side note: Love how Maura is so kind with Jane's mom Angela, like the way she immediately buys the painting Angela had created herself and that she even sets her up as a kangaroo carer for premature newborns… it makes Jane go so soft for her, Maura is simply the best wife she could ever hope for * awwws*
Feeling a little nostalgic today
#nostalgia #memories
Alain de Botton // Jon Kabat-Zinn // unknown
Shipping: Wlw fanfiction - Cabenson, Calzona, Vauseman, Rolivia ect. - slow burn for life - poetry - literature - nature photography - Sony Alpha cameras - dogs - hiking all year round - Iced Coffee - vegetarian food - all things sapphic really - memes for life - Insta addict but I'll draw the line at TikTok - Dark Academia - good movies in small independent movie theaters - sh*tposting - oversharing on the internet - therapy & mental health - depressed bean - but only a little unhinged - okay, somewhat cringe but yay - the Introvert Experience
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