For if a room that exists under the governance, authority, and intent of others seems smaller than it is, then a room that exists in secret can, regardless of its dimensions, seem as vast as one cares to imagine.
Personal growth demands that you contradict yourself. Unless you do that you remain a slave to what you currently know, think or feel. Don't look for mirrors in conversation with others that they reflect what you say. Don't look for Black holes to converse with who soak in everything you say but look for people who question the validity of your world view and have ability to think differently.