It is so easy to develop negative mindsets when something bad happens to us. But “Good” or “Bad” who knows. What is negative or positive? when you can’t see the full picture. Something Bad may be Good in the long run, who knows.
Anxiety stems from shame. It is the idea that who you are or what you are doing is “not right,” therefore eliciting a rush of energy designed to help you “fix” or change it. You’re suffering because there’s nothing you can fix to make that urgent, panicked feeling go away. It’s a mismanaged perception of who and how you are.