How much can we ever know about the love and pain in another heart? How much can we hope to understand those who have suffered deeper anguish, greater deprivation, and more crushing disappointments than we ourselves have known?
Living the life you want even when others around you despise you is no punishment. Real punishment is living with guilt of not chasing your passion and dreams.
Personal growth demands that you contradict yourself. Unless you do that you remain a slave to what you currently know, think or feel. Don't look for mirrors in conversation with others that they reflect what you say. Don't look for Black holes to converse with who soak in everything you say but look for people who question the validity of your world view and have ability to think differently.