things that happened to me when i was a woman in STEM:
an advisor humiliated me in front of an entire lab group because of a call I made in his place when he wouldn't reply to my e-mails for months
he later delegated part of my master's thesis work to a 19-year old male undergrad without my approval
a male scientist at a NASA conference looked me up and down and asked when i was graduating and if i was open to a job at his company. right before inquiring what my ethnicity was because i "looked exotic"
a random male member of the public began talking over me and my female advisor, an oceanographer with a pHD and decades of experience, saying he knew more about oceanography than us
things that have happened to me since becoming a man in STEM:
being asked consistently for advice on projects despite being completely new to a position
male colleagues approaching me to drop candid information regarding our partners / higher ups that I was not privy to before
lenience toward my work in a way I haven't experienced before. incredible understanding when I need to take time off to care for my family.
conference rooms go silent when I start talking. no side chatter. I get a baseline level of attention and focus from people that's very unfamiliar and genuinely difficult for me to wrap my head around.
like. yes some PI's will still be assholes regardless of the gender of their subordinates but, I've lived this transition. misogyny in STEM is killing women's careers, and trans men can and do experience male privilege.
I did in fact get some sexual encounters ruined by laughing
Hey, your arms are going to shake when you hold yourself above someone for a while during missionary. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, your thighs and lower back are going to start aching eventually, and you'll need to change positions or slow down. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, your tummy is going to make noises when you're anxious during your first few times with them. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, you're going to burst out giggling sometimes. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, you're going to dislike one, two, or a few things you thought you would've liked. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, you're going to struggle to finish sometimes. Or keep it in. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, you're going to stumble around sometimes. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey, you're going to need to take a few deep breaths sometimes. It won't ruin the moment.
Hey. You won't ruin the moment.
And if they say that you have, they don't deserve a moment with you.
♡♡♡
People hypothesize that Elon Musk's child's gender transition was the thing that pushed him off the edge and turned him into what we see now. I don't know if it's true, but if it is, it's so supremely ironic. They _told us_ that transgender ideology will bring the western civilization down, but we didn't listen!
I've seen dogs take the subway alone. They're smart
"Men in dresses are seen as bad, but women in pants aren't!"
is not the statement that "men can't be feminine but women can be masculine in society" that you think it is.
Let me introduce: women with facial hair. Full beards. Mustaches. Bald women. Bodybuilder women. Women with visible body hair. These aren't "more acceptable" than men in dresses.
Pants don't have a gendered association anymore, while dresses do. There is something to be said for that, but it certainly ISN'T "masculine women are acceptable now."
Several documentaries publically treating Luigi Mangione as guilty before his trial even started got released over the past 2 months.
Here's the billion dollar companies behind them.