Re: The Dating Ppl Who Recently Transitioned Poll. I'm T4t And I Probably Wouldnt Date Someone Who Very

re: the dating ppl who recently transitioned poll. I'm t4t and I probably wouldnt date someone who very recently realized they were trans, bc as someone who has been out for a long time (self discovery starting 15 years ago) I often take a mentorship-like role with ppl just starting on that journey. I absolutely LOVE having the opportunity to walk with ppl through the rollercoaster of feelings that early transition tends to pose, and I'm honored to be able to support and affirm them. but the mentor-mentee experience gap does feel kind of like "dating younger" so I'd feel like I was taking advantage of them being vulnerable with me, until they've found their footing. It's an honor to be there when someone's egg cracks, but in a partner I want someone who, like me, has already processed a lot of those feelings and with whom I share in confidence and joy for our transness. Also, when I was newly out I had a bunch of crushes on more "senior" trans ppl that turned out to be gender envy and looking-up-to-them rather than actual romantic feelings. And I've had multiple experiences of being on the other end of that with friends too, so when a "young" trans person tells me they like me, I say "give it some time and get to know yourself, then if the feelings are there in a couple years we will revisit this." Bc honestly it feels really bad when it turns out someone didnt like *you*, it could have been any supportive trans person and I just happened to be there. So it's not about who is more trans, just about matching life stages.

i agree completely, thanks for sharing!