The Thing Nobody Tells You About Self-deprecation Is That It’s A Gateway Drug To Making Other People

The thing nobody tells you about self-deprecation is that it’s a gateway drug to making other people feel shitty about themselves.

You think you’re only hurting yourself with your crappy self talk but if I complain about how bad my writing/stories are on main, say they’re garbage or that I don’t understand why anyone would read them, then what does that say about the people who love them? I’m a popular writer in my fandom and I know that objectively, I’m a good writer. If I call myself shit, then how are people going to think I feel about their work?

Making anything is hard and we all complain, but I think it’s important to differentiate between “I think this is genuinely bad” and “I think things about this need to be reworked to be better” and “I hate everything so I need to go eat something” and tweak what you do about it accordingly.

Sometimes that means tweaking your audience and sometimes it means keeping that shit to yourself entirely.

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tiredhams

6 months ago

Happy ISAT anniversary!!!

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tiredhams

1 year ago

TMA 21- Freefall

“Just the empty, blue sky in all directions as he fell into it. He wanted to pull the ripcord, to unfurl his parachute, but his hand wouldn’t close over the grip. So he just fell.”

I love this ep, generally I really like the ones about the Vast

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tiredhams

2 years ago

Kiss my tears away

Mizuena (explodes)

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tiredhams

3 years ago

He gotta manage the train somehow y’know

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tiredhams

11 months ago

Me when indie timeloop game

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tiredhams

3 years ago

Reagan

God I love Inside job. It was a good show

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tiredhams

6 months ago

Bonnie arguing with adult about a pot of soup.

Image text: Back to chef cooker duty!

Bonnie pours soup into a bowl, Mira talks to them.

Image text: Siffrin got really sick after the world ending stuff.

Bonnie running down a corridor with soup in hand.

Image text: They crafted again after we told him not to! Dummy!

Bonnie runs through an open door yelling. Odile shushes them as Siffrin lays in bed sweating.

Image text: Lucky him you have the best soup for craft sickness.

Odile sleepily sits in bed cleaning off her glasses.

Image text: You're less stressed now that the country is saved.

Isabeau packs a bag while Odile walks out the front door.

Image text: You'd relax in Dormont more but you can feel everyone's impatience.

Odile stares at Siffrin, clutching his hat while Siffrin looks out to the distant wistfully.

Image text: All ready to get back on the road and enjoy life without the King's curse.

Siffrin smiles behind his cloak collar as Odile gives his hat back. Mirabelle waves goodbye to the villagers in the background.

Image text: You don't actually mind, you enjoy the company more than the location.

Isabeau and Mirabelle walk side by side looking for a building on their map.

Image text: Oh thank Change you're medicated again.

Mirabelle pays for two rooms despite the front desk refusing payment. Bonnie leans on Mirabelle almost asleep.

Image text: You don't think you can deal with the Savior treatment otherwise.

Mirabelle watches Siffrin dejectedly go up the inn stairs.

Image text: Maybe one day you'll clear up the Chosen one misunderstanding...

Mirabelle combs SIffrin's hair, staring down at him with concern. Siffrin looks away with a sad face.

Image text: But you have enough on your hands getting Siffrin to be truthful with you.

Isabeau peers over at Odile and MIrabelle chatting over a book.

Image text:You can tell the group dynamic is slowly shifting.

Isabeau smiles at Bonnie catching up with Petronille.

Image text: Or well you're not the main support rock anymore.

Siffrin finds Isabeau staring at the horizon on the beach.

Image text: You'd feel a little more conflicted about it

Isabeau and SIffrin hold hands, smiling at each other at sunset.

Image text: But it's nice being open about your feelings too.

Loop sits on the Favor Tree roots, eye twitching.

Image text: I can't live with myself

Siffrin holding Loop's face, both of them teary eyed.

Image text: So how could I live with you?

Loop stands in a white void, back to a bright circular light.

Image text: You have your rest so let me have mine.

Loop in fetal position as the image of the Head Housemaiden comforts them.

Image text: Let me grieve for what I lost too.

Change God, as Loop, looking over with smiles in their eyes.

Image text: I don't play least faves so here's a fun tip!

Loop looks over in shock at the Change God.

Image text: this form you have, it's not permanent.

Loop shaking with fury as Change God, as the Head Housemaiden, smiles and points a finger at them teasingly.

Image text: think of it like a costume u got on!

Loop gets beamed away as the Change God watches them leave.

Image text: u can take it off in time, can't wait to se u try! see u later!!!

Happy one year anniversary ISAT! To celebrate I wanted to share the lil strips I made for my friends when they reached the end of the game! They're all meant to be snippets of life post game and a glimpse into the world I'm making for Loop.

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tiredhams

7 months ago

Cold weather enjoyer FREAKS when they’re shivering and tensed up and can’t feel their toes and their face hurts and