I Actually Love Hearing About Reformed People's Stories. I Love Hearing About People Who Were In Toxic

I actually love hearing about reformed people's stories. I love hearing about people who were in toxic communities or people who used to objectively be dickheads talking about how they got out of that. How they made themselves better.

I hate how most people's initial reaction to stories like that are things like:

"How could you have ever done those things?!" "Oh my god, you believed those things?!" "Well it doesn't un-do the harm you did!"

People incessantly advocate for change but then refuse to allow people who have changed the grace of being acknowledged and given opportunities and chances.

I love hearing about ex-antis talking about how they don't spend their days being angry and sending death threats anymore.

I love hearing about ex-homophobes who realized there's no magic law about what is "natural."

I love reformed bullies talking about how they made amends with their victims and spend their days being considerate of others.

You can't scream about wanting people to change but then expect them to spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past and on who they used to be. You can't expect people to spend the entire rest of their lives grovelling and apologizing and demeaning themselves.

Instead of clinging to who they were, latch onto who they are.

Ask how they got out of it. Commend them on changing. Enjoy that there's one less cause of harm in the world.

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3 years ago

Midoriya: I have so many ideas! I love working on projects!

Uraraka: Then why haven’t you finished the 5 projects you have going?

Midoriya: My brain is a complicaTed machine that we may never understand-


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3 years ago

Mina: -kinda like Dracula

Kaminari: Saw that movie.

Midoriya: Read that book.

(from Ghosts of the Shadow Market)


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3 years ago

Bakugou: What are you doing dunce?

Kaminari, happily: Eating a poptart

Mina, stealing his poptart: No longer!

Kaminari, now full of fury: Return my poptart or face my wrath.

Mina: Alright, returning the poptart.


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2 years ago

Mina: How are you today?

Kirishima, watching Bakugou pass by: Gay

Mina: ?

Kirishima: I mean ok!


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3 years ago
October Art Challenge! I Can't Draw But Maybe You Can.

October art challenge! I can't draw but maybe you can.


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3 years ago

Mina: I made a meme of bakugou

Kaminari: Lemme see

Mina:

Mina: I Made A Meme Of Bakugou

Kaminari: That’s not Bakugou that’s just a Mood™️


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2 years ago

You all say "Oh I love enemies to lovers" like which one?

Villian tries to play games but the hero cuts through it and makes them fall in love?

Villian is hurt and the hero heals them?

Hero is the first person to show them empathy and they fall slowly?

Hero is chaotic and hot-blooded and makes the villain's cold heart beat again?

The "I see good in you" trope?

Or do you mean 'rivals to lovers', where we have

"Don't touch me" one and the one who flirts despite the attitude?"

"Why can't we put our differences aside" and "I hate you"?

The 'stoic hunter' and the hunted who tries to make them laugh, with no sense of self-preservation?

Maybe where they ask "why do you hate me?" and the answer is "It's better than loving you"?

Or maybe you like one-sided pining?

The one who wants the hero but thinks they're too far gone to even try?

The hero who creates narratives of excuses that just aren't there to support their crush?

The soul-crushing of the hero watching the villain who once loved them consumed by apathy and hatred?

There are so many more, and you just say enemies to lovers?


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10 months ago

"Pride month is over"

WRONG! Your pride month is over! Me and all the other disabled queers are having pride month two: disability edition

10 months ago

In case you’ve been doomscrolling like me some mild positives

The Best News of Last Month - June 2024

💡Eco-friendly innovations building a better future—literally

1. Bill Gates-backed startup creates Lego-like brick that can store air pollution for centuries: 'A milestone for affordably removing carbon dioxide from the air'

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

The Washington Post detailed a "deceptively simple" procedure by Graphyte to store a ton of CO2 for around $100 a ton, a number long considered a milestone for affordably removing carbon dioxide from the air. Direct air capture technologies used in the United States and Iceland cost $600 to $1,200 per ton, per the Post.

2. Violent crime is down and the US murder rate is plunging, FBI statistics show

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

Violent crime dropped by more than 15% in the United States during the first three months of 2024, according to statistics released Monday by the FBI.

The new numbers show violent crime from January to March dropped 15.2% compared to the same period in 2023, while murders fell 26.4% and reported rapes decreased by 25.7%.

3. She thrifted this vase for $4. It turned out to be an ancient Mayan artifact

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

Anna Lee Dozier, paid about $4 for what she assumed was a reproduction of a Mayan vase. It turned out to be the real deal: an artifact that’s at least 1,200 years old from the ancient civilization. And now, it's headed back to its homeland.

4. U.S. Marshals Find 200 Missing Children Across the Nation During Operation We Will Find You 2

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

Of the 200 children found, 173 were endangered runaways, 25 were considered otherwise missing, one was a family abduction, and one was a non-family abduction. [...] 14 of the children were found outside the city where they went missing.

5. Amazon's ditching the plastic air pillows in its boxes

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

Amazon said the change will help it use nearly 15 billion fewer plastic pillows annually. The paper fillers are made from 100% recyclable materials and are curbside recyclable. The company began a transition away from plastic filler in October 2023 when it announced its first U.S. automated fulfillment center to eliminate plastic-delivery packaging.

6. Supreme Court rejects bid to restrict access to abortion pill

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

In a blow for anti-abortion advocates, the Supreme Court on Thursday rejected a challenge to the abortion pill mifepristone, meaning the commonly used drug can remain widely available. The court found unanimously that the group of anti-abortion doctors who questioned the Food and Drug Administration’s decisions making it easier to access the pill did not have legal standing to sue.  

7. Wild horses return to Kazakhstan steppes after absence of two centuries

The Best News Of Last Month - June 2024

A group of the world’s last wild horses have returned to their native Kazakhstan after an absence of about 200 years. Seven Przewalski’s horses, the only truly wild species of the animal in the world, flown to central Asian country from zoos in Europe

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2 years ago

Mina: Im going to kill the mango man

Kaminari: Why?

Mina: He stole my chips


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