She Summarized What I've Been Feeling So Well.

Such personality! How could you ever eat that? 😔

who called it emotional baggage and not griefcase

Nature is my God

Let no other come before thee

Nine Psychological Tasks for a Good Marriage

Separate emotionally from the family you grew up in; not to the point of estrangement, but enough so that your identity is separate from that of your parents and siblings.

Build togetherness based on a shared intimacy and identity, while at the same time set boundaries to protect each partner’s autonomy.

Establish a rich and pleasurable sexual relationship and protect it from the intrusions of the workplace and family obligations.

For couples with children, embrace the daunting roles of parenthood and absorb the impact of a baby’s entrance into the marriage. Learn to continue the work of protecting the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple.

Confront and master the inevitable crises of life.

Maintain the strength of the marital bond in the face of adversity. The marriage should be a safe haven in which partners are able to express their differences, anger and conflict.

Use humor and laughter to keep things in perspective and to avoid boredom and isolation.

Nurture and comfort each other, satisfying each partner’s needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support.

Keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love, while facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by time.

Thanks to Judith S. Wallerstein, PhD, co-author of the book "The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts."

Source: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/marriage.aspx

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I have this habit...

As soon as a get anywhere near success. I run. I run so fucking fast, noone can catch me. After running I sink into a hole that I don't even try to crawl from. I just lay there and rot. There's a word for this. Self Sabotage? Yeah... that one.

Out of the frying pan...

So I just got diagnosed and put on treatment for depression a few months back. I knew I had it for years, and finally sought help.

It is one of the greatest things I've ever done with my life. If you're struggling with any mental illness find help.

Mental health is finally becoming a dialogue. People are beginning to understand and accept it's importance. Nowadays we have a goldmine of effective medication and therapy for recovery. So if that is something you struggle with keep fighting and don't be afraid to find help.

Personally since starting on my medication I finally feel normal. I feel like myself. I used to think about suicide AT LEAST once a day. Now I don't think about it. I just don't. It's helped change my outlook. Instead of dwelling, I look towards the future. I gotta say it has been beautiful.

Inversely, I feel like I'm out of the frying pan and into the fire. Now that my depression is managed, I've had to face the reality of the issues I've not yet dealt with. The result has been me using some unhealthy coping mechanisms. One of those mechanisms is disordered eating.

If you need help. Get help it will be the best thing you every fucking do. Not to say it will be easy. It will take time, but it's worth it.

what depression is really like:

not showering regularly

not bushing your teeth regularly

living in filth

caring about your grades but not enough to do anything about them

thinking about suicide more than graduating

considering suicide whenever any problem arises

tired

no motivation

no energy

walking is so hard

sometimes even talking is too much work because you’re so god damn tired

laying in bed for hours because you’re too tired to move

feeling nothing but sometimes everything

knowing you’re not alone but still feeling alone

that constant mindset of, “Who cares? I wont be around much longer anyways.”

Love the Bowie! #bowie #ziggystardust