If You Take Sex Away As A Determinate To Womanhood Or Manhood, You’re Only Left With Gender Norms To

What really gets to me though is that they’re using ‘men/man’ as the default. It puts men on a pedestal and makes anyone else (WOMEN) out to be lesser ie ‘non-men’.

If this happened in any other context people would rightly be furious.

If we started describing people of colour as ‘non-whites’ there would be an outcry and rightly so, because it 1) frames whiteness as the default and therefore superior, and 2) it would be a huge step back in terms of social progress.

People of colour fought long and hard to be recognised as equal citizens, and so to call them ‘non-whites’ and make them othered would be an insult to the progress made.

Equally women have fought long and hard to be recognised as equal citizens, white women have only had the right to vote for about a century, women of colour have had that right for even less time. So to now start referring to women as ‘non-men’ (ie not the default. and therefore lesser) is a frankly massive insult to the generations of women who fought long and hard for women to be seen as equal entities.

So let’s not mince words; Lesbians are WOMEN who love WOMEN, end of discussion.

If you can't find what's wrong with this definition your are homophobic and sexist. This loser used the word male/men 4 times and female/women 0 to describe BEING A LESBIAN.

For me it’s about having the freedom to touch my own skin.

I stopped regularly using makeup earlier this year, it wasn’t really a conscious decision, just the way things turned out. Anyway after I’d been makeup-free for a couple of months I ended up wearing some makeup for an event, and it wasn’t even a lot of makeup compared to what I’d worn previously. But almost immediately I became so conscious of my face, I didn’t want to rub my eye for fear of smearing my eye makeup, or to eat too quickly for fear of ruining my lipstick.

I only wore the makeup for a few hours, and it was honestly so mentally draining having to constantly monitor myself.

So anyway, I’m hoping to keep up my makeup free journey into 2025! Wish me luck!

Reblog this and add a reason you dont wear make up

I’ll start 😊

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nobody will ever convince me the act of getting purely cosmetic surgeries- especially life threatening ones, is more empowering than coming to terms with your body. you don’t have to love your body. you don’t even have to like it. getting cosmetic procedures will only make you hate all the other things you don’t like about yourself even more. your body was not made to be “attractive”. and let me clarify, none of this blame is to be based on women in the big picture. yes- women have undeniably contributed to the normalization of these invasive and dangerous surgeries, this wouldn’t even be an issue if men didn’t think the entire existence of a woman is to cater to them.

I’ve been celibate now for just over 2 years, at first unintentionally whilst I was getting over a break up, and then intentionally because I had no interest in casual sex and haven’t been in a relationship since my ex, haven’t met anyone I even want to go on a date with, and with the state of dating/het relationships as it is I’m beginning to wonder if I’ll ever have sex again…. If I’ll ever be able to trust another man well enough to want intimacy like that with him.

No, I don't have a "praise kink." No, I don't like "gentle doms." I want you to treat me like a thinking, feeling, breathing person instead of a punching bag with a bonus fleshlight. The male desire to treat women as subhuman, especially in bed, is mortifying. I hate that we've had to "pornify" our language to be understood by an entire class with porn addiction.

How did it become normal to choke, hit, and degrade our partners?

My ultimate pet peeve is women sexualising themselves being defended as “she’s embracing her sexuality”.  It could not be more removed from her sexuality.  Her sexuality is what she finds attractive.  Making yourself more attractive to men is embracing MEN’S sexuality.

I’m so mad I didn’t make this observation before… I cant unsee it now😳

About how men rape women with “consent”

This post is not mine, but one radfem woman from our community. She works as a sexologist and shared her experience in her work. If you too are a sexologist, or even better, have some statistics on this topic, please share your experiences or links. ---------------------------------------------------------- "When I first started working, I discovered that many men had never experienced the need to refuse intimacy with a regular partner. That is, a man in counseling complains that his partner often refuses him, he attributes her refusals to personal dislike and faded feelings, and when he tries to turn the situation around and remember when he himself had to refuse her, he does not understand what we are talking about. Because he has never had to - he responds to the initiative of his partner every time and considers it a sign of love and attraction on his part.

I heard this very often, I couldn't catch the lie and at the same time I couldn't interpret it. They are not robots, after all, to be available 24/7 at all hours of the day and night?

One day a client in a session literally opened my eyes with one phrase.

She said: “I CAN SEE WHEN HE'S NOT UP TO IT.”

That's the secret. The notorious emotional service. Subsequently, and many other women have confirmed this in a targeted survey: when the desire for intimacy arises, a woman assesses her partner's condition BEFORE taking the initiative. If she sees that her partner is tired, sick, in a bad mood, or preoccupied with something, she does not consider it appropriate to offer sex. I have also heard from many women that in a situation when she can not clearly assess the state of the partner, she prefers to flirt, as if casually get naked, as if accidentally do something that usually arouses the partner. If there is no reaction to this, the woman usually refuses to take the initiative and solves her problems on her own, without forcing the partner to conflict and feel guilty.

Men don't want their partners all the time - it's just that no one gets in their underwear when it's inappropriate. No one forces them to think about sex when they don't want to think about it.

Men themselves don't usually check against anything but their own erections.

They don't care when to offer sex to a woman(the following is a real and far from complete list):

Who is asleep (well, seriously, I don't know any woman who would ever think of waking up a sleeping partner to satisfy her sexually);

who's back from her 24-hour shift;

who just finished cooking a holiday dinner for ten people;

who has a high fever;

who's been vomiting all day;

who is eight months pregnant with a complicated pregnancy;

who has undergone a termination of pregnancy that day;

who is in the terminal stages of cancer;

who's just had a pet die;

returning from the funeral of a beloved grandmother;

waiting for a call from the NICU where their (mutual!) child is (“Let's get a little loose while we wait”) - and so on and so forth.

It may seem like it's a matter of cognitive distortion, that they just don't get it….. But they do. I asked one of them once: does he really think that a person in such a state can want sex? Yes, it is clear that they don't want to, he replied, but I'm just in case - maybe it will work out. I asked him how he would react if it didn't work out, and he admitted that he would be hurt and angry. And that's another “secret” - why it does burn out. Because refusal will inevitably lead to conflict, and a woman often does not have the strength not only for sex, but also for an argument. When he offered sex, she basically can not get out of the situation without damage - either to be raped, or to deal with his tantrums and offenses. And unfortunately, sometimes the first one turns out to be the lesser harm."

If you’re having trouble with knowing what’s truly empowering for women just ask yourself these questions.

- Does this benefit men in any way?

- Is it something that’s forced onto women by the patriarchy?

- Are you confusing being empowered with personal enjoyment?

- Does this give women any real social, economic, political power as a class?

- Does this endanger a woman’s safety, mental health, and or comfort?

- Does it challenge the patriarchy?

checked out a copy of TRANS by Helen Joyce from my library but a TRA got to it before me lol

painful irony in calling the claim that gender ideology erases women “bad faith” while simultaneously having so little respect for female voices that you wrote over a female authors words in a public library book 😭😭