Mistletoe Kisses Are Just Excuses To Kiss Your Friends. (post-reveal, Pre-relationship Ladynoir)

focus on the likes and not the wants

you may not want to clean your room, but you like the peace and call it brings you after

you may not want to study, but you like the confidence and satisfaction you get from being prepared

you may not not want to apologise, but you like the relief and connection that reconciliation brings

you may not want to cook, but you like the satisfaction of eating a healthy come cooked meal prepared with love

you may not want to exercise, but you like how you feel afterwards and how it makes you confident

you may not want to journal or write, but you like the reflection and calm it brings you

you may not want to step out of your comfort zone, but you like the new experiences and growth you gain from it

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"not all men because is your father amongst them??" Yes, he is, all my male relatives are oppressors, to their wives, to their sisters, to their daughters and to all the women they encounter.

Because they also participate in the same circle of abuse and hate, they are a part of the patriarchy and it wouldn't still exist if they weren't such willing participants, if they cared for us, then why are they not enraged by what happens to us on a daily basis?!

BEING MAGNETIC THROUGH SOFTNESS

BEING OPTIMISTIC, regardless of the circumstances. People love positivity and will gravitate to people who make them feel good regardless of their circumstances.

SMILE. Even if you’re just walking around, having a nice friendly smile appeals to people and deems you approachable.

HELP WHENEVER YOU CAN, hold the door for someone, or lift a small burden for them. However, if you’re helping someone and it is out of your capabilities, it’s people-pleasing.

BE PRESENT, don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. Just focus on what you’re doing, and with who at that moment.

BE AN ACTIVE LISTENER, engage in conversations with people and genuinely take in the information they tell you + make an effort to remember these facts about them.

AVOID JUDGING AND GOSSIPING, no matter how nice you are, as soon as you display these traits, you create a distance between your friends/family. While honesty is valued, if people don’t feel like they can be their authentic selves around you, they’ll close themselves up.

GIVE COMPLIMENTS OFTEN. Only if you mean it. It doesn’t have to be someone who you’re close to, but even just passers-by.

BE VULNERABLE. People won’t open up to people who are closed up. Share your deepest fears, challenges and emotions to create a deeper connection and trust.

PRACTICE BEING HUMBLE, while it is okay to celebrate our successes, we must be mindful of the manner we do so. Acknowledge other’s efforts and be willing to learn from others.

REPLACE SORRY WITH THANK YOU. If you’re a serial say-sorry person, replace them with thank you. E.g. sorry I’m late -> thank you for patiently waiting.

BE OPEN-MINDED, surround yourself with a diverse environment, and be willing to learn from other’s perspectives.

TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY. Apologise when necessary and own up to your own mistakes, but be sure to not repeat them.

Khernips

Khernips, or Lustral Water, is a mixture used in Hellenic Polytheism to ritually wash away miasma. It is not hard to make, and is an incredibly rewarding addition to any ritual.

To make it you’ll need a few things on hand:

Fresh water (I use tap water, but if you can manage spring water is even better)

Sea Water (if you don’t have this, you can use a sea salt and water mixture)

Dried herbs (I sometimes don’t have access to herbs, and just use a lit match)

A lighter/match

Bowl

Towel

So to make it, you mix together your fresh water and sea water, and then you light your herbs and drop them in. Some people use incense opposed to matches or herbs as well.

“When throwing in the lit item, one can utter ‘Xerniptosai’ (pronounced ‘zer-nip-TOS-aye-ee’) which translates as ‘Be purified’.“ Source: Baring the Aegis

After you’ve finished preparing it, you can choose to ask one of the Theoi to bless it, especially a water/sea related Theos. Then you wash your hands in face with it, and dry off.

Strategies I use to…

Reconnect with myself˚◞♡ ⃗ *ೃ༄

Hiiii, here is a list of some things I do in order to reconnect with myself!

When I feel down, overwhelmed, mindless, or just not like my usual self, these activities are my saviours.

• Physical activity!!! - You know I had to put this one first, girl. Strength training, stretching, swimming, running, walking, dancing, playing sports, etc. Physical activity makes me feel amazing and gives me a total confidence boost, I’m just in my element.

• Meditation - Deep breathing, relaxing music, clear mind, I love it! I feel a deep sense of connection with myself and the universe when meditating. It’s also just a great reset if you’re in a negative mood, I feel totally cleansed afterwards.

• Pampering!!! - face massage, gua sha, long hot bath/shower, full body massage, cute treat/drink, ice roller, positive affirmations, comfy clothes, favourite movie, and so on.

• Get creative - Getting creative is a good way to express and connect with yourself. Doing something artsy always reminds me of when I was a kid, and writing is a great outlet for my creativity.

Drawing, writing, sculpting, painting, colouring, knitting, crocheting, etc.

• Journaling - I love journaling so much. It’s a good way to check-in with yourself, learn about yourself, and release your emotions. I feel a lot more in tune with myself afterwards.

I’ll write about : Things I am grateful for, my dreams and desires, goals I’m working towards, my favourite things about myself, my feelings, etc.

• Expressing myself - Often, the reason for me feeling disconnected with myself is because I’ve hidden or ignored my true feelings/thoughts/self. I mean obviously masking yourself makes you feel disconnected with yourself…

My strategy is to openly express myself confidently. I share my feelings and opinions, and I don’t try to hide who I am. I don’t care what people think of me, I will never be ashamed or embarrassed of my authentic self.

Whilst you nourish your body with exercise, slow yoga, nighttime body milk, adorn it with jewellery and sultry perfume, carefully drape it with clothes that fit… don’t forget to nourish your mind. Classical music, podcasts, brain games like crosswords, sudoku, mental math, art even if you’re terrible at it, gardening even if your plants never seem to grow, cooking even if you might burn the house down - embrace learning, embrace curiosity, and enjoy your own company. Be the best wife you could be to your own self first. Care for yourself, defend yourself, grow, teach, constructively criticise yourself; be the best parent you could be to yourself.

"Are you even watching the show?" Yes, sadly, but you clearly aren't!

> be felix graham

> be the reason Monarch exists in the first place

> help directly defeat him by....

Wait, how did he help defeat him?

do you think adrien would be a swiftie bc i do. i actually think he has a spotify playlist named “right where you left me” that he shuffles whenever he needs to face the horrors of his childhood and wallow a bit before resuming his facade of false happiness and belonging in a world that glorifies the cause of his suffering

or maybe that’s just me

i was bored today so here are my headcanons

Marinette:

She likes puzzles

Marinette can understand english but can't speak it

Chat made a joke about the irony of her superhero name being in english

Adrien teach her english and mandarin

has adhd

born in 2001

she did gymnastic (like in the movie) but gave it up

she's too flexible

her parents still keep her childhood toys

all her barbies were weird barbies

Sabine made a journal when Mari was born in which each day she described what her day with baby Mari was like.

Swiftie

loves Mitski

has played Amour Sucre

In universe, "Ladybug pv" and "Here comes Ladybug" are real songs inspired by the heroine

drives motorcycle when she's older

also she is going to have more than one piercing in her ears.

plays Animal Crossing

tries to learn k-pop dances

support Free Britney

her body is full of bruises (for all her falls for being clumsy)

for the same reason, the screen of her phone is broken

smell like bread

Adrien:

He did a cover of 'Line without a hook' in piano

Actually he used to post some covers of songs in YouTube but gave it up

has written some songs

He can understand french, english, mandarin, morse, and is learning japanese

Interviewer: wow, your english is so good

Adrien half british: ...yeahh

bro is Lana Del Rey coded

watch death note when he's depressed

fan of spy x family

superfan of Sailor Moon

when he was a child his favorite book was The little prince

He likes to braid Mari's hair

ABBA fan

Lady Gaga fan

He and Mari exercise together

He uses face masks for skin care

Extremely photogenic

When Adrien was a little boy he was in one of barney's episodes

he was in the top of the 100 most beautiful faces

has a 3 years streak in duolingo

When you look in the mirror, you shouldn’t feel the need to pick yourself apart and make yourself up with glitz and glimmer. You don’t need to be “hot”. You don’t need to be “sexy”. You don’t need to be “Cottagecore, Dark Academia, Coastal Grandmother, Clean Girl, Goblincore, Barbiecore, Weirdcore, Indie Sleaze, or Gorpcore Girlie”.

It’s okay to just be plain you.

No. You do not need 20 purses that match a niche aesthetic that you’ll only participate in for a month.

No. You do not need 15 Stanley cups.

No. You do not need an endless supply of skincare serums because TikTok convinced you that your skin isn’t glowing enough.

No. You do not need a wardrobe overhaul every season just to stay "relevant."

No. You do not need to live in fear of repeating an outfit or owning shoes that have scuffs and stories.

No. You do not need to master the 20-step morning routine that influencers swear by.

You do not need to turn your existence into a checklist of accomplishments, aesthetics, or approvals.