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I came out as transfem to my friends a couple months ago, but every now and then I feel like I'm faking it. But when I'm called by my preferred name, my heart starts racing and I get a little smile.

Is this a normal thing?

Lee says:

Experiencing feelings of doubt or questioning like you're "faking it" can be part of the process for many people as they explore their gender identity.

This doesn't invalidate your experiences or your identity; sometimes it's a reflection of navigating a complex personal journey within a society that has rigid norms about gender.

Having doubts is normal, and many people who come out as trans continue to identify as trans throughout their lives, even if they initially had some discomfort getting used to their new identity and occasionally felt like they were faking it.

There are also some folks who feel like they're faking it and while they may not be intentionally faking an identity, that kernel of discomfort and wrongness may be a clue that something isn't quite right yet, whether it's their particular label, their gender expression, their pronouns, or their feelings about the gender roles they feel pressure to inhabit. I'm not saying that this is the case for you-- it seems like it likely isn't-- but I do feel that it's also important to acknowledge that not everyone who questions their gender will ultimately identify as transgender.

There should be no shame in questioning your gender, trying on new labels for a while, even coming out to friends to see how it feels to use the new label/pronouns/name, etc but ultimately reidentifying. The process of exploring one's gender identity is deeply personal and unique to each individual and there's nothing wrong with someone realizing that they aren't trans after all.

I'm writing all of that because I think this type of ask is often sent by folks wanting to know whether what they're feeling is normal because they're seeking reassurance that they're trans.

But we're not really here to reassure you that you're trans. We don't know you! Only you know your gender. If I tried to reassure you by saying "oh yeah I know for sure that you're trans, don't worry!" it would be beyond my scope as someone who is not-you.

I can tell you that it's normal to feel that way, that many other trans folks have felt that way, and that you will find your path eventually. It can be hard to figure it all out, but don't stress! Everyone always seems to have this super big sense of internal urgency, but it's okay to not be 100% certain of your gender identity, and to feel that way for months or even years.

Be patient with yourself. Understanding your gender identity is a journey, and it's okay to take your time. There's no rush to figure everything out immediately or to fit into any particular box. Trust yourself, and allow your journey to unfold in a way that feels authentic to you. All that being said, your current identity is valid, regardless of whether it shifts over time.

It's super common to have feelings of doubt and wrongness and feelings of faking it at the start of a transition, and that doesn't necessarily have to overshadow the joy and happiness that you experience when you're called by your preferred name. That gender euphoria you described is super real!

Seeking support can be incredibly helpful. This might include talking to friends who understand and support your journey, joining support groups for people exploring their gender identity, or finding a therapist who specializes in gender identity issues. These resources can provide a space to discuss your feelings, explore your identity, and receive support from others who have had similar experiences. Your feelings and experiences are real, and they deserve acknowledgment and respect.

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but yeah! I'm curious on your thoughts about some drv3 characters soooo I hope you don't mind that I'm giving you multiple characters (you can do as few or as many as you want though lol)

Kaito, Shuichi and Kokichi :D

haha dw about it > < and i'll take any excuse to rant about these three

(kaito)

(shuichi)

(kokichi)

some footnotes on each of these:

transmasc kaito is real but what's realer is overly supportive, not-quite-there-but-he's-got-the-spirit-ally kaito

i was tempted to put “other people do Not understand them” but mischaracterization happens with every character. and it's not, like, TOO bad with kaito

i would love to be his sidekick or something....

tbh people often portray shuichi as either too gentle or too blunt. no one can seem to get that sweet spot. also he's such a judger (/aff), which no one seems to remember

shuichi is definitely trans. the question is, are they transfem or transmasc??

he's the protagonist. he's MADE to be put into situations

i think a jar with sticks and leaves is shuichi's natural habitat

half the fandom gets kokichi and the other half...really doesn't. but then again, there are soooo many interpretations of kokichi, it really just comes down to how much you think he lied about. i quite like how ambiguous kokichi is as a character :3 it means theres lots of possibilities

i said “give them more torment” for all of them but with kokichi i really mean it !!!

same thing with “i have to get them out of the source material”. i really want to know what a not-fearing-for-his-life kokichi would act like....would he be any nicer ??

i did half for “transing their gender”, not becuase i'm insinuating he's half transgender, but because i enjoy trans interpretations and cis ones equally XD

i did half for “i would hate them irl” because i don't hate anyone, i just.... tend to assume the best, but if he was as much of a bully as he was in game, well, i would get irritated, eventually

+ they're all doomed, they're source material is a killing game

thank you very much for the ask!

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