The Next Time You've Got A Friend Over, Set An Example And Put Your Phone On The Table, Visibly There

The next time you've got a friend over, set an example and put your phone on the table, visibly there but not too far away, to let them know that you're intentionally present, not distracted, your attention is undivided and you want to be fully focused on being right there to spend time with them. Don't mention it or draw attention to this, you're not doing this to be preachy or wanting praise, you just want to be a good friend and you value your friend's time. Ideally, your friend will either notice this or even pick it up without conscious notice, and set their own phone aside on the table as well.

Then, when your friend takes a minute to go to the bathroom, grab your phone and take a photo of your friend's phone sitting on your table. Do not touch it, and put your own phone back exactly where it was immediately once you've got the picture. Carry on with whatever you two were doing.

Once your time is up and your friend has left for home, wait for a good 15 minutes or so, for them to either get back home or be well on their way there. Text your friend, "hey, you forgot your phone", and send them the photo you took of their phone on your table. Set a stopwatch running from the moment your friend sees the message.

Measure how many seconds it takes for your friend to process this and tell you to go fuck yourself.

Barbie Star Trek AU

I come barring art. I hope y’all like them.

Here we have another batch of uniforms because I’m indecisive and I can’t just stick to one idea.

And here we have Barbie’s Communicator, Phaser, and Tricorder.

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starfleet-xenobotanist

1 year ago

elim 'Federation GMO pussy has got me acting unwise' garak

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GMO CMO

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starfleet-xenobotanist

4 months ago

I like that quark and odo had their own pon farr on the hot sands of vulcan moment only it was freezing cold and also they were both yelling "I hate you" and "fascist" and also starving to death and also no one was in heat and also it wasn't pleasurable at all. So not really anything like that actually.

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starfleet-xenobotanist

5 months ago

Another reason I like to write Garak as gentle is I don't think he or Bashir has had a lot of gentleness in their lives.

Part of it is just me projecting my sensory issues onto Bashir, but because of the heavy autism coding you get the feel that Bashir has spent a lot of his life in performance. He doesn't get to have boundaries with his parents. His parents probably wouldn't let him avoid things that trigger sensory issues or physical touch, so he learns that the world is something harsh that he doesn't get to flinch away from and neither do others.

So he spends a lot of his adult life bashing into others boundaries because that's what he's been taught is normal. And they react angrily, rightfully so, but the result is that the only contact Bashir has with people for a long time is them mistreating him and disliking him because of the abuse he's been taught is love. Combine that with all the toxic masculinity you get coming off him, it paints a picture of a man who isn't treated gently. He knuckles down and when human contact is finally given, he takes what's offered desperately.

There are no soft touches for a starving man, no gentle caresses or kind words - just the desperation of a person who wants to feel grounded and human. So I like to give him what he seems to have been denied.

Another Reason I Like To Write Garak As Gentle Is I Don't Think He Or Bashir Has Had A Lot Of Gentleness

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starfleet-xenobotanist

11 months ago

Last night, I printed and colored my very own Dream Date Garak. Now I won’t be alone this Valentine’s Day !

Also super amazing to see fanart from 1997 circulating the internet. The original artist is Nancy Lee and if I can find their art accounts online I will link them.