You Before Them🤍

2023 is:

Regular facials, manis, pedis, massages, Brazilian waxes, lash lifts. Glowing skin. Glowy makeup. Fluffy curls. Microshaded brows. Laser hair removal. Veneers. Intoxicating perfumes. Shopping. Diamonds. Designer bags. Credit card rewards. International travel. Networking. Career certifications. Investing more. Brunch with the girls. Picnics. Farmers markets. Art galleries. Museums. Fresh flowers. Silk scarves. Big sunglasses. Beautiful lingerie. Silk robes. Receiving lots of gifts. Lots of sunlight. Hot yoga. Nature hikes. Tennis lessons. Green smoothies. Candles that smell expensive. Sleeping 8+ hours a night. Bubble baths. Studying foreign languages. Absorbing as much knowledge as I can. Book clubs. Pottery classes. Cooking with fresh herbs, vegetables, and spice. Champagne. Charcuterie & bruschetta. Gelato. Fresh bread. Ocean air. Hugging my loved ones. Pet cat. Giving lots of gifts. Journaling. Meditating. Gratitude. Volunteering. Donating to charity. Manners. Etiquette. Charisma. Therapy. Healthy boundaries. Radical personal responsibility. Positivity. Self care. Abundant love.

my friend is very confident and free and i always want to know how she does it so once i asked her and she just said “the only difference between me and you is that when people treat you badly you think it’s because there’s something wrong with you but when people treat me badly i think there’s something wrong with them.” scalped

girl? have you seen your face? do you know what you look like? A FUCKING GODDESS. you’re no less than a bad bitch who knows her fucking worth and get everything she wants. yes baby, you are THAT BITCH.

i love princess treatment. tie my shoe for me when it gets untied, carry me when my feet start to hurt from wearing these really cute heels all day, kiss my hand and tell me i’m the most beautiful girl you’ve ever laid eyes on, open doors for me, pull my chair out for me, fix my hair when it looks untamed, hold my face and kiss my forehead, hold my hand everywhere we go, wine and dine me, tell me that i’m too pretty to lift a finger, remind me how much you absolutely adore me. treat me like the cute angel princess that i am. i deserve it.

Tips for the classy, elegant, girly girls 💗

Beauty

The key to looking classy : glowing and dewy skin, red lips and rosy cheeks and nice hair.

Invest in quality hair products (Kérastase, Olaplex, etc.) Shiny, healthy looking hair makes all the difference.

More skin care, less makeup.

Natural hair masks with eggs, plain greek yogurt and apple cider vinegar. I know it sounds weird but trust me, it works.

Contour your face with spray tan.

Wear lip liner every day to define and color your lips.

I realized heavy makeup rarely looks good in the sun. Stick to mascara, concealer under your eyes and blush. Keep it simple!!! Your natural face is beautiful!!

Hygiene

Moisturize your hands multiple times a day to have soft hands.

Buy products with natural ingredients. Yes, the Miss Dior body lotion smells good and the Chanel « Le Sublimage » serum looks beautiful on your skin, but the ingredients are all very bad. Full of endocrine disruptors, carcinogenic ingredients and more... Keep these products for special occasions. Stick to natural products for the day-to-day. Your body will thank me!

Vanilla and floral scents are a go-to. The Glossier perfume, Candy by Prada, Gabrielle by Chanel and Miss Dior by Dior are very sweet and feminine and not too agressive.

Get your nails done. Keep them short. I usually go for French tips or a neutral color (light pink, beige or navy blue).

Always have gum with you.

Drink a lot of water!

Fashion

Find our what your color palette is and dress accordingly.

Opt for classic pieces like white polos, cardigans, basic white or grey t-shirts, white button-down shirts, cute skirts, white dresses, well-fitted jeans (not ripped or faded).

Ditch your white Airforces. Wear loafers or basic flats instead. I personally like Vejas when I'm wearing a casual outfit. Not only do they look better but they're also way better for the environment than Nike.

Casual does not mean sloppy. I do not wear leggings or sweat pants in public (except when at the gym of course). If you don't feel like making an effort : linen/cachemire lounge wear flare pants or a basic white dress.

I realized designer bags or clothes that have really big logos on them look tacky. I got a white YSL Loulou bag but basically never wear it because of how tacky it looks.

Small habits that made a difference

Having your hair done every day. Please.

Do not wear hairbands on your wrists.

No holes or stains on your clothes.

Wrinkly clothes are an abomination. Please steam them or have them dry-cleaned.

Have good posture at all times. Pretend someone is always looking at you.

Expand your vocabulary and stop cursing.

Watch YouTube videos on etiquette to refine your manners.

Braid your hair before bed. It makes your hair grow so much longer for some reason.

Have signature jewelry. For instance, every day I wear a set of small golden hoops earring with diamonds and a matching gold/ruby pendant that were gifted to me.

That's it!

I can feel myself changing. I see the difference in my behavior, my attitude, my thoughts, the new boundaries I’ve established. The groundwork has been laid. Let the transformation resume. I am ready for all that is coming to me.

Little things you can do to upgrade your life

Sit up straight

Walk confidently

Speak slowly and don’t use slang, incorporate new vocabulary.

Think before you speak. Is that TMI? Is that negative? Words are powerful, use them wisely

When someone gives you a compliment, always accept it with a “thank you” even if you disagree

Compliment strangers

Drink a cup of warm water when you wake. It has the same effect as lemon water but it’s better for your teeth

Aim to drink 2L of water a day.

If you drink 30 min before your meal you will eat less. Don’t drink any liquids while you eat or until 30 min after your meal, it’s better for your digestion

Want a flat stomach? Don’t eat anything 4 hours before bed and only eat the size of your fist in carbs per day

Practice mindfulness, notice when your mind wanders and bring your attention back to the present

Meditate 5 min every morning or in bed at night

Charge your phone in the living room at night so you’re not tempted to look at it before bed or first thing in the morning. Plus, you’ll have to get up to turn the alarm off so you won’t snooze

Make your bed every morning

Clutter is mentally toxic, keep only what you need and keep it tidy

Aim to only clean your home for 5 minutes a day. You’ll probably end up doing more. This trick works for anything you don’t want to do

When shopping, don’t buy things the same day. If you still want them after a few days, go back

Always do your best. Always

Forget motivation. Count from 5 to 1 if you need to do something you don’t want to. It tricks your brain. You can also focus on how you’ll feel once you’ve completed the task instead of thinking of the task itself.

Buy fresh flowers for your home.

Pamper yourself. You can do it yourself at home

Get massages. You can get Groupons

Always have manicured nails and toes. Sèche Vite top coat is a must!

Buy nice pyjamas and lounge wear. Look good for yourself.

Listen to classical music when you study and when you clean your home

Listen to music when you drive. While others will be road raging, you’ll be too busy vibing to notice

Use the 50/30/20 rule for your finances. 50% on living expenses, 30% on entertainment and shopping and 20% in savings

Take advantage of banks offering money to open new accounts

Have an emergency fund: 3-6 months worth of living expenses in a high interest savings account

Celebrate every time you get money whether it’s in interest, pay checks or even money you find on the floor. You can just do a little dance. You’ll attract more wealth.

Leave money around your house. It will be a reminder that money is abundant.

Watch only 1h of TV a day and no reality TV

Don’t read gossip magazines/blogs.

Get a library card and read at least one book a month.

Cut out toxic people. If you can’t, try not to be around them as much

Socialize with loved ones a bit everyday even if it’s just a phone call. It’s good for morale

Treat everyone with respect. If someone disrespects you, know that it’s got nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and don’t get caught up in it, keep your composure, you’re better than that

Take up a hobby or two, you’ll be a more interesting, well-rounded person

Listen to podcasts

Try only changing one thing at a time. 3 months of consistency doesn’t mean you’re out of the woods, but it’s the foundation. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you stray. Habits you’ve had for 20-30-40 years will not be easy to change. Baby steps ;)

Started dancing in the mornings while I make coffee again. I’ll be alright

The 7 Day #IChooseMe Challenge

The next seven days, choose YOU.

Choose yourself.

Prioritise yourself.

Take care of yourself.

If you’ve been feeling lost lately, or life has been off track - this challenge is great to bring you back on track.

It helps you have some structure in your life, while allowing you to have fun and plenty of spare time.

I am not a therapist or a doctor. Take this advice as you would from a friend.

With this challenge, you’ll feel a little more fulfilled, happier, and you’ll have a set routine.

You only have to accomplish 6 small goals a day for 7 days to finish this challenge.

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The Night Before Day 1

- Get in bed by 11:30 pm, even if you’re not tired.

- Try to finish all your work.

- Set your phone away from you.

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Day 1

- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Start your day with a 10 minute stretch. Do this before you eat.

- Read 2 news articles.

- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today.

- Eat at least 1 fruit of your choice.

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Day 2

- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Start your day with a 6 minute, deep breathing meditation. Sit cross legged as you face south east, close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply.

- choose a healthy option for lunch. Salads, soups, healthy wraps, a light rice bowl - eat something with lots of nutrients.

- Compliment someone at work/ school today!

- Clean your room.

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Day 3

- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Start your day by telling yourself any 3 affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak out loud. This could be something like …”Today is going to be a good day. I’m capable of accomplishing and handling everything sent my way. I am a positive, healthy person and I genuinely love the person I am, or I am becoming.”

- Drink 2 litres of water today. Add a piece of lemon or mint if that helps!

- Read 5 pages of any book of your choice. If you don’t like reading, then listen to this podcast (start at 1 minute to skip the intro)

- write down a list of qualities you think you need to work on. It could be things like being on time, working on your anger, etc.

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Day 4

- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Start your day with a lymphatic drainage massage! This is a 10 minute video.

- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today.

- Do a 20 minute workout.

- Change your bedsheets and covers. If you have some lavender mist lying around, spray it under your pillow for a good night’s rest.

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Day 5

- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Start your day with a 6 minute, deep breathing meditation. Sit cross legged as you face south east, close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply.

- Eat a fruit of your choice.

- Read 2 news articles.

- Drink 2 litres of water today. Add a piece of lemon or mint if that helps!

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Day 6

- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Start your day with a 10 minute stretch. Do this before you eat.

- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for.

- Tell yourself any 3 affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak out loud. This could be something like …”today is going to be a good day. I’m capable of accomplishing and handling everything sent my way. I am a positive, healthy person and I genuinely love the person I am, or I am becoming.”

- Call up your mum, family member, friends and have a chat with them. Find out how they’re doing.

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Day 7

- Sleep in till 9 am today if you like! But if you have work or school, get up at 7 am / 2.5 hours before you have to go.

- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.

- Put on a face mask of your choice.

- Eat a healthy, filling breakfast. If you can’t eat in the mornings, then have a glass or two of water.

- If you can step outside, go for a 30 minute walk. If you’re unable to, then do some stretching at home.

- Write down how you felt this whole week. Did you feel better? Was there some structure in your life?

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