FLR Confidence

FLR Confidence

Confidence isn’t always natural. Sometimes it’s learned, like having a belief in your own skills, your experience level, and self esteem.

If you’re unsure of FLR and want to flourish leading an FLR you must first accept the position your partner is trying to give you, which should be elevating your status and pampering you with love, time, and attention.

It won’t be effortless at first to get the FLR dynamic exactly how you want it and it probably won’t be exactly as the man had hoped. That’s ok, just work on building your knowledge, skills running it, and experience to adjust in the future.

It’s also ok you’re the focus and your focused on getting your needs met first. While yes I enjoy my independence I much more desire her and our time together. Sometimes I do need the reminder that my time can be better spent and my focus needs shifted on doing a better job of addressing the areas she cares more about.

Confidence is both sexy and strong. Her having the confidence to say no to my wants when her expectations weren’t met led us to where we are today, which is growing and being closer than ever before and household productivity through the roof.

Without the confidence I will admit early on starting FLR there were times I wasn’t held accountable and slipped. It wasn’t on purpose, but it needed addressed, and once it was we flourished.

The confidence of her has led to no phones at the table or when going out to dinner or in the car together. It’s also led to all my chores being done before I even think to ask for screen-time. It’s led to going to the gym and eating healthier. It’s led to me giving her massages and taking more showers together. It’s led to better communication and more loving interactions.

While our FLR is mainly lived at home her confidence has grown and position has solidified outside of the home too. I’ve noticed even out with friends and family I still lean over to ask for a soda at dinner or just order water to meet her expectations and our shared goals.

Without her confidence I know we would be back to square one and I would be back to arguments, disagreements, and fights that we no longer have since FLR.

I challenge men to learn to listen and act under a confident woman and I challenge woman to accept the challenge of setting up an FLR and living a loving one.