To All Doctor Strange And MCU Haters.

Mr Trudeau, this question from all Russian protesters. Where did you get this beauty?

DUCK YOU   Canadian prime minister Justin Trudeau’s socks are seen at the opening ceremonies for the annual World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland on Thursday.  (Photo: Fabrice Coffrini / AFP-Getty via The Guardian)

Amazing answer to a disgustingly hypocritical post. As a big Stony fan I’m really shocked. Now I remember why I never go beyond my subscribes here

Some thoughts on fandom hatred in a time of hate and ugliness

The extreme negativity of the few assholes who style themselves “anti-Tony Stark” must be exhausting.

And this extends to ANY so-called “fan” who actively hates another fandom, a ship, a character – I don’t care what. You should be ashamed.

If you are simmering in your stew of hatred, thinking about hating a fictional story or ship or character every day, spending your precious time and energy blogging your jealousy or hatred…or worse, stalking the fandom tags and trying to ruin the joy of fandom for others – then you are part of the ugliness and negativity in this world that only leads to more ugliness and hate.

And don’t you think there’s more than enough hatred in this world already?

Do we really need hate and toxicity in fandom??

Fandom is supposed to be a fun escape for people who are passionate about a fictional character or characters, a story, a show or movie, a performer. If you try to turn that against itself, you’re not only unworthy of being a “fan,” you are part of this world’s problems.

Can you imagine, for instance, making a blog and a tag about some fictional thing you dislike – and then literally going onto the fandom tag of the people who love that character, or stalking passionate fans who love that particular thing, and spreading your hatred and ugliness?  

Can you imagine TRYING to ruin the joy and happiness of people who maintain a loyal fandom for that character – building whole blogs hating the thing they love, calling them names, sending them literal death threats, trying to – I don’t know what? “Change their minds” about a character they love?

That’s a fool’s errand. It won’t happen. Throwing slings and arrows at a thing only makes the people who love that thing circle the wagons in protection of what they love, and love it even more. Ruin their happiness? You can try - but it won’t happen. Really all you succeed in doing is having them think less of YOU – that you’re a bully and that you’re ridiculous.

You may think you’re having “fun” by being jealous of and hating a fandom, a character or a ship and spreading the hate around. You may wallow in this mire with a few other small-minded individuals who, like you, only want to curse and hate and defame and threaten. 

But in the end it’s not much “fun,” is it? Hating is toxic; it eats at the soul of the hater. Hate and negativity is usually the tactic of people with low self-esteem who want to build themselves up by attacking something. If you surround yourself with negativity and spend so much energy on bullying and hating and jealousy, it will come back upon YOU. You’re the one creating and living in the toxic stew. You’re the one spending your time actively trying to ruin others’ joy. You create your own reality. And – on top of all that – it’s just not getting you anywhere. Your negativity makes the lovers of the thing love the thing even more. It makes them actively dislike YOU. So you’re basically stuck in a poisonous loop of your own making.

How much better it would be, for your own mental health, to simply avoid the things you dislike, instead of showering toxicity on people who love and enjoy the things? How much better to spend your time and energy on POSITIVE things – blogging about the things you love, for instance?

tl; dr: Just about every day, we see that the world has more than enough hate and bullying and negativity. We don’t need it in fandom as well.

STOP FANDOM HATE AND NEGATIVITY.

For the rest of us:

I don't understand. There are sports where people wear skintight suits all the time. Like skiing, for example. What's the problem? She looks fantastic in it.

“One must respect the game”, but when is French Open going to respect Serena?!

Steve/Tony + complementary qualities

exactly

Fans: We didn’t like X-Men The Last Stand because it didn’t focus on Jean Grey or the Phoenix force and just made it about Xavier’s guilt and her love interests’ grief, there was no need for Jean to join Magneto, and the movies didn’t set up a team dynamic with any history that was sad to watch be tested.

Fox Executives:

I agree. That’s exactly right. You can’t dismiss some character’s pain and trauma to ennoble your favorite. IMO its disgusting. But come on, Tony’s fans do it all the time! If it angers you all so much then stop doing it to other characters. Many times I’ve seen these completely dismissive posts about Steve, Natasha, Wanda, Bruce, etc and for some reason nobody reminded authors about human decency. I think it should be applied to every character not only Tony

I don't get why you baby Stark so much. So his father neglected him? He was too busy to tuck him in or hug him? Yeah that's shitty as fuck but Howard loved him in his own way. Clint Barton, abused by his own parents and then abused in the circus before left for dead. Steve Rogers, bullied and beaten his entire life pre serum, sick constantly and only family his best friend who he LOST. Natasha, I don't think I need to elaborate on her past.. Wanda&Pietro, fuck of their story isn't awful.

Wow.

So by your line of reasoning, only the Avenger who had the worst childhood is worthy of love and/or respect. I guess that means Bucky isn’t worthy, since his childhood was the best out of all of everyone. But no - in your eyes, Tony is the only one whose abuse can be excused.

Well let me tell you something, anon. I am fucking appalled by the fact that you are literally excusing child abuse by saying that “his father loved him in his own way,“. As if that makes it okay. There is no excuse for child abuse. Ever. Period. It doesn’t matter if it’s emotional neglect or physical abuse or whatever, there. is. no. excuse.

In addition, abuse, especially child abuse, is not a competition and I can’t even put into words how upset it makes me that you’re implying that Tony is not worthy of being “babied” just because you think his abuse wasn’t as bad as the rest of the team. As though there is some sort of ruler by which we measure abuse, and Tony isn’t making the cut.

Finally, I’m gonna let you in on a secret. Fandom is a place where everyone gets to like whoever they want to like. I will “baby” Tony as much as I damn well want to, and you can fuck right off.

#dontyoudare #stony #superfamily

I just saw a post about Tony, Stephen Strange, and Peter Parker tagged as Superfamily. So I thought I’d send out this PSA that that tag is already used to refer to Tony, Steve Rogers, and their Spider-son; and has been used that way for years.

May I suggest Facialhairfamily or Ironstrangefamily? Either way I’m sure whatever you guys come up with will be cool. ;)

We don’t trade lives

Jesus.

Just like people willfully misinterpreted Cap’s edict that “Every time someone tries to WIN a war before it starts, innocent people die” as being the same as ‘people trying to STOP a war before it starts’ now everyone is doing the same thing with “We don’t trade lives.”

That doesn’t mean people never die fighting evil.  It doesn’t mean we don’t sacrifice ourselves for the greater good.  It means we don’t let one of our teammates give up their life until we’ve exhausted all other options.

Bruce even spelled it out when Vision tried to make a parallel with Steve’s sacrifice. He points out that Steve didn’t have a CHOICE at that point in time.

Cap wanted to make sure before they killed the person Wanda loved that they exhausted all other options.  What a monster and hypocrite that makes him!

I’m sure if Steve had let Vision die there in Scotland, now everyone would be pointing out that he didn’t even try, that Shuri or Bruce could have helped.

SIGH.

things tony got in civil war:

+ a flashback to an important moment in his past

+ a look at his parents and their relationship

+ a non-action/character driven scene to catch viewers up on what our hero has been doing

+ time given to his closest friendship, including a heartfelt/respectful scene at the end

+ an apology

things steve got in civil war:

+ none of that

Yeah. Sorry, boys, I'm gay now

Tessa Thompson as Valkyrie