Nearly Every Autistic Person On The Face Of The Earth Has Been Groomed For Abuse From An Early Age.

Nearly every autistic person on the face of the Earth has been groomed for abuse from an early age.

We don’t attract abuse by being idiosyncratic or sincere. To say that is to blame our personalities. To say that that is to make yet another attempt at getting us to suppress ourselves, ruining our emotional and physical health.

We don’t stumble into abuse because we’re naive or poor judges of character.  To say that is to infantilize us. To say that is to make yet another attempt at robbing us of our independence and agency, impoverishing our life experiences.

We find ourselves in toxic, abusive friendships and relationships because we are groomed for that shit by the authority figures in our lives who teach us how to behave and blend in while ignoring the nuances of interpersonal interaction - particularly the nuances of the sorts of interaction that happen when acquaintances become friends, when friends become close friends, or when our relationships with those friends become romantic and/or sexual. They simply don’t see those stages of relating as something we want, or, if we do want them, however desperately, they are dismissed as something that’s simply not in the hand we were dealt. We are taught only how to get by in shallow interactions, and left to trial and error should we wish to pursue anything beyond that.

Unfortunately, a lot of that “error” entails emotional, psychological, physical, and sexual abuse.

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5 years ago
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Acetone doesn't work. Maybe soaking it might've, but I didn't want to risk shrinking/warping the head to find out.

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Wonder if the gloss was what was resisting the acetone or the sort of paint they used. Maybe both.

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Luckily his lips seemed to only be two paint layers deep, so it took only a few minutes.

Will definitely be getting more of these boys when they go on sale if only for the sculpts alone.


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1 year ago

As someone who has lived with both of these all my life (I live in the Midwest), yes

I just witnessed someone ask for a plant to be identified on facebook and because it had leaves in groups of three, dozens of fully grown adults said "LEAVES OF THREE!!!! POISON IVY!! I CAN SPOT IT ANYWHERE!"........it was not even close to poison ivy. There are multiple plants with leaves "in threes." Thousands and thousands of them. This is like saying any animal with four legs is an alligator.


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3 years ago

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4 years ago
Artist Carves Wooden Rope Sculpture From A Tree Trunk
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5 years ago

Toad Words

            Frogs fall out of my mouth when I talk. Toads, too.

            It used to be a problem.

            There was an incident when I was young and cross and fed up parental expectations. My sister, who is the Good One, has gold fall from her lips, and since I could not be her, I had to go a different way.

            So I got frogs. It happens.

            “You’ll grow into it,” the fairy godmother said. “Some curses have cloth-of-gold linings.” She considered this, and her finger drifted to her lower lip, the way it did when she was forgetting things. “Mind you, some curses just grind you down and leave you broken. Some blessings do that too, though. Hmm. What was I saying?”

            I spent a lot of time not talking. I got a slate and wrote things down. It was hard at first, but I hated to drop the frogs in the middle of the road. They got hit by cars, or dried out, miles away from their damp little homes.

            Toads were easier. Toads are tough. After awhile, I learned to feel when a word was a toad and not a frog. I could roll the word around on my tongue and get the flavor before I spoke it. Toad words were drier. Desiccated is a toad word. So is crisp and crisis and obligation. So are elegant and matchstick.

            Frog words were a bit more varied. Murky. Purple. Swinging. Jazz.

I practiced in the field behind the house, speaking words over and over, sending small creatures hopping into the evening.  I learned to speak some words as either toads or frogs. It’s all in the delivery.

            Love is a frog word, if spoken earnestly, and a toad word if spoken sarcastically. Frogs are not good at sarcasm.

            Toads are masters of it.

            I learned one day that the amphibians are going extinct all over the world, that some of them are vanishing. You go to ponds that should be full of frogs and find them silent. There are a hundred things responsible—fungus and pesticides and acid rain.

            When I heard this, I cried “What!?” so loudly that an adult African bullfrog fell from my lips and I had to catch it. It weighed as much as a small cat. I took it to the pet store and spun them a lie in writing about my cousin going off to college and leaving the frog behind.

            I brooded about frogs for weeks after that, and then eventually, I decided to do something about it.

            I cannot fix the things that kill them. It would take an army of fairy godmothers, and mine retired long ago. Now she goes on long cruises and spreads her wings out across the deck chairs.

            But I can make more.

            I had to get a field guide at first. It was a long process. Say a word and catch it, check the field marks. Most words turn to bronze frogs if I am not paying attention.

            Poison arrow frogs make my lips go numb. I can only do a few of those a day. I go through a lot of chapstick.  

            It is a holding action I am fighting, nothing more. I go to vernal pools and whisper sonnets that turn into wood frogs. I say the words squeak and squill and spring peepers skitter away into the trees. They begin singing almost the moment they emerge.

            I read long legal documents to a growing audience of Fowler’s toads, who blink their goggling eyes up at me. (I wish I could do salamanders. I would read Clive Barker novels aloud and seed the streams with efts and hellbenders. I would fly to Mexico and read love poems in another language to restore the axolotl. Alas, it’s frogs and toads and nothing more. We make do.)

            The woods behind my house are full of singing. The neighbors either learn to love it or move away.

            My sister—the one who speaks gold and diamonds—funds my travels. She speaks less than I do, but for me and my amphibian friends, she will vomit rubies and sapphires. I am grateful.

            I am practicing reading modernist revolutionary poetry aloud. My accent is atrocious. Still, a day will come when the Panamanian golden frog will tumble from my lips, and I will catch it and hold it, and whatever word I spoke, I’ll say again and again, until I stand at the center of a sea of yellow skins, and make from my curse at last a cloth of gold.

Terri Windling posted recently about the old fairy tale of frogs falling from a girl’s lips, and I started thinking about what I’d do if that happened to me, and…well…


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2 years ago

The median artery is an artery that is occasionally found in humans and other animals. [1] It is present in 35% of individuals born in the late 20th century. [2]

occasionally I'm reminded that biology just sucks to think about


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5 years ago

I’m off to the woods ! It’s been too long, I need to sit in a creek and forget some things.


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3 years ago

fat bodies, fat anatomy, and how body fat tends to work should be taught as standardly as skinny anatomy and how muscles work in art courses. fat bodies are not an outlier. fat bodies are not a minority and theyre not abnormal or wrong. fat bodies are normal and they belong in art teaching spaces as commonly as other anatomy, because fat bodies ARE normal anatomy. people have diverse bodies and there will never be a single body type that encompasses the "normal body type"

tldr; fat anatomy should be taught as a staple in art courses just like any other anatomy. this is fact <3


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