this might be a hot take but i think that most women do have some radfem beliefs but choose not to share them out of fear of harassment or don’t recognize them as radical beliefs because of how radical feminism has been demonized.
Women are allowed to do this.
I have seen a post circulating for a while that lists 10 short stories everyone should read and, while these are great works, most of them are older and written by white men. I wanted to make a modern list that features fresh, fantastic and under represented voices. Enjoy!
1. A Temporary Matter by Jhumpa Lahiri — A couple in a failing marriage share secrets during a blackout.
2. Stone Animals by Kelly Link — A family moves into a haunted house.
3. Reeling for the Empire by Karen Russell — Women are sold by their families to a silk factory, where they are slowly transformed into human silkworms.
4. Call My Name by Aimee Bender — A woman wearing a ball gown secretly auditions men on the subway.
5. The Man on the Stairs by Miranda July — A woman wakes up to a noise on the stairs.
6. Brownies by ZZ Packer — Rival Girl Scout troops are separated by race.
7. City of My Dreams by Zsuzi Gartner — A woman works at a shop selling food-inspired soap and tries not to think about her past.
8. A Good Man is Hard to Find by Flannery O’Connor — A family drives from Georgia to Florida, even though a serial killer is on the loose.
9. Hitting Budapest by NoViolet Bulawayo — A group of children, led by a girl named Darling, travel to a rich neighborhood to steal guavas.
10. You’re Ugly, Too by Lorrie Moore — A history professor flies to Manhattan to spend Halloween weekend with her younger sister.
I cannot emphasize enough how much of a life hack it is to exclusively be friends with, date and marry people who are not constantly mean assholes to you.
you say you would sacrifice yourself to save your wife, you say you would kill someone to defend your children, etc. you'd do any sort of grand gesture for your loved ones. but what about in the mean time?
would you mildly inconvenience yourself? would you take them time to actually bond with them? would put effort into remembering their likes and dislikes? would you re-evaluate your beliefs? would you try to see an argument from their point of view? would you keep your voice level instead of raising it to intimidate them?
would you dedicate a few seconds every day instead of pledging one massive push at a hypothetical point in your life?
Ok
But seriously, if you keep pushing yourself past your mental or physical limits, it will catch up with you. You cannot live forever on three hours of sleep and caffeine and willpower. You cannot keep overpowering your very natural need to relax and recharge. If you don't treat both with care and respect, at some point your brain and your body will reach a point of breakdown and burnout - and any mental or physical conditions you may have tried to ignore and power through will kick your ass. So take that goddamn nap or that break now. Don't wait for yourself to shatter and fall apart before you tend to the cracks in your body and mind. Just because you may have the choice to ignore your limits right now doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. Take care of yourself now or you WILL regret it.
Astrology doesn't seem to work.
If you accidentally hurt someone or cross their boundaries and they make you aware of this, literally all you have to do is apologize and stop. You don't have to beat yourself up internally for months. You don't have to hate yourself for fucking up. You don't have to feel like a horrible person. No one benefits from any of that - and at worst, such an extreme reaction will make the person in question less likely to speak up around you in the future, cause even if your negative reaction is directed at yourself and not at them, it's still unpleasant for everyone involved.
Men have what's called "explosive" strength. Power + speed. The price of this type of strength is tiring quickly and tissue injury. If a man can't overwhelm you in the first few minutes, he's lost his "advantage". They also have low pain tolerance. Strikes are loudly telegraphed and slow compared to maneuvering and grappling. Most men don't train legs at all.
Learning how to fight with a woman's strengths is a game changer. Endurance, flexibility, joint manipulation, reflexes, environmental awareness, marksmanship. The disparity in strength that exists between a man's upper body and a woman's upper body, exists between a woman's hips and a man's hips. Regardless, women need to do full body heavy strength training to shore up what socialization has depleted-- strength training also increases your bone density. Hormonal birth control weakens you.
Eyes, ears, nose, tendons, small joints. Men fight for fun and status/ego. Women fight for survival. If a fight cannot be avoided, you must move to kill/cripple first and without mercy. The more meaty/fat the neck, the more your chokes will hurt. A properly applied choke kills in approximately two minutes or less. Men are especially susceptible to foot, ankle and knee manipulation. If you can hook his balls with your fingers and bust them, there's a strong chance of him choking to death on his own vomit.
I've spent most my life getting in fights. Men are sloppy, stupid, overemotional, and weak. Their strengths have nothing on ours. But you do need to start navigating the world as if we at war. An isolated woman is a woman in danger. Failure to cultivate your woman body and instincts can cost you your life at worst, your self assurance at least.
Just my humble experience