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A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
Shared here today by Matthew Boroson on Facebook. (ETA: Gaining inspiration from other authors is great. Lifting passages and avoiding giving credit isn’t.)
Tanith Lee was the first woman to win the British Fantasy Award for best novel, for the second book of the Flat Earth series. She died in 2015. You can buy Tales From the Flat Earth here and here .
Just my humble experience
did anyone else see the edward snowden interview in the guardian about two days ago where he said that most of the NSA agents doing checks through people’s data are men aged 18-22 and that when they access photographs of attractive women naked they all send them to each other for reasons that are 100% not professional
like, if you have naked selfies on your phone, even if you have never sent them to anyone or moved them anywhere, these fucking mouthbreathers could be downloading them and sending them to all their friends
“Cis women who don’t pass” is such an insane thing to say. Do you even hear yourself? “Cis women” don’t need to “pass as women”. We literally ARE women, it’s that simple. The concept of passing doesn’t make the slightest sense when applied to a person who doesn’t identify as trans.
When an elderly person comes down with a serious illness, for the sake of their recovery, indeed their survival, they are supposed to avoid anything that may strain their weakened systems.
They are meant to avoid stress.
Which is probably at least part of the reason why Pope Francis sent his second to speak to JD Vance instead of doing it himself.
And Then... JD VANCE INSISTED TO SPEAK TO THE POPE HIMSELF.
Knowing that the pope was still recovering from PNEUMONIA at his advanced age.
Still, like an entitled american, he demanded to speak to the pope himself. Despite having been met by his political equal in status, it wasn't good enough for JD Vance.
It just might have been the final straw for an elderly man who was fighting off a serious infection to have to take the time out of his already busy schedule.
The complete lack of empathy that JD Vance brought to the Vatican, that he had already been scolded for by the leadership of the religion he claims to follow, can very easily be considered a contributing factor at the very least.
It's not a stretch to theorize the pope might have survived had JD Vance not come calling.
The jokes are funny and all... but...
remember when we had "pizza rolls, not gender roles!" and now we have "actually some people need to identify with gender roles so they can feel gender euphoria. doing away with gender roles is discriminatory "
Posting this again because basically this is my bible
i really like the definition of “adult human female” because it says “thats all it is. its not femininity, makeup, submissiveness, softness, anything. all it is is biology. the rest is up to the individual”