It Really Sucks That Pride Month Means That All The Aphobes Come Out Of The Woodwork, But At Least It

it really sucks that pride month means that all the aphobes come out of the woodwork, but at least it means I know who to block

gotta be really clear on this: aces are valid, aros are valid, aroaces are valid, aspec people are valid, asexuality is NOT heterosexuality, aromanticism is NOT heteroromanticism, and anyone on the ace/aro spectrum is welcome in the LGBT community

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6 years ago

Dear bed, i love you

6 years ago

I JUST FOUND A GAY KIDS BOOK ABOUT A PRINCE AND KNIGHT IN LOVE AND IM,,, OBLITERATED

6 years ago

Please help me escape my demon dad

Hey y'all it’s Lawless and I’m in a serious crisis. My father has gone out of his way to torment me over the past year and I need to get out of his house asap. I’m not allowed to use the bathroom at certain hours, he’s given me nowhere to put my clothes, he only speaks to me when I’ve done wrong (in his eyes of course, because nothing is Ever good enough), he regularly insults my intelligence, and the list goes on and on. It’s vital to my mental health to leave before I officially lose it.

Unfortunately, I can’t get hired anywhere because, yay for me, I got robbed a few weeks ago, and my ids and one of my debit cards got taken. I had to cancel everything. So i have to have a bit of money to begin with so i can get a new id, in addition to having enough saved up to get an apartment (which aren’t cheap in my city, even with a roommate).

In total (including rent, food, utilities, birth control, down payment, and transportation), I’ll need a bare minimum of $3k to comfortably move out before the end of May.

Please donate here: cash.me/$RainLawless

5 years ago

we seriously need to bring back the concept of “despite its flaws i still enjoy it” instead of ‘cancelling’ every fuckin thing in sight 

6 years ago

The Truth of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ

The Buzzfeed article was titled “This Man Invited People To A “BBQ Not Orgy” On Grindr And It Was Surprisingly Heartwarming.” It’s about how Chris Bowman, a 61 year old man from Apex, North Carolina has been hosting an annual summer BBQ. He advertises this BBQ through the gay dating/hookup app, Grindr. It’s about how the event is surprisingly sweet and Bowman, who is a recovered alcoholic, wants to give back to the community and bring people together.

The Truth Of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ
The Truth Of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ

TL;DR Chris is a registered sex offender with a history of pedophilia and preying on young people. His ‘not an orgy’ and community talk is a gaslighting tactic to groom young people into having sex with him. Buzzfeed, Vice, and other social media outlets giving his event a platform endangers LGBT youth.

Buzzfeed Link: Click Here

Time for the real shit. Buckle UP.

A group of four of us (J, M, S, and A) attended the BBQ in the summer of 2017. J received an invite similar to the one shown in the Buzzfeed article over Grindr, and we’re young and dumb so we decided what the hell, let’s go. We rolled up and saw a fire truck and ambulance already there. He’d invited the local fire department and EMS to attend the BBQ. The food was admittedly very good, and the crowd was a strange mix of after-church and from Grindr. Most of the other folks at the BBQ seemed fine and kind. Buzzfeed got that right. Here is what they left out:

HE’S A SEX CRIMINAL

The Truth Of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ

His page on the NC registry: Click Here

More information about his charges & appeal: Click Here

1997: Chris is giving Daniel, a 14 yo boy, a golf lesson. He locks the doors to the store and turns off the lights. He comes up behind Daniel under the impression of adjusting the child’s technique. He reaches down into Daniel’s underwear and molests him.

1998: Chris’s daughter has two friends over for a slumber party. They are sisters. When everyone is asleep, Jessica, a 15 yo girl, is walking down the stairs of his multi-level house. Chris approaches, pulls down her shorts, and performs oral sex on her. He stops when Jessica’s sister stumbles upon the scene.

2005: Chris provides his house as a location for two friends, a 24 yo and 18 yo, to have sex with their underage girlfriends, 14 yo and 15 yo.

He appealed his 2005 convictions that testimony from 1997 & 98 was inadmissible in the determination of guilt phase of his trial.

THE BBQ

Chris knew who we were and immediately inserted himself into our group. We figured, yeah we’ll talk with him a while—he gave us all this food, so we kind of have to (!!THIS IS HIS STRATEGY!!). Anyway, we listened to him talk about orgies, sex, golf, and drugs in Europe for about an hour. Topics he hit:

-        Orgies he’d attended in downtown Paris where you circled the arc de triumph in your car until forming a chain of other searching cars that would eventually peel off into a warehouse or somewhere to initiate the orgy. It’s cool you, should totally try it sometime! OKAY.

-        He talked a lot about how his favorite drug to use was Black Beauty

-        He talked a lot about how good the golfing was in Scotland (He molested a 14 yo boy in 1997 while teaching a golf lesson!)

-        He spent a lot of time trying to convince us to attend the “BBQ After Dark”

The heat was incredible that day and we were starting to get tired of his weird sex talk. Chris saw this and asked J what was wrong. J told him it was just kind of hot. Chris followed up by inviting J to go on and take his shirt off. J said no, he was fine. Chris said, “Oh no, come on! Take your shirt off! I’ll take my shirt off!” J ignored it. We were all uncomfortable. Throughout the ENTIRE event, Chris constantly reminded us about the after dark portion of the BBQ, which we were all very invited to. We had no plans of going, but kept our refusals soft and polite out of respect, because again, the BBQ is a tactic to make you treat him kinder and feel bad about thinking he’s creepy.

THE NEXT DAY

This was when the solicitations started. For the next year and a half until J deleted his Grindr last fall, Chris continued to send J messages trying to move things forward. He also tried to pick up A and S through J’s Grindr. He’s talked about how he’s really excited about the buzz the event has been getting and how he’s hoping the event will grow and grow. J hasn’t responded to the messages that have kept coming for over a year. Attached are a few screenshots.

The Truth Of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ
The Truth Of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ
The Truth Of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ

CONCLUSION

We tried to contact Buzzfeed after the article was first published about how they had misrepresented the nature of the event. When they didn’t respond, we didn’t think it mattered too much. Maybe we were being too critical? The food was good… However, now that we are aware of Chris’s history of pedophilia, we want to make sure anyone who decides to attend knows what to expect.

4 years ago

No but seriously as I’ve gotten older I realize more and more that although white gays do face certain levels of oppression they are still white people.....like does that make sense?

6 years ago

Your daughters do not exist to give you grandchildren

6 years ago

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

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