My Dumbass Read That As Leek And Now All I Can Think Of Is This Stupid Fucking Meme

i dont get it when people get mad at systems being happy or talking about mundane or silly parts of plurality. that doesnt discount the difficulties (and yes, it can cause difficulties even if your plurality wasnt caused by trauma) and some people just dont like talking about their issues online to a bunch of strangers. just because someone doesnt constantly talk about their suffering doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

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no because where did all these fictives come from did my brain give up on making guys

Hello! Saw the ask a DID sys post and though we'd drop by. Personally we're curious- how do you cope with having so many beings in your system?

We're a collective of around 40-something at the moment, and we have reason to believe that our headcount will not stop growing, nor will it ever go down. This has caused some distress since we're not quite sure how that will work, and we already completely lack a clear roster of frequent fronters. We've been curious as to how others cope with "high" headcounts by most standards. (Although I recognize "cope" may not be the correct word, as it implies the high headcount to be a bad thing and not everyone would experience it as such.)

Hey! For us, we also have an unclear frequent fronter list and are frequently blurry. It was similar for us in a case where we would not stop discovering new members- and it still is that case for us. We try and cope with high headcounts by documenting activity from fronters whenever possible, along with adding various personal notes about them that may help us understand them better. We also try and establish their roles so we can better realize when they may be out- although it isn't always easy to find out, especially when a large number of them are unformed fragments. There's not exactly a way to 'cope', I'd say, but especially if there's a need for control, organizing and documenting them down definitely helps you feel more in control of your headcount numbers. Also to say, there's nothing wrong with having a high headcount. It's just a representation of how much your brain wanted and tried to protect you, no matter how much it took, even if its hard and stressful.

anyone else need like. verbal confirmation that someone is your friend. like aaa i cant call you my friend if you haven't confirmed it yet!!! that's rude!!! and it only works in your case of course

Most of us don’t come with pre-shipped names with Amazon Prime, but some will, mostly if introjected. Some of us will be searching for an inner meaning for their name, and it will take ABSOLUTELY FOREVER. And another might just get up and call themselves Bob. Sometimes, a name will stick- sometimes members will decide to stay nameless, which we respect. System is weird. 👍 - Coolest guy ever (anon)

67: do you have names? how do you come up with or get them?

i remember all the times we were forced to go on long walks or standing for long prolonged periods and whenever we told and literally BEGGED someone that we felt faint and our chest and neck was hurting and we needed to sit down because we thought we were going to collapse, that we were told that it was just because ‘we were weak’ or ‘we needed more exercise’, and so, us, 8 year old child, just learned to deal with it. turns out we had POTS.

yk that weirdass feeling when you realize you are truly alone outside of your own head???? currently going through that mood lol

as a system, we agree on nothing, except for one thing. *yelling, in any form that can not be obviously seen as playful (and even caution on that)* is never okay if not behind closed and locked doors, and even then, we prefer not to yell in any capacity as it only harms others- especially when internal arguing occurs. we’ve seen what discourse between people, especially those you love, does to a person from a first-hand perspective.

We've come out to roughly three parties about our plurality in which we were in a covert space. 1. Our immediate family. They didn't take it too well- Well, they kind of did. It's just that they didn't really understand and made several hurtful remarks and eventually straight-out claimed that we were faking. So, I think either way it probably would've turned out like this, due to the nature of my family, but to perhaps recommend more research on plurality (EVEN MORE. We still recommended them but it was less direct), might've changed that outcome. 2. One of our closer online friends-- They brushed us off. I have to admit, the one who came out about it was extremely rushed about it, and it was definitely a mistake on our part. We eventually grew apart. I believe if we had more experience in that department could explain more thoroughly, it probably could've turned out different. 3. One of our real life friends- This one was recent, as you saw us yapping about it. It went very well. We took a moment aside to explain our situation, and they asked questions and we answered them. They also said they'd do some research on their own time? (What did I do to deserve you........) Overall, for those who wish to come out to others, it's very important to be completely open to questions, suggest research in their time if they wish to learn more, explain clearly and directly about what it is (especially since a lot of people may be completely unaware of its nature other than the typical stereotypes), so making sure to knock those out of the park are very important. - blurry

question 77: if you've ever come out to anyone as plural, how did you go about it? is there anything you'd change about how you did it? do you have any advice for others looking to do the same?