Here's Some More Unsolicited Adult Advice As Someone In Her 30s Who Knows There Are A Lot Of Twenty Somethings

here's some more unsolicited adult advice as someone in her 30s who knows there are a lot of twenty somethings and teens that follow her: if you're trying to build a new habit you really want, and are struggling, you have to break it down to the smallest building block possible. If you're failing, you haven't thought small enough. I know it's possible to hear stories of people who just snapped into new life mode one day by "just deciding", but truly what's happening there is a confluence of events and experiences that force the brain into some sort of epiphany. You cannot will an epiphany. It'll never work. For most times of your life, you will need to build habits intentionally, and that means not working against yourself and to set micro goals. like laughably tiny goals. because once that easy tiny goal is met, you can build off it, tiny goal after tiny goal until you reach your big goal.

so for example, if you want to be a morning person that gets up at ass crack dawn so that you can work out, eat brekkie, shower, and get to work at a leisurely pace, and you're not that person because you will hit your snooze button 800 times, you have to get the big picture goal out of your head. think smaller. "I want to get up 15 minutes earlier than I normally do." If you can't do that, make it 5 minutes. "I want to cook breakfast every day" hell no too big. "I want to eat something, anything, before I leave the house" hell yeah, fantastic. When you go to the grocery store to make sure there are things in the house for breakfast, if you keep buying bagels and microwave sandwiches that you ignore, you gotta think smaller. SMALLER. What's something so easy to eat that you'll never say no to. Is it a yogurt? Is it a handful of grapes? Is it a hostess ho ho? is it hot cheetos? FORGET the big picture of the fantasy put-together woman preparing a full nutritious meal that you'd be proud to admit to. Think only of the smallest goal you can achieve. If you know you can't say no to an ice cream sandwich, put a ton of ice cream sandwiches in your freezer and have one for breakfast every day until it's so instilled in you that you gotta get up to eat something you can start diversifying.

It sounds like, from the lack of habit place, that must take forever. But really it doesn't take too long to form the habit once the discipline kicks in. the trick is that you have to give your brain something easy to become disciplined to. If it's too hard, think easier and smaller. No one has to know. Literally no one in the gd world has to know that for 4 weeks when you were 22 you had an ice cream sandwich for breakfast every day. who cares. If it gets you eating oatmeal with fresh fruit in a few months who cares. you did it, yay. smaller, easier. if you can't do it, think smaller and easier. smaller!! EASIER!!! You are not thinking smaller and easier enough. break your brain thinking how small and easy you can go. SMALLER. EVEN SMALLER, SIS.

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6 months ago

Not gonna lie, if I was Orpheus, I just wouldn't have turned arou–

Did you hear that?

Eurydice?

Eurydice, are you still there?

Sorry, I trust you're there. That noise just startled me for a second there.

...

You are there, right? Sorry. Of course you are.

This is a long tunnel. My feet hurt... Do you think we can stop for a while? I won't turn around.

I promise.

...

I'll take that as a yes.

Do you know how much longer it'll take?

I... I don't know why I keep asking you questions. I know I won't get an answer. But you can give me all your answers as soon as we're home.

I'm so tired. Let's rest. Just for an hour or so.

I love you.

I won't turn around.

...

Do you trust that I won't?

Sorry, I just realized how often I keep saying that I won't. Do I really think you don't trust me? Do I not trust myself?

How long have we been walking? It feels like days.

I just... I hope it's over soon. I keep feeling like I see the light at the end of the tunnel but it's just my imagination.

But I won't turn around... I prom-

What's that noise?

Is that you?

Are you even there?

Sorry. Again. And sorry I keep saying sorry. Am I going insane? I know you're there. Right behind me. Just one step behind.

Has it been weeks?

I think my hair's longer than it should be.

Months?

Will we ever make it out?

I trust you're there. I trust you're right behind me. I can't hear you. I can't look at you...

I won't turn around. I promise.

...

I love you.

Eurydice?

I...

I won't turn around.

I won't.

I.

...

I don't think there's an end to this.

Should we keep walking?

Should I just...

I'm sorry, I can't believe I'm even suggesting that.

I won't turn around.

Because I love you. And I trust you're there...

I love you.

I can't see you. Or feel you. Or hear you.

How can I love you...

You're hardly there. I know it doesn't feel that way to you.

But I just... I won't turn around.

... I promise?

Has it been years?

When will this be over.

Do I even love you if I can't even bring myself to look at you?

Let me see you! I can't do this. Let me hear your voice, Eurydice!

Eurydice?

I can't... I won't...

Turn around...

Turn around?

How could I be so stupid?

But this won't be over until I do.

I truly believe that.

I love you.

Even if I never see you again...

Please understand, Eurydice. I'm breaking this promise out of love.

Please understand.

I'm sorry.

I'm turning around.

You're beautiful.

Rewatching “The Boiler Room Job” and they really did just give Eliot a machete and set him loose in the jungle with an asshole conman ceo huh

6 months ago
How Aaravos Is Gonna Get Defeated (maybe)

How Aaravos is gonna get defeated (maybe)

1 month ago

“X bodily fluid is just filtered blood!” buddy I hate to break it to you but ALL of the fluids in your body are filtered blood. Your circulatory system is how water gets around your body. It all comes out of the blood (or lymph, which is just filtered blood).

4 months ago

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5 months ago

my secret super power is that i love and enjoy every single episode and season of the dragon prince

9 months ago

Fanon Tim, a mysterious super smart hacker bro on the same level of Oracle, who’s also unhinged, caffeine dependent, morally grey, negative rizz, lowkey has the highest body count of all the bats, and is a badass: and I will watch the crimson blood, leak from you neck

Canon Tim, loser skater boy who plays DnD in his spare time, nap addicted, pulls hella bitches, strict moral code with the bad habit of seeing only black and white, and is also a major badass: woah, that kid is hardcore goth

6 months ago
YES THIS IS A FANFICTION MASTERPOST!!! All My Dragon Prince Fics Will Be Here For Your Perusal

YES THIS IS A FANFICTION MASTERPOST!!! All my Dragon Prince fics will be here for your perusal <3

One Shots

All the Colors of Before [tragic magefam sibs, sorvus, co-written with @honeii-puff]

A Family Recipe [clauderry, inbox trick-or-treating 2024, fluff]

The Wrong Confidant [janaya, inbox trick-or-treating 2024, fluff]

A Flammable First Date [sorvus, inbox trick-or-treating 2024, fluff]

Snow Day [rayllum, prompt ask, fluff, rayllum kiddos]

An Elf and a Mage walk into a bar [clauderry, prompt ask, fluff]

Snuggles & Snoozles [rayllum, prompt ask, fluff]

A White Wedding [janaya, prompt ask, janaya kiddos]

One Too Many Drinks [sorvus, modern AU]

What Can't Be [sorpeli, forbidden romance, bittersweet]

Modern AU

Two Birds on a Wire [magefam, sorvus, clauderry, viravos] (in planning stage)

TBD [crownfam, rayllum, broyals, virrow] (in planning stage)

TBD [ruthari, janaya, rayllum] (in planning stage)

TBD [sorpeli] (in planning stage)

TBD [sorvus, rayllum, clauderry] (in planning stage)

Katolis 99 [corsorpeli, janaya, rayllum] (in planning stage)

A Campus Christmas [sorvus, rayllum, fluffcember, holiday fluff]

Crossover AUs

Dragon Falls [The Dragon Prince x Gravity Falls] (in planning stage)

Primal [The Dragon Prince x Arcane] (in planning stage)

TBD [The Dragon Prince x The Scholomance] (in planning stage)

Alternate Timelines / Realities

The Book of Destiny [fanon arc three, OCs, rayllum] (in planning stage)

Remnants [sorpeli, magefam angst, post S7] (in planning stage)

Aftermath [sorvus, post s6, hurt/comfort] (complete)

Call the Darkness [soren-centric, post s6, angst] (complete)

it's quicker and easier to eat you young [sorvus, halfelf!soren, post S6, co-written with @honeii-puff] (in progress)

Foundations [sorpeli, post s7] (in planning stage)

TBD [magefam, crownfam, rayla & the broyals] (in planning stage)

Mercy [alt arc 1, rayllum, early redemption soren] (in planning stage)

Fandom Events

A Dangerous Profession [sorvus week 2024, hurt/comfort, sorvus]

Camp Songs [sorvus week 2024 young soren callum & corvus, camp katolis]

My mind is the place I can't escape your ghost [snake boi callum week 3.0, tragic rayllum, broyals]

The Right Choice [snake boi callum week 3.0, tragic rayllum, coin theory]

Third Time's the Charm [snake boi callum week 3.0, tragic rayllum, coin theory, claudia & callum]

I flew so close to the sun that I flew away from you [snake boi callum week 3.0, bittersweet rayllum, rayllum kiddos]

Hearts of Cinder [sorvus, sorvus week 2024, emotional hurt/comfort]

Whispers on the Wind [sorvus, poet soren, sorvus week 2024, fluff]

A Good Man With A Big Heart [sorvus, alt s6, sorvus week 2024]

I'll Wait For You (will you wait for me?) [sorvus, post s3, sorvus week 2024]

Matching Scars [sorvus, post s6, sorvus week 2024]

A Campus Christmas [modern au, sorvus, rayllum, clauderry, fluffcember 2024]

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9 months ago
Best Boy Wip

best boy wip

2 months ago

reblog if you wear glasses. too many mutuals don't know they have glasses wearers in their midsts

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