Why Would A Trans Guy Want To Be A Gestational Parent?

Why would a trans guy want to be a gestational parent?

I want to kick off this blog by talking about one question so many people have... "But, why??".

Why would someone who's a man want to be pregnant and birth a child?

Why would someone who's desperately trying to be seen as a man do one of the biggest things associated with being a woman?

What about gender dysphoria?

Why not adopt or get a surrogate? Or what if your partner is a cis woman, shouldn't she carry instead?

There's multiple answers to all of these questions depending on the trans person you talk to. Some will say "I would never want to be pregnant, I couldn't do it", some would say "it's just easier than adoption" some would say "having a child come from your body is a beautiful thing" and so forth

For me, I've known for a long time I wanted a child. This child was not planned, but they're coming nonetheless. I've known that options like adoption or surrogacy isn't very accessible and probably wouldn't be possible for me, and frankly I want a child that looks like me. Having someone surrogate can be extremely expensive and the hormones they put you through to collect eggs can be stressful and difficult, and isn't worth it to everyone.

I understand I will experience, and have experienced gender dysphoria because of it. I get weird questions, I get confusion, I get misgendered as my appearance changes and my breasts get bigger, and it's only going to get worse as I start showing.

I've had people ask me "but isn't this against everything you believe in??" And I was confused. I've never said I was against birthing, I never said I didn't want to have a child, and I never said I wanted to rid of my current genitalia. I've had people ask me what the child will call me, if it'll confuse them, etc.

To me, it'll all be worth it in the end. I'll have a child I can raise my way, with a healthy family, and trauma and ND informed parents who will always love them and help them when needed.

It's hard, of course it's hard. It's hard enough for cis women and for us trans guys (and nonbinary people), it's extra hard.

Basically at the end of the day, we have the choice to do what we wish with our bodies. We aren't harming anyone by being pregnant, and we aren't harming anyone if we choose not to get pregnant.

Remember to keep invasive questions to yourself, and remember we deserve the same respect anyone else does. Respect us, and everyone will be a lot happier in the long run.