Being Single In Your Late 20s & 30s Is So Fucking Wild Bc On One Hand It's Fun And Flirty And You Skip

being single in your late 20s & 30s is so fucking wild bc on one hand it's fun and flirty and you skip a lot of the bullshit because you know what you're looking for and you know how to spot a red flag from a mile away and you've learned to set boundaries and communicate your own and be upfront about your needs and most of the time they've learned it too - and if they haven't, you can tell after the second date that they haven't been to therapy

and every time you feel lonely and dried up and an ugly husk there's a whole community of other single people out there who are just as unhinged and want to hang out with you because they just need a plus-one like you do and you get introduced to like. people in their 60's and 70's and 80's who are all like - nope, single life is my choice and i love it and you feel warm and seen and like okay, it's not the end of the world if i'm not seeing anybody. and yeah it's hard and sometimes exhausting but part of getting better is that you do make like so many friends and do so much wild shit because you made a promise to yourself that you'll actually get out there and try shit and actually work on your hobbies and skills and friendships because to be honest in relationships you wouldn't push yourself this hard and it's actually been super rewarding because it came from you and from what you wanted

and yes of course the apps such and dating in general can suck but after one of the bad dates you go back to your apartment and call up those friends you made and make jokes about what the other person said and it rolls right off your back and you have plans for self-care in the morning. you prioritize yourself and your happiness and you really actually don't mind it, a lot of the time, unless it's like at a wedding and they're doing one of those couples-related things. most of the time it's not even a problem except when you can tell people pity you for it and you're like - i'm actually fine, babe, even without a partner i am still, like a person and yes of course it would be nice to have a partner but you have established yourself as a person and as an adult in a way that feels really hard-won and well-earned and you're protective of that and of the life you're living and honestly you're pretty happy, all things considered

and at the same time you do have to tell your father that you are single on purpose right now and that, yes, believe it or not, they're letting women be single past the age of 30 these days without burning us at the stake (can you imagine!) and you have to kind of sit pretty while people make jokes about how you're losing your marriageability and you're like, a little too old for the bars and the clubs and whatever but you do still want to go out dancing and it's like. the other day you went to a board game party and had the time of your life and then your mom calls you and says she's worried because what if you never find the one, shouldn't you be spending more time looking? and you're like - trying to balance this place where you're actually, like, perfectly okay? except you hear this thing over and over and over - oh no. that's so sad. i hope you find your lover. and you weren't really upset about it until someone suggested that you're running out of time and until someone said that it's so miserable that you live without someone to kiss and you're like why can't anyone believe that i'm genuinely happy. like. joy. like. bliss.

and then they look at you and they look at their partner and the look passes between them that says - poor thing. you're just lying to yourself about this.

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2 years ago

I want to emphasize that Puen & Talay had a mutual love at first sight moment.

I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.
I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.

It's not just the physical contact. Talay doesn't idolise Puen as a celebrity, he only meant to keep distance & avoid looking creepy. So he's basically having a "Fuck he's too attractive my heart can't take it" moment.

Puen on the other hand finds Talay cute. Initially he must have assumed Talay as another nervous fan. He's a celebrity. He must have met so many people who tell that they're friends are his fan. He couldn't resist, plus he had to be polite as a public figure. This he accepted the present.

Now for the deciding factor. I want to believe Puen was just being nice. When he told the person who drew the alpaca which looks like a lama must be cute. It could mean one of the 2 things

If your friend drew this, I think it's cute they put in effort to customize it

If you're nervous & using friend as a cover, then you're double cute considering point 1 as well

I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.

Just look how he pauses to call Talay cute with an endearing smile when he learns it was he who drew it.

Puen has to keep his distance with a fan but his smile of intense adoration shows he finds Talay charming. Maybe even attractive. And if it was in another world where they were not fan-celebrity he'd want to get to know Talay (WHICH IS PRECISELY WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN AFGSVAVAJW)

I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.

This scene is PROOF that Talay is fucking attracted to Puen. He has poise, charm & consistent (from his interaction with the director, he's still as polite as he was at the airport) Puen even tried to communicate & make Talay comfortable when he could've just tried again without having to talk to him.

Talay's repeatedly being put in a situation where the man he's attracted to is being nice to him & has his face literally centimeters away from his own. He's losing it & we're here for it 😂🥰✋🏼

I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.

Now for Puen. There was ABSOLUTELY NO need of fixing the hair & makeup of somebody playing dead. Because it's not mentioned that it's some protagonist who NEEDS to look beautiful even in death to evoke pity 😂

Puen got a chance to be near the person he had a fleeting crush on. He's just living his best life by living in the moment & going "OMG I touched my crush, he's so close to my face, he's gorgeous!!" 😂😂😂

Puen is DEFINITELY the one who's whipped more. Just look at him 😂💙🤍

Because Talay is gleaming with joy on his job offer & it has nothing to do with Puen. In fact, he must be frustrated as it's disrupting his shoot & schedule

But here he goes, smiling to himself seeing his crush be happy & finding it cute.

I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.
I Want To Emphasize That Puen & Talay Had A Mutual Love At First Sight Moment.

On an important note, Talay knows it's most likely a celebrity crush & Puen is not someone accessible in his social circle.

But Puen is falling hard for Talay's transparency & overall nervous, awkward behavior & we're living for it.

In conclusion Talay is having a Y/N moment that none of us never had 😔😪


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2 years ago

I will never get over how Pai always skipped art class and never learnt anything about architecture but still goes above and beyond to help Sky with assignments.


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2 years ago

Kim's chains & their possible symbolism (Part 2/3)

No necklaces

Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 2/3)
Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 2/3)
Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 2/3)
Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 2/3)

We can take this at face value.

Kimhan unhinged Theerapanyakul.

In first 2 instances, Porchay is in kidnapped. And Kim himself is in action when he has Kinn & the bodyguards who could have rescued Chay for him. He not only risked his life, but also God forbid if he came out alive & Chay caught his lie.

These are the only cases where Kim is thinking about Chay as the boy he loves & not a source of information. Which is why he's acting based on emotions & not a well thought plan.

In the third picture he's visibly disturbed for someone who mostly comes across as stoic.

It also explains why an unexpressive person like Kim's first response is violence. If we look at what he did at the club, (4th pic) he need not have the been the person to hit first.

In conclusion, we see a glimpse of how fiery Kim actually is if not for that ice water if "rationality" he always dips himself in.

Part 1

Part 3

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1 week ago

I need a full version now 🥹

Yuuri Katsuki Once Believed Gold Was A Finish Line...

Yuuri Katsuki once believed gold was a finish line...

Yuuri thought moving to Russia would feel like the next chapter. Like skating into a warm-down routine after the final spin. Instead, it felt like standing on the edge of a frozen lake and realizing...he didn’t know how thick the ice was. St. Petersburg was beautiful. Beautiful and brutal. The cold clawed through the seams of his coat. Strangers stared. He missed conbini coffee. Missed vending machines. Missed understanding signs without squinting.

Viktor said he could teach him Russian. “Start with the important words,” Yuuri said. So Viktor taught him любовь, then здесь, then остаться. Love. Here. Stay. Yuuri didn’t say them out loud. He just nodded. Mila showed him how to haggle for apples at the market. Yakov yelled at him less than expected. The rink smelled like metal and ice—different than Detroit’s sterility, different than Hasetsu’s warmth. But it was a rink. He could work with that.

Viktor’s apartment had high ceilings and cold floors. Too many mirrors. Not enough ramen bowls. Yuuri unpacked slowly, like he wasn’t sure if he was staying or just if this was real life now. He forgot how to move with Viktor. He knew how to be his student. His competitor. His fantasy. Now he was brushing his teeth beside him, buying milk, folding socks. It felt more intimate than kissing. And when Viktor returned to the ice... Yuuri didn’t know how to watch him. As a coach? Or as a lover? Or maybe as the boy who once idolized him? He just watched. And felt like he was bleeding in reverse.

They trained at different times. Yuuri liked the silence. Viktor liked the music. Yuuri didn’t say he felt small next to Viktor’s effortless charisma or how much he missed being the only one Viktor skated for. They fought. Over nothing, at first: A forgotten lunch. A bad practice. A towel left on the floor. Then over something stupid Yuuri said, “Maybe you don’t need me here.” Viktor flinched. Didn’t answer.

Phichit called. Yuuri cried into his phone and Phichit said, “This isn't a 'lovers to enemies' trope. You just moved in together, it's a big change.” Then, they talked about Detroit and that time when attempted to make a pizza, almost blasting their apartment when they forgot about the oven. Now, they laughed about it.

The next week with Yakov's blessing, Yuuri started skating before sunrise. Alone. He built a routine from scratch. Raw. Stripped of flourish. Just breath and blades and fear. He didn’t show Viktor. Not yet. This was his. They apologized. In gestures. In silence. In holding hands under the table at dinner. “I want you here,” Viktor finally said. Yuuri answered, “And I want to stay.”

Yuuri learned how to curse in Russian from Yurio. He used it once when the toaster exploded. Viktor nearly fell off the couch laughing.

They started using Japanese at home. Viktor mispronounced everything with dramatic flair. But when he said okaeri, something knotted in Yuuri’s chest came loose. Yuuri finally showed Viktor the routine. No music. Just movement. Viktor watched, silent, glassy-eyed. When Yuuri finished, Viktor whispered, “That’s the most honest thing I’ve ever seen.” It didn’t get easier overnight. Some days Yuuri still felt like a guest. Some nights Viktor curled around him like he was afraid Yuuri might disappear. But there was laughter again. And practice. And tomorrows. Hasetsu was his family. Detroit was memory. St. Petersburg was still strange. But it was where his skates lived now. And his toothbrush. And Viktor. And if Viktor was here, then it was home.

Yuuri Katsuki once believed gold was a finish line.

Now he understood... there was no final pose. No standing ovation. This wasn’t the end. Because their love had no end. One night, curled up on the couch, Yuuri asked, “What now?” Viktor smiled. “Now?” He reached to take Yuuri's hand into his. “Next level.”


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2 years ago

Kim's chains & their possible symbolism (Part 3/3)

Necklaces of all types

Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 3/3)
Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 3/3)
Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 3/3)
Kim's Chains & Their Possible Symbolism (Part 3/3)

In the first pic, Kim is a celebrity keeping his distance from fans. Although he's now particularly drawn to one person more than he should 😉

In the first picture, he's fondly thinking if Chay which even clears his creative block, but he's in isolation. He's working. Maybe not on his hidden agenda. But he's still working on music. Thus he's channeling his emotions into music, his outlet, and not necessarily acting upon them. He's just transferring it from one cage to another.

He still has a chain on when he breaks Porchay's heart. This is interesting. Because this particular breakup in sandwiched between the 2 times Kim rescued Chay. Which makes his vague apology in this scene seem like : "I'm sorry (it's for the best) or I'm sorry (you'll not understand my greater cause)"

But it does show he's conflicted & hiding emotions.

The fourth picture is probably the thickest chain he's worn in the series. Understandably so because it's almost impossible to NOT melt in that situation 😭

How can someone stand without confessing their love for Porchay. When he's being an obedient student turning in homework. And serenading you at your door. In broad daylight. With the first love song he's ever written. For you.

I know you're Kimhan Theerapanyakul but still. HOW?! 😭✋🏼

PS Look out for the special part

Part 1

Part 2

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2 years ago

VegasPete as Macau's parents incorrect quotes

Macau : I'm home!!

Vegas (in his sexy English accent) : How was school? Are you doing well?

Pete (storming in while yelling in his southern dialect/accent) : B-?? AGAIN?! How do you expect to go to Harvard med school with these grades, huh?


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2 years ago

I think it was very smart on Tinn's part to give the garland to the other band during the competition, because not only did it help him keep up the façade of friendly-bantering relationship he has going on with Gun, but also helped in boosting Gun and his band's confidence (because of the audience vote). Also, the fact that other contestants would not blame him for "favoritism", since they had seen him interacting with the band before the competition.

Like, the boy knows that he is not that close with Gun to help him in any other way than the whole tsundere thing.

Also, how has Gun not noticed Tinn's crush??? LIKE BOY, he's a blushing mess around you, how have you not noticed???

I Think It Was Very Smart On Tinn's Part To Give The Garland To The Other Band During The Competition,
I Think It Was Very Smart On Tinn's Part To Give The Garland To The Other Band During The Competition,
I Think It Was Very Smart On Tinn's Part To Give The Garland To The Other Band During The Competition,
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