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I AM ABSOLUTELY LOSING IT OVER THE FUCKING SONG IN THE BACKGROUDN HOLY FUCK

Neil deGrasse Tyson is not impressed with all your sexism.

have you ever watched your peers win the scholarships you've also applied to (and get rejected in) and feel just... really worthless? especially if you put in a lot of effort. Sometimes it's discouraging to think there's always someone out there that's much smarter than you. You don't have to reply, I just felt like venting haha.

Good evening, anonymous! Thanks for the ask!

I’ve been in similar situations many times, and it’s Not A Great Feeling.  Although you asked about scholarship applications, I hope you don’t mind if I talk about application rejections more generally.

First off, some of my more recent rejection experiences include…

During my first wave of graduate school applications, I was rejected unanimously. It was extremely discouraging. (Contrast this with my second wave of graduate school applications a year later, wherein I was unanimously accepted and received several amazing financial offers.)

Because my subfield is financially-limited, there’s a lot of people applying for a very finite pool of money. Of course, my research group needs funding if it’s going to keep doing science, meaning rejection is an expected part of the process.

I’ve been rejected many times over by certain research-relevant summer schools that my colleagues have attended.

And so, with these experiences in mind, I’d like to provide some…

~Advice For When Your Application Gets Rejected~

Rejection in general can be extremely painful, disappointing, and discouraging. Then add the pressure of that rejection impacting your future? Cue heartbreak.

Here are several facts that help me maintain my spirits through repeated rejections. For instance, when it comes to the persons who evaluate applications, I keep in mind that…

They survey a TON of people. As a result, they end up with a larger number of qualified applicants than they have available spots. Being rejected doesn’t mean you weren’t qualified. I know plenty of hyper-qualified individuals who get rejected simply because of the luck of the draw.

They observe only a FRACTION of you. Applications are necessarily finite, so reviewers don’t get to evaluate the whole of you. Rejection of your application is not a rejection of you. You are so so SO much more than an application.

Furthermore,

An application rejected by certain reviewers might be accepted by others, and vice-versa. Consequently, if you get a rejection and someone else gets an acceptance that does NOT mean they’re better than you. An application can’t enable judgments of that complexity.

You are growing and changing every day: the pieces of you that go into an application can be improved upon or reworked for future applications. Rejection can inform you what areas you might try to focus on in the future. 

Finally, my most IMPORTANT piece of advice is to keep in mind that…

~even the strongest applicant will receive rejections~

There’s an element of luck whenever you apply for anything. That’s the nature of these systems and it’s not your fault.

Remember:

Success isn’t a matter of always succeeding, but persevering until you do.

Best wishes, my anonymous friend.

:^ ) 

I think you might be confused, OP is speaking about the link which is talking about the sex of the perpetrator, your image is of the sex of the victim. Your link never talks about the perpetrators of sexual violence, as they probably wanted a different page dedicated to it (which OP links).

It is actually quite disturbing as while theoretically we know that most sexual violence against women is perpetrated by men unto women, missing that stat limits our analysis if we are only looking out the outcome of a crime rather than a class perpetuating it.

As an example I'd also turn to a study I read on sexual assault/harassment in a lab workplace. One large survey only took the victim's sex, and the sex of the boss at the workplace, but not the perpetrator. Another survey of the same style did indicate the sex of the perpetrator. What was found from the latter survey was that while women were quite significantly victimized by men, the most common perpetrator for sexual violence against men was also men (in this case). It also found that vertical harassment was more common for female victims (i.e., by a person in higher authority) vs Lateral for male victims (i.e., by one's peers). Though of course, both can and did occur. It also shows another dynamic in that, it is likely that men were more likely to be elevated in status above women career wise and so can benefit both fiscally and socially from the power of said positions.

This analysis would not be there at all had the sex of perpetrator not been recorded.

The absolute insanity of RAINN’s stats on perpetrators of sexual violence never once mentioning sex even though they analyze age, ethnicity, relationship to the victim (of ambiguous sex, apparently), and the types of violence used….the largest anti-sexual violence organization in the USA simply avoiding the statistics of sex-based offending and victimization…they are literally ignoring the epidemic of male violence against women in order to ????? why?????

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Doodled some banner ideas in my bullet journal :)

I was scrolling through the notes after I posted something similar, and absolutely agree! Additionally whatever point is attempted to be made, if you overstate an issue you end up undercutting the actual problems at hand, as instead ppl want to focus on "larger problems" (whether these bigger problems are actually reflective of reality, it grabs attention more easily as it alarms the reader).

Approximately 130,000 - 260,000 Americans have been forced to flee their homes because of legislation criminalizing trans existence.

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US Internal Refugee Crisis: 130-260k Trans People Have Already Fled

A growing refugee crisis is occurring in the United States, and it is getting very little coverage. I highlight the growing migration crisis

That’s 8% of transgender Americans. An additional 43% of transgender Americans are seriously considering moving due to laws criminalizing our existence and healthcare.

“So many people are completely helpless to get out, even with all the bumps and roadblocks, the fact is I'm still one of the lucky ones.” Said Sheena, a trans woman who fled from from Florida.

“it's evident that the United States is in the throes of a swelling crisis of internally displaced political refugees. Over a million people, themselves contemplating relocation in the coming months, remain in a state of apprehensive vigilance, awaiting the potential signal that they too must bid farewell to their homes.”

Via Erin Reed, a professional policy tracker of transgender legislation. June 13, 2023.