I Guy In My Fyp Said Today

Women saying "no."

What do you think pisses males off the most?

“feminists would rather be wage slaves than care for their husband and children” so instead of being a wage slave i get to be a maid for a wage slave. wow thats awesome

I don't know what makes me sadder; the bimbofication to become famous, or the fact that it worked.

btw men know what they’re doing.

they know why you get upset when they call you a b*tch or a c*nt, men know they’re slurs, they know it’s degrading to be called them. that’s why they call women they don’t like b*tches, that’s also why they call other men b*tches.

they don’t need to be educated on why consent matters because they already know why rape is bad. men see rape for what it is, an abuse of power and an act of sadism against women. but they don’t care because they get off to it anyways.

they know why sexually harassing women on the street is inappropriate and wrong. they just don’t care because they feel like it gives them a power boost. they know it’s a tool to remind us that “hey i can do whatever i want to you and i’ll face zero consequences because i’m a man.”

they know why pretending to be women is offensive and objectifying. they just don’t care because they get off on violating our boundaries. they enjoy harassing lesbians and bi women into sleeping with them. they enjoy going into our spaces to demand we make them the most important people on the room.

it’s never something that we do. there’s nothing wrong with us. the reasons men go out of their way to make us miserable is because they want to.

one day misogyny will die out and, in turn, radfeminism and terfism will die out too and men and women will be best friends forever and never have to fight again

"is xyz rape, is abc rape" is just the wrong way to approach discussing rape as a feminist. what you're doing when you're concerned about absolute parameters is centering what we should consider allowable by men. why center that. it's not that "everything" is rape, it's that you need to completely shift your paradigm. you need to consider what it means for women to move in a world where their sexual violation is essentially a given and up for negotiation. what does discussing rape actually look like when completely, one hundred percent centering the experiencing and feelings of violated women and completely disregarding what would be helpful for men to think is "only so bad."

The internet is amazing for unlearning what the patriarchy has taught us to be automatic. It's even better to practice personal feminism.

Because we're online, we can take a step away and analyse our thoughts if we feel angry, disappointed or disgusted at another woman. We have the ability to pause and not hate the woman that sneers at feminism, but feel grief for her and understand why she rejects it.

When we catch ourselves lashing out at other groups of women, the internet gives us the opportunity to work through those negative emotions and remind ourselves that patriarchy pits us against each other on purpose.

It's an incredibly powerful tool to use. Where else can we finally learn how to personally dislike another woman, to hate her views or wish that she was better educated, but not blame her for countless generations of patriarchy and still genuinely hope that she grows, succeeds, lives well, is happy and, most of all, safe? Where else is the space that allows us to go through the negatives to come out the other side, even when it's hard, without harming another woman?

In this space, where feminists will most likely agree on 90% of issues, there's still anger and infighting and backbiting thanks to the misogynistic female socialisation that tells us that nobody hates women more than other women, and that misogyny carrying on to think that other women want to trip you up or are readying themselves to attack to tear you down.

Men aren't thinking about how best to free women. We have to do that ourselves. Do you honestly think we can even come close to dismantling even one small section of patriarchy if we haven't learned to actually stand shoulder-to-shoulder with other women?

If you can't support and uplift and care for other women even in the same space with the same general ideals as you, how do you think you're going to be able to support and uplift and care for the women that hate everything that feminism stands for and promotes everything that feminism stands against? How are you going to be patient and understanding enough to teach her? How are you going to avoid victim-blaming her if she ends up being hurt?

That's why the internet is so useful. We can learn to dislike other women and step away from other women for our own sanities if we need to, we can understand that we will never be able to be best friends with every other woman, we can criticise other women and hold other women to account for their actions, but with this curated space and time to think, not being face-to-face, we can start the process of genuinely caring for every single woman anyway - especially the ones that we dislike the most.

I'd argue that that is the most important activism that feminists can do right now, the one that has to happen first before patriarchy can actually be ripped apart the way that it needs to be.

We had icebreaker questions about who our personal heroes are and if I wouldn’t get kicked out and blacklisted from the career for saying it I would have said JKR.

Even if we ignore all the trans stuff - a woman who escaped an abusive relationship with a baby who then went on to write the most successful children’s fantasy series of all time, to the point where she became a billionaire but then lost that status because of her charitable contributions and actually paying UK taxes instead of tax evasion like most other rich people.

She then wrote (an incredibly successful in its own right) adult detective series under a pseudonym, set up several of her own charities for women and children like Volant Charitable Trust, Lumos and Beira’s Place and supported more, including rescuing hundreds of Afghans from the Taliban.

She’s anti- Netanyahu but in like a normal way, not supporting cultural boycott of Israel or anything that would hurt regular Israelis.

All of this makes her incredibly achieved and successful, and yet she still has morals and principles and hasn’t turned into a monster like many rich people do. She’s an incredible role model and hero.

𝔥𝔢𝔞𝔳𝔢𝔫 𝔥𝔦𝔡𝔢𝔰 𝔦𝔫 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔣𝔬𝔯𝔢𝔰𝔱 𝔰𝔲𝔫𝔟𝔢𝔞𝔪𝔰