Its Like They Keep Forgetting The Fact That Its Possible For Us To Get Pregnant. Like I Know This Is

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When I say that transmasculine people, including, obviously, binary trans men, don't hold power over women, there's always ONE fucker who's like "oh yeah ? But what if it's a whit, able-bodied perisex transhet man who's papers are all changed, who cispasses and is totally stealth AND is a manager ??? What then ???"

And I'm like, you CAN'T be in good faith rn. I'm not saying this particular case doesn't exist but be for real, it must be one in a fucking million. And even in this case, the dude is one outing away from having all his privileges taken away from him, which isn't the case for cis white men.

Stop nitpicking. Transmasculine people don't hold power over women. Period. If you want a punching bag, aim at the people who are truly after your ass.

i get really upset whenever my “friend” (will get into that at a later date) or family who im out to whos aware that im trans uses the wrong pronouns for me

i used to think i wasnt upset by she/her pronouns, actively thought that i might be comfortable enough with them that i would use them but not identify as a woman but, im not.

im not comfortable with them being used on me

even some feminine terms im not comfortable being used on me

its more like im comfortable conforming for others, something i need to unlearn since its the reason why i detransitioned back in 2022. to make others comfortable.

im actively aware that it gets some getting used to so i dont complain about it at all, especially since my mom makes an active effort to correct herself

but i feel like the “friend” should especially be aware to at least try to use the correct pronouns for me especially since we spoke about my ex and the reason we broke up was due to my transition THEN spoke about the heinous thing he did to me after our breakup and she was so angry, literally saying that he doesnt see me as a man

for whoever needs to hear this:

starting HRT doesn't have to be a huge momentous all-or-nothing decision. you can just try it like you would an antidepressant you've been informed of the risks of.

there won't be any immediate irreversible changes overnight. you can always stop, change your dose, change your delivery system, decide it's not the right time. you can even microdose if you want to.

you don't have to tell anyone. you don't have to announce it if you don't want to.

stop waiting for a perfect time in your life because it won't come.

stop waiting to reach a mythical level of certainty that never comes to anyone, for anything.

you've been thinking about it long enough. if you have the opportunity, just give it a shot. you're worth the courage it takes to make a change in your life.

Im not sure if i should transition or not. What helped you figure out what to do? Its honestly upsetting how back and forth my mind goes

I knew if I didn't at least try hrt, I would spend the rest of my life wondering and that's my biggest fear.

Also, people who don't need to transition don't usually spend so much time thinking about it. Just a thought.

waiting for the (late) bus to go to my driving lesson

I put on Twitter that a cute date idea for me (a cis woman with reproductive issues) and my boyfriend (a trans man) would be for us to get a hysterectomy together and someone replied:

I’m hoping that this is as “angry” as I’ll get with a comic, but given how the world is shaping up politically at the moment, I fear that might not be the case.

It’s been incredibly eye opening to witness the degree to which some people I know are willing to bury their heads in the sand in order to avoid the reality of the awful things that are happening around them.  Awful things that they were told were going to happen.

In America, people are being black bagged and shipped off to El Salvador without due process to be held indefinitely in prisons, with the current administration now making social media posts cruelly boasting that they’ll never return. 

Make no mistake, if people are being kidnapped by the government, given no due process, and are shipped to a foreign nation to be held in prison with no intention to give them any legal recourse, we need to call these prisons what they are:

They are death camps.

The United States of America is rounding up “undesirables” and sending them to death camps. 

There are people in this country that voted for this.  No matter how nice they otherwise seem or claim to be, these people are evil to the core. 

There are also people who didn’t vote for this, but do provide social validation and acceptance to those who did.

If you are someone who thinks you’re against fascism, but you also accept fascists in your life, you are a fascist. 

There can be no acceptance of intolerance.  In the comic, the person I’m lampooning is the “Fake Trans Ally”, but you can swap out “trans” for any other group of marginalized people.  Frankly, just call this person “The Fake Ally.”

If you’re someone reading this and feel attacked because I’m calling you a fake ally, it’s time to do some soul searching.  When the history books are written about this period of American history, are you going to be someone who was unambiguously against hatred, or were you someone that treated hate as acceptable? 

Were you someone that invited hatred into your home?

Were you someone that shared a meal with hatred?

Were you someone that allowed hatred a safe haven?

If you’re someone that does that, you yourself are hateful. 

When you accept hate, you do so at the expense of those who are the target of that hatred.

Be better, our lives depend on it.