Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.
It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.
Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.
Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.
Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!
Starting out:
1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.
2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.
3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”
4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.
5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.
6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.
7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.
8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.
9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.
10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)
11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.
12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.
13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.
14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.
15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.
16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.
17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.
18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.
19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.
20. Sext other men and show your husband.
21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.
22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.
23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”
24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p
25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.
26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”
27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.
28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.
28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)
29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.
30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.
31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.
32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.
33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.
34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.
35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.
36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.
37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.
38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.
39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.
40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”
41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!
42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.
43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.
44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.
45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.
46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.
47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.
48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.
49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.
50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.
51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.
52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.
53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.
***Other adventures:
54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.
55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.
56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.
57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.
58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.
59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.
60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.
61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.
62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.
62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.
63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.
64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!
65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.
66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.
67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.
68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.
***ADVANCED:
69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.
70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.
71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.
72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.
73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.
74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.
***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.
74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.
75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.
76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.
77. Spanking.
***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.
78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.
79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.
80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.
81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.
***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!
I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…
Aftercare
Aftercare 101
Aftercare For Dominants
Coping With Emotional Subdrop
Dom Drop
How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
Online Aftercare
sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
Subdrop and Aftercare
Subspace and Aftercare
Consent
Consent & BDSM
Guide to Consent
Doms, Daddies & Masters
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For
50 Rules for Daddies
100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
Alternative Names For “Daddy”
Alternative Domme Titles
Aspects Of Control
Asserting Ownership - Rules
Daddy Up!
Defining A Daddy Dom
Dominants Need Training Also
Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
Help For New Doms
How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
How To Be A Good Dominant
How to Find a Submissive
Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
Observations On Doms By A Submissive
So you want to be a Dom?
So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
The Dom Commandments
Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective
What does the title Daddy mean?
What is a Daddy Dom?
What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
What It Means To Be A Dominant
What Makes A Good Dominant
Littles, Subs & Slaves
6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
7 Common Types of Submissives
10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
26 Baby Girl Jobs
50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
A Bottom’s Responsibility
A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive
A Man Who Knows You…
A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
Acid Test For Subs
Ask A Million And One Questions
Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective
Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
Care and feeding of Daddies
Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
Feminist Submissive
Finding Your Dominant
Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.
How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
How To Find A Dom
How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
Novice Submissives
Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’
Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
Submissive Pride
Submissive Traits - Intelligence
Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
What is a Little?
When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.
Why I call him Daddy
Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance Relationships
10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Mental Health
BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers
Body image & BDSM
How to Get Over Feeling Sad
Is BDSM normal?
Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
Meditation And Mindfulness
On Cutting
Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
Tips for Recovering from Codependency
What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Relationships
10 Habits of Happy Couples
10 Top Communication Mistakes
10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”
BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
Communication Is Key
Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
Daddy Doms and their little girls
Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
Date Night In A Jar
DD/lg In Public
D/s and Domestication
Factors That Make A Relationship
Finding Love When You Least Expect It
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
How To Be Present In Your Relationships
How To Build A Healthy Relationship
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
Searching for a D/s partner?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
Stop Arguments Before They Start
The Rewards of a Submissive
Types Of Relationship Insecurity
Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
What Is Real Love?
When He Doesn’t Call
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Safety
Another life ruined because of the morality police
Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t
Limits in BDSM
What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
10 Steps To Self Care
10 Ways To Be Happy
10 Truths To Live By
Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
How to be Yourself
How To Deal With Your Enemies
How To Ignore Haters
How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Slut Shaming Explained
Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
Sex
50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
Basics of Breath Play
D/s or Kinky Sex?
Fetishes Explained
How To Make A Girl Squirt
How To Tell Your Son About Sex
Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
Sensual Biting
Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
Sex: Practical Details
Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
Squirting Educational Video
Squirting Notes
Toys
Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs
BDSM on a budget
Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)
Training
10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
Age Play: A Short Guide
BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
Glossary of BDSM Terms
Guide To Blood Play
Guide To Bruising
Guide To Talking Dirty
Guide To Wax Play
How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
How To Make A Comfort Box
Introduction To BDSM
Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting
Punishments in BDSM Relationships
Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
Some Thoughts On Rules
The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
The Need For Rules and Discipline
Topping from the bottom
With real love you don’t have to ask if it’s worth it. You don’t have to convince yourself to do what you know you should do. It’s not forced or an obligation. You do it because you want to without even a second thought.
You do whatever you have to in order to make it work. Anything and everything. Without double guessing or questioning. You just do it. Not many things are as powerful as that because you can achieve incredible things when you love in that way.
True love is sticking with someone through thick and thin. Good and bad. Small problems or massive issues. True love is not giving up, no matter how shitty life gets. That’s the whole fucking point. Love is not just some concept based on romantic ideas like holding hands at breakfast on a sunny Sunday morning at the little café down the road that serves those tasty little scones. That’s fantasy, not reality. Cute, but ultimately not the way to stay sane or make this thing work over the long term.
Love is saying, today was crap, this month was shit, fuck this year. But I love you and that’s all that matters. Kiss me and let’s kick this bitch called life’s ass together and turn it around.
Never forget, if it truly is love then it’s always worth it.
Copyright © Dirty Romantic - Tales of Love, Lust & Loss
C/W: Cheating with you (not on you)
God… you’re so fucking hot. Watching you touch yourself makes my balls churn more than any porn I’ve ever watched. Do you like that? Laying there and rubbing your perfect, pretty pussy while I stroke my thick, married cock. God, you little slut. You like it when I tell you I’m married, don’t you? I can’t believe you fucking convinced me to do this with you. ‘It’s not cheating if we don’t touch each other,’ you said. I don’t even care if you’re right or wrong. Just the sight of your pierced tits alone make my dick throb. God, I love them. Pierced tits make my cock so hard but my wife would never do that for me. Shit, every time your tits jiggle slightly, every time you moan, every time you look at my cock with your pretty eyes, the need to bury every inch of myself inside your cunt sends me to the edge. But that would be cheating, wouldn’t it?
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Fuck, fuck, fuck, just like that, baby. Mhm, fuck, YES, you suck my cock so much better than my bitch wife ever could. Maybe I should dump her and marry you inste—FUCK, wow, you love that, don’t you? You liked it when I talk about replacing her with you. God, you’re taking my cock so well. You were born to gag and choke on my cock like the perfect little slut you are. Do you like being a homewrecking fuckdoll? Do you like knowing that I think about you more than my wife these days? Ohhh fuckkk, fuck, that’s insane. My wife could never. She would never. You’re so much fucking better than her. Do you like it when I run my fingers through your hair, wedding ring still on? Of course you do, you nasty little whore. God, I can feel myself sliding down this slippery slope… but we’re not fucking so it’s not cheating, right?
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OH MY GOD. FUCK. FUCK. FUCK. TAKE IT. That’s right baby, just take my cock. Shit yes, you’re so much hotter in my wife’s wedding lingerie than she ever was. This is what I deserved on my wedding night. Your perfect, tight body, not her pathetic ass. God, your cunt’s so much hotter, so much better than I imagined. I’ve been thinking about this since the day you first touched yourself in front of me. And your pierced tits look so much better in her lingerie than hers ever did. You’re so, so, so much fucking hotter, sluttier and nastier than her. I’ll take money out of her savings account and buy you clothes and cars and a new fucking ring. It’s all yours if you take my jizz like a good little wife. Maybe I’ll even start the family she always wanted with you. God, I’m going to knock you up, sweetheart. Take it. Take your new husband’s cum. Take every fucking drop of my cheating cum, you homewrecker. FUCK!
Love this pic. Knowing exactly what these two beautiful women are up to.
So nice to meet @cakeforcouples. Let’s do it again sometime!
With real love you don’t have to ask if it’s worth it. You don’t have to convince yourself to do what you know you should do. It’s not forced or an obligation. You do it because you want to without even a second thought.
You do whatever you have to in order to make it work. Anything and everything. Without double guessing or questioning. You just do it. Not many things are as powerful as that because you can achieve incredible things when you love in that way.
True love is sticking with someone through thick and thin. Good and bad. Small problems or massive issues. True love is not giving up, no matter how shitty life gets. That’s the whole fucking point. Love is not just some concept based on romantic ideas like holding hands at breakfast on a sunny Sunday morning at the little café down the road that serves those tasty little scones. That’s fantasy, not reality. Cute, but ultimately not the way to stay sane or make this thing work over the long term.
Love is saying, today was crap, this month was shit, fuck this year. But I love you and that’s all that matters. Kiss me and let’s kick this bitch called life’s ass together and turn it around.
Never forget, if it truly is love then it’s always worth it.
Copyright © Dirty Romantic - Tales of Love, Lust & Loss
The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”. Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?
Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures. They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom. Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”. With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner. Is this really true, though? Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”? Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?
Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night. While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.
As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually. This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive. So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?
He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It
As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”. We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why? Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there. So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”. Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women. Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?
For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered. Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy. It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy. It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again. Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.
The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it
You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”. I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t. That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.
Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us. These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”. It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.
So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways. Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”. Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge. This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation. Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc. These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.
The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You
Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here… The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you. His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed. I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were. I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.
We’re women. We are strong and capable and we are smart. And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be. Where do we want to be? We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.
Happy Hotwifing!
-S
That’s what you are. Don’t deny it. You crave being filled with my hot cum. You crave feeling wave after wave of sperm enter your pussy. You crave being handled roughly. Used. Overpowered. Groped. Pounded. Your clothes torn to shreds before I cuff your hands to your legs. You sit there naked and exposed on my couch. Nowhere to go. A gag in your mouth to silence you. As I toy and tease your body. Today you are my creampie-slut. Mine to use and stuff with cum. Mine to slap, bruise and bully so that your pussy gets dripping and wet. Wet enough for me to mount and climb your poor little body. Imagine me laying fully on top of you in mating press. My fat cock rubbing against your slick pussy, before pushing the tip of my shaft slowly past your pussy-lips. Imagine being forced to lay there as I slam my rod deep inside of you. Hearing me grunt and groan as I use your pussy for my pleasure. Fucking you hard and fast without thinking about your pleasure at all. After all. You are my creampie slut. My cumdump. And my goal here is to fuck your pussy raw and deep and overflow you with cum. Pumping wave after wave of sperm deep inside your pussy.
And you’ll know when that will happen. You’ll see it in my face. You’ll hear my grunts and growls grow more feral. Where at first I was thrusting deep and slow, now I’m pressing my full body weight on top of you in mating press. One hand wrapped around your throat. The other holding you down as I thrust in and out your drenched pussy. You’ll then feel my fat cock throb and twitch deep inside your pussy. Mh balls twitch against you. Before a guttural roar escapes my lips and wave after wave of hot cum gets pumped inside your pussy. Dumping my heavy creampie all the way inside. Overflowing your pussy with my sperm, coating your cervix with my spunk. Before pulling out and shooting the last few splashes of cum all over your pussy(hair) and marking you in the process. Then. Then I’m taking a shower, leaving you cuffed on the couch with cum leaking out of you. Your pussy(hair) covered in sperm. Strongly smelling of wet and used cumdump. Leaving you a creampied little slut.
A man living in Houston Texas who is trying to explore his desires.
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