Alayna Danner  -  https://www.pixiv.net/en/users/17806282  -  https://twitter.com/windrune  -  https://www.facebook.com/alaynadanner 

To all the aphobes who say queerplatonic relationships aren’t real, who say we’re the ones who make friendships out to be less than, let me tell you something:

I love my friends, from the bottom of my heart, I love my friends, I’ve told them that, on multiple occasions

I’ve cuddled with friends, I’m a cuddly person, unless it’s a friend who isn’t big on touching, I’ll cuddle them and hug them, I like being close to people, it’s where I feel comfortable and my friends know that

I’ll sit in my friends laps, usually when there are no other seats available and we both want to sit, sometimes just because

I’ve shared beds with my friends, I really don’t get why this is awkward for some people, I heard people freak out over the idea of sharing a bed with anyone other than their romantic/sexual partner, you’re literally just sleeping next a person, why is it a big deal

Every present I get my friends is chosen with care, none of that last minute, didn’t even bother wrapping it crap, one of my friends and I actually have a tradition of handmade gifts, not that I don’t hand make gifts for my other friends, but we exclusively give handmade gifts to each others, it’s kinda our thing

I share deeply personal things about myself with my friends and they do the same, we are each others emotional anchors

I recently had a friend cut me out of their life, no reason given, no good-bye said, we’ve known each other over a decade and I had to find out they left the country from a family member, it broke my heart, I’m still in pain over it, I really loved them and it hurts deep to know they didn’t feel the same

My friends mean the world to me, they are some of the most important people in my life and I feel so lucky to have each of them, but:

I don’t plan on permanently living with any of them

I don’t plan on having a joint bank account with any of them

I don’t plan on raising kids with them

I don’t plan on making all my all my life plans with them

If things change, if I wanted this with one of my friends, I wouldn’t consider it a friendship anymore, it’s something different

Not more than, not less than, different

I love my friends with my whole heart, wanting a life partner doesn’t change that

Reasons why I need the A in LGBTIAQ to stand for Asexual, not Ally

Because my mother told me that all I needed to do was get drunk and lie back and let my husband have his fun. Because if I was drunk, I’d be more relaxed and it’d be over sooner

Because my sister told me that I was trapping my husband in an abusive marriage, and that one day he was going to leave me

Because both of them looked at me in disgust

Because my asexuality is considered to be as great a crime against my husband as a woman who has affairs and cheats on her husband

Because my cousin didn’t even try to understand, and just kept asking ‘but what about in five years? how will you feel then?’

Because I was so afraid of my body and so afraid of sex that I didn’t seek medical help for a legitimate question for over a year for fear of being labelled a deviant or something broken

Because I still ask myself at least once every day if my husband wouldn’t be better off without me

Because I still ask myself at least once every day if I’m broken

Because I still tell myself at least once every day that I’m pathetic and useless and an abnormality

Because I love my husband with every fiber of my being, but everywhere I turn I’m told I really don’t, because love = sex

I need A to stand for Asexual because nobody ever talked to me about asexuality even when I was an outpatient at the women’s hospital for 18 months, and everyone told me desire would come in time

I need A to stand for Asexual because we are literally invisible, and so unimportant that people assume we don’t even need representation, because everyone assumes our lives must be bland and unimportant and lacking in challenges or bigotry

For every asexual that wants a relationship, for every asexual that does not want a relationship, for every asexual who has not yet come to terms with their identity, for every asexual who was told we were abnormalities, for every asexual who was told we just weren’t doing sex right, that we needed a good fucking, that we needed to be drunk, that we needed to relax, that we needed to be raped

We need representation, and we need visibility

That is why the A needs to stand for Asexual, and never for Ally

Markiplier makes ___ is peak saioumota energy, don’t @ me

This was funnier in my head

You can see the exact moment where my wrist got tired

Psss pssss psss meet me up in the ace tent every Friday night for frog trivia

Queen

me, an aro/ace: what the fuck is romantic attraction like what the hell crushes just seem like friends but Worse

also me, an oriented aro/ace: hhhhhhh pretty girl i want to Hug

are you old or are you old

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